Insecurity is a bitch!!!!

Hey guys,

I got a problem, I been real insecure lately and i know it's fuckin up my relationship but i just dont know what to do about it im trying to use the law of attraction but it seems everything that pops in my mind is fucked up. Its hard i think i need couseling or something because i just cant get over it. Things arent going the greatest and im trying to turn things around but dont know how.

I know im not the first or last person to bring this subject up but i really need some advice from somebody i dont have a strong support system and got nowhere else to go.

Just venting and trying to get this off me so i can move forward.

rightb4yuRI's;445879 said:

Hey guys,

I got a problem, I been real insecure lately and i know it's fuckin up my relationship but i just dont know what to do about it im trying to use the law of attraction but it seems everything that pops in my mind is fucked up. Its hard i think i need couseling or something because i just cant get over it. Things arent going the greatest and im trying to turn things around but dont know how.

I know im not the first or last person to bring this subject up but i really need some advice from somebody i dont have a strong support system and got nowhere else to go.

Just venting and trying to get this off me so i can move forward.

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On Seinfeld, George Costanza has the theory to do the opposite of all his instincts, it works so well for him that he makes it his religion.

I used to be like you describe I think, and it's pretty hard, I'd offer the following advice: Ignore certain thoughts, just say less. For example-you may have thoughts to ask a question where you are fishing for reassurance-don't, it makes you look weak and unattractive. Be patient-it is likely you are impatient and mixing that with insecurity can be deadly to a relationship. So try some new tactics for a week-exercise some patience, which means don't be looking for changes for a week. And if she says no to something, like you asking for a date or something, don't act disappointed-act like it doesn't matter so much-either way, with or without her-that you'll have fun.

And do act FUN, girls don't like guys that are morbid, and full of emotions-that's their thing, at least at certain times of the month
Act carefree and just be playful with her-like only THIS moment matters. If you do things like this, I think you'll get more moments and better ones.

And don't be so down on yourself-you can change anything.

And Penis Enlargement is thanks to guys like DLD, so if he is your god, I agree with your signature statement But give credit where it's due.

Thanks for the advice i will try out all this you out oh and much gratitude to DLD and everybody who came up with this wonderful thing called Penis Enlargement i meant no disrespect to anyone but i believe GOD created us all so thats where im coming from with the sig...

Life is a funny place to live.
It's also damn complicated at times.
One thing you don't mention is just, exactly, what you are feeling insecure about.
Maybe it's more than one thing.

I've found that the better you can define your fears the better you can overcome them.
Take things one problem at a time, celebrate each single solution.
The more you can participate in your own healing and growing process the more we here at MOS can help you along your way.

So let us know just what is on, and in, your mind and we'll all get closer to the best answer.

Alright heres my list of shit im insecure about:

Well i just got fired friday from my job so i feel like shit about that. I got the whole black man without a huge dick complex (thats why im here). I still live with my parents, and my lifes not moving as fast or in the right direction fast enough and im getting real impatient.

Im trying hard to do right and get something going for myself but things like losing my job and being broke is pissing me off .i just wish i was done with school already so i can get a decent job that would solve some of the problems and im Penis Enlargementing to solve the other piece. Im just getting real impatient that things take so long i know my future will be good its just the road there is sucking.

I know im rambling feel free to bitch slap me back to reality...

As I've posted many times before; the difference between despair and a new beginning is just a decision away.
HOW you choose to look at your present situation is just that.
Simply a matter of perception and what you want your future to be.

HOW you choose to approach the rest of your life is just that: Your decision. You can choose to be defeated, or you can choose to start, right now, to reshape your life in the manner you dictate.

Believe me, everyone has their own story to tell.
Everyone has triumphs and tragedies.
And the only thing we truly own in life is our decisions.

Do you choose to overcome your situation?
Or do you choose to let the situation overcome you?

Every "ending" is an opening for a new beginning.

Success, in whatever form you choose it to be, is yours provided you are willing the expend the energy to ATTAIN it.
Failure is simply a matter of letting circumstance choose for you.

Make your choice, take your stance, become your dreams.
And let nothing stand in your way.

And when it ain't easy, ask yourself; is it right?
And when it's right ask yourself, was it easy?

Often, it'll turn out to be easier and "righter" than you woulda ever imagined...in the end.
Never lose sight of the end you have promised yourself, no matter how goddam hard circumstance tries to bust you down.

Here on MOS you've made a damn good start at becoming who, and what, you envision yourself becoming.
Keep up the good fight.

And good luck on all your endeavours.

@Max

Good stuff.

(HOLY SHIT!)

Heh, thanks. I try.

Crazy Doc;445920 said:

@Max

Good stuff.

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I'd like to contribute with 2 simple sentences:

"Action cures fear"

and

"The night is always the coldest before the dawn"

I hope these make sense to you. To me they have been very helpful in managing to face life's challenges in a more positive way, and in keeping the faith in myself, my abilities, my strengths, and in just keep going at it, because I always keep the hope that tomorrow will be my "dawn".

You are a human being just like every other human being, you were born with the same abilities as every one else. All you need to do is believe in yourself and start bringing out the "tiger" in you to go out there and be the lord and master of your own world.

Also, remember that the changes around us come from within. If you want to become something different, don't wait until everything else around you is perfect for you to attain that goal. Start doing something yourself. You will then realize that life has a funny way to compensate us.
Start being the man you want to be RIGHT NOW. The sooner you work on yourself to become who you are, "oddly" enough, the more you will find things around you changing to meet your desires and aspirations. Trust me, it is not just a coincidence.

It is not going to happen overnight, nor it will be easy. But that's the same for every body and, if some guys can do it, than SO CAN YOU!

You CAN DO IT if you really make that decision. So don't let anything or anybody stand in your way. Always respect others (do unto them...), but never, ever, EVER, let anybody keep you down and make you doubt your potencial.

You already have what it takes to succeed. All you have to do it put it to use... starting NOW!