How to win her back?

Hello dear brothers,

I have a huge problem that affects too much in my life. I will try to be as presis as possible and not make it too long.

So i started dating a girl which i did not care so much about in the beginning, started dating at februar. 2016. She seemed that she liked me alot. I was good enough for her eventhough sex was not perfect. Everything went great and i had her easy until April where she kinda cried and told me that nobody cares about her and wanted me to care more about her. I did exactly on what she said and started to care about her, even asked her to be my girlfriend because i got feelings for her. But then after i showed her how i care about her she started to turn off from me... And thing started to flip around quickly as i wanted to be with her and she does not like me that much anymore, even though sex developed dramaticly much. And she told me that i was best in sex and i know she mean it because of the way she loves it and react to it. I even make her cum more than once everytime we have sex. From April on our relationship became bad and told me that she dont like me anymore and she moved on, then she missed me and wanted me back. this process happend about 10 times until June where she found another guy she felt for. She told me that she likes him very much and dont want to be with me anymore. The only thing that guy is better than me is that he is almost done with his edcation and i have long time to finish mine.

At this time i understood that i did a huge mistake and she gave me too many chances to change but i didnot change. I assume that she did not like me because i sounded too needy and no confidence at all, i was too clingy , i did not have goals in life, i was dying to get her back. then i started to become better and show her that i am not this needy person anymore and it seemed to be working, and we talked on phone. She told me things about him that she likes him but he was so bad at sex and she is so fraustrated about it, she also mentioned how she misses our sex. i was like woow i got her back, especially when we met at 1 AM few days ago. i thought she wanted me back and have sex but i was wrong, i fucked up the chance and without noticing i looked pretty needy to her agan... idk why i did the same mistake.... she told me she dont like me gain and i should not contact her again.

i gave her break like 3 days then started talking to her again, in a better way and apologized for last time cos i pressed her to have sex with me. she kind of listened to me and accepted long calls from me and showed a bit of interest again..... i know that the person she is with is not enough for because of his lacked sex game. idk what i should do now anyone got any advice for me? i developed my confidence very much especially after starting pe again these days. i really want her back ... What you all think about my situation? Where do i stand? What should i do..?

Please help...Dld...

Best regards, Gotohell

Edit: Penis size = Fat 7 incher

Well she just likes to have the things she cant. His pipe game is probably strong but keeps her leash short as it should be. Education is just memorization too doe, so just hit then books nihhhhugguhg

templnite made a good assessment of her and I'm certain, (deep down inside yourself) you know what you need to do. Focus your energy on yourself, your growth, your education, your goals...women are attracted to these strengths that we, as men, innately have. Never, and I mean this, N-E-V-E-R allow a woman to sway you from your goals, never let a woman have that power...she will quickly lose ALL respect for you and then the relationship is doomed.

gotohell;700067 said:

Please help...Dld...

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I am going to tell you what you need to hear, not what you want and this is tough medicine to swallow. I understand I have your life in my hands with the advice I give and this is something I take very seriously.

This relationship is the definition of codependence. This girl is turning tables on you and you are allowing that. She has a deep desire to be abused mentally or physically and this is why she wanted you to treat her better, so she could hate you more. It is a sick cycle and I was in the same situation. As much as I loved Jen and as much as I depended on her I had to let her go because we did not have a good relationship, the relationship was based on lies, codependence and her deep seated need to be abused (physically). When I met her she told me she was with 2 other men and they were both long term healthy relationships....NOT! Over the first year we were together I found out that 2 men turned into 150! I forgave this, out of desperation, and continued down the spiral of destruction. She soon started to call me Daddy and expected me to reprimand her or punish her. I was not the dude that was going to do that. I made the ultimate sacrifice when she made me choose between the Brotherhood and Her...My choice was the Brotherhood.

This is not easy! This will bring every stage of grief but if you can make it through this and come to the point of acceptance things will change for you. I choose to grieve for 4 years, which were 4 wasted years. You have to give up to let go, you have to let go to move on. Somethings THE LORD puts people in our lives to push us towards the real mate. Respect yourself, learn to live alone and love yourself and from there the right relationship will happen.

We are here for you but we expect change! We expect this because we care for you. Now is the time to improve yourself for you and only you. You will learn the fine nuances of being a disciplined, self-confident man. This may start with gaining size but ultimately the message is gaining wisdom. I will pray for you and I hope you can get yourself out of this as gracefully as possible!

Much Love My Brother!

Woow thanks for the answers my brothers that really helped.

Dld... The girl told me that she has not gotten any orgasm from that dude, which i give her at least 1-3 each time we had sex lol... I had contact with her on the past few days where i started to date another girl, and i told her about that, she even saw us together, and told me that she regret that she left me for that man, and she wants me back. I still love her like mad, but also recovered some from my broken heart, thats why i decided to either teach her a lesson or whatever will happen. I told her that i can only be friend with her not more and i love the other woman i am with now, which she is jealous from. i felt how sad she became. especially after 1-2 weeks her man is going back to his studies which is in another city so she will be alone. i decided to do as i said and not have contact with her for a period of time then i will see if i can give her another shoot or not... Also the good thing is that she is changed very much these past few weeks, she became much better person. I noticed that very much. Thats why i wanted to have another chance with her, but this time, i will never show so much interest for her, never anymore! i will make her run after me and will not be the good guy that she did not deserve, and will not be loyal for her until i test her for a long time and see if she really changed as she said or not!

This girl is playing games. Typical women games, but still games. They say "show me you care about me", but then if you do they become LESS attracted to you because they feel you are easy to control. Women do not love easy to control men. They love confident men who value themselves ABOVE the women they are with. They love men who can get lots of women. They will complain about these strong confident men and SAY they want a nice guy. But that is not true. Inside they love the strong confident man who acts as if he doesn't need a woman. These are natural tendencies in women, and there are sound survival and evolutionary reasosn for it. But the modern feminist movement has exacerbated these tendencies. She may also have been abused and is subconsciously looking to recreate the abuse, just as DLD said. Girls like this are NOT WORTH THE TROUBLE! Trust me, I've learned the hard way!
She is not likely to change. Proceed with caution and keep your emotions guarded with her. Use your HEAD! And by all means DON'T MAKE A BABY with her! That will mess up your life more than anything else you could do. Be careful my friend.

ahhhh...The Fickle Female She's in your head and running her game, go ahead and play but remember that a leopard doesn't change her spots

Meanwhile Chad all in her guts xD

Gotohell, Did we help you or did you just go to hell?

Big Schwanz Acht;701026 said:

ahhhh...The Fickle Female She's in your head and running her game, go ahead and play but remember that a leopard doesn't change her spots

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true..

doublelongdaddy;701033 said:

Gotohell, Did we help you or did you just go to hell?

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that's effin' funny

FireDragonLeo;701025 said:

This girl is playing games. Typical women games, but still games. They say "show me you care about me", but then if you do they become LESS attracted to you because they feel you are easy to control. Women do not love easy to control men. They love confident men who value themselves ABOVE the women they are with. They love men who can get lots of women. They will complain about these strong confident men and SAY they want a nice guy. But that is not true. Inside they love the strong confident man who acts as if he doesn't need a woman. These are natural tendencies in women, and there are sound survival and evolutionary reasosn for it. But the modern feminist movement has exacerbated these tendencies. She may also have been abused and is subconsciously looking to recreate the abuse, just as DLD said. Girls like this are NOT WORTH THE TROUBLE! Trust me, I've learned the hard way!
She is not likely to change. Proceed with caution and keep your emotions guarded with her. Use your HEAD! And by all means DON'T MAKE A BABY with her! That will mess up your life more than anything else you could do. Be careful my friend.

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Man, I guess i will have to find a better woman than her. Lets see what she will do after her man goes back to his city in 10 days. Even tho he did never give her an orgasm lol...

Big Schwanz Acht;701026 said:

ahhhh...The Fickle Female She's in your head and running her game, go ahead and play but remember that a leopard doesn't change her spots

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Haha yea a risky game, but i will have to play it smart. All i need now is ''Discipline'' ^_^

doublelongdaddy;701033 said:

Gotohell, Did we help you or did you just go to hell?

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All my life, I never got so much help except in this wonderful forum. At least i have brothers thats supporting me. I dont go to hell because i make hell, and i will throw her in it soon :cool:

Living well is the best revenge...put her on 'ignore' and move-on...now! Think about this, if you "won her back', what have you actually won? This girl will continue to behave in this way and eventually make you crazy. Now let's say she turns a new leaf and realizes what she lost in you...wouldn't you always have that gnawing-feeling inside that she's done it once/she'll do it again? Not any way for you to have to live.
Work on yourself, improve yourself, educate yourself, make yourself the best man you can be...trust me, the women will feel your power and flock to you

gotohell;701122 said:

Man, I guess i will have to find a better woman than her. Lets see what she will do after her man goes back to his city in 10 days. Even tho he did never give her an orgasm lol...

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Implies she isn't just lying and Chad was/will be all in her guts xD

templnite;701134 said:

Implies she isn't just lying and Chad was/will be all in her guts xD

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Why would she lie? She allways mentioned that he was good exept how upset she is in his skills in bed. She allways mentioned that hes selfish and dont last more than a min or so. Also I could tell him everything she told me so he finds out that she cheated on his ass.

Big Schwanz Acht;701130 said:

Living well is the best revenge...put her on 'ignore' and move-on...now! Think about this, if you "won her back', what have you actually won? This girl will continue to behave in this way and eventually make you crazy. Now let's say she turns a new leaf and realizes what she lost in you...wouldn't you always have that gnawing-feeling inside that she's done it once/she'll do it again? Not any way for you to have to live.
Work on yourself, improve yourself, educate yourself, make yourself the best man you can be...trust me, the women will feel your power and flock to you

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I should bang her at least a couple of times. I must have the power back. And i think the best way to do so is to care less as much as possible...

gotohell;701136 said:

I should bang her at least a couple of times. I must have the power back. And i think the best way to do so is to care less as much as possible...

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No matter how much power it feels like you'll get you'll still never be a chad. Its best to be a reptilian like temps so that you aren't bothered with chads and staceys

two rules:
he who cares the least wins
he who speaks 1st loses