How to talk to women.

I always have problems approaching and talking to women. What are some of the ways you approach women, what do you talk about, what's your conversation starter? Please be specific, seriously I see some guys just walk up to girls and talk to them forever! I always wonder how they do it and wtf they are talking about.

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This Opening Line Works Every Time

by 014

Are you someone who’s usually at a "loss for words" or doesn’t know what to say to an attractive girl in a social scene, club, bar, etc. You probably use these approaches...

"Can I buy you a drink?"

"Would you like to dance?"

99% of the time what do girls say to this? The answer is "NO." The reason is:

1) They’re not "open-ended" questions, which means they can only be answered by yes and NO. They hear those things a 1000 times a night.

2) Girls like to be mentally stimulated. "Can I buy you a drink?" is BORING & DULL.

I have a great "opener" for you. It doesn’t matter how beautiful the girl is because saying this shows you’re different, have confidence, and that you’re upbeat. Find the girl you like, look her in the eyes and say slowly and softly:

"I BET you have a nice smile..."

Right after you say that, YOU smile and wait for her reaction. It’s a universal law that when someone smiles at you, you naturally smile yourself. When you say this "opener" any normal/clinically sane girl will either:

a) Crack a BIG smile
b) Smile & Blush
c) Smile and say to you..."Thank You."

Once she does one of those you say, "Ah! See? I knew it." That leaves you an open door to start a conversation.

If she ignores you or gives you a blank stare, guess what? She’s a bitch.

If that happens (slim chance) say "I guess not" and walk away. She just did you a big favor and saved you time. Remember you want a girl who is SWEET & FUN not a Nazi.

I’ve had tremendous success with this. Good Luck!

That's some good info DLD.

Its too hard for me to resist, How awful would it be to say the "nice smile" line & the girl has horrible teeth. You would be SO lost after she cracks a smile. Make shore you get a glance at her choppers before you say that.

Girth Hammer;416283 said:

That's some good info DLD.

Its too hard for me to resist, How awful would it be to say the "nice smile" line & the girl has horrible teeth. You would be SO lost after she cracks a smile. Make shore you get a glance at her choppers before you say that.

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Very simple but extremely effective. Just hope you don't catch a cutey with summer teeth. Some are there, some ain't.

Girth Hammer;416283 said:

That's some good info DLD.

Its too hard for me to resist, How awful would it be to say the "nice smile" line & the girl has horrible teeth. You would be SO lost after she cracks a smile. Make shore you get a glance at her choppers before you say that.

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haha that would be terrible and has happened to me but without asking the smile line.

I think this is a great intermediate line but for shy guys i would suggest getting them selves in situations or jobs where girls have to talk to them, like fitness or receptionists jobs.. even better get them to answer a fake questionnaire.

But i think in honesty this opener as good as it is, wont give a rookie much help since there is a conversation and mood swings to be counted.

He is going to be overwhelmed by a woman just because they are really good and quick talkers, and he can easily shut down.
Really the best thing is getting somewhere, like a readers circle or sports activities where dynamics of a woman's behavior can be studied!
DLD is looking the woman dynamics through his world, and he is not shy, he certainly has no small white boy complex, so he is giving advice to somebody who is like him...

I think DLD just needs to steer a convo to occupation and the rest is....

Alex78;416338 said:

I think this is a great intermediate line but for shy guys i would suggest getting them selves in situations or jobs where girls have to talk to them, like fitness or receptionists jobs.. even better get them to answer a fake questionnaire.

But i think in honesty this opener as good as it is, wont give a rookie much help since there is a conversation and mood swings to be counted.

He is going to be overwhelmed by a woman just because they are really good and quick talkers, and he can easily shut down.
Really the best thing is getting somewhere, like a readers circle or sports activities where dynamics of a woman's behavior can be studied!
DLD is looking the woman dynamics through his world, and he is not shy, he certainly has no small white boy complex, so he is giving advice to somebody who is like him...

I think DLD just needs to steer a convo to occupation and the rest is....

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I did not write any of this, it was taken from the forum I posted in my first post in this thread. I have no clue how to talk with women.

doublelongdaddy;416373 said:

I did not write any of this, it was taken from the forum I posted in my first post in this thread. I have no clue how to talk with women.

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i find it so easy to talk to women and making them laugh, but finances are my troubles, i just cannot start up anything...

Alex78;416393 said:

i find it so easy to talk to women and making them laugh, but finances are my troubles, i just cannot start up anything...

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I guess money is the deal breaker with many women, you can be sweet, kind and humble but without cash to back it up many girls will pass on you.

doublelongdaddy;416402 said:

I guess money is the deal breaker with many women, you can be sweet, kind and humble but without cash to back it up many girls will pass on you.

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Well not to be sarcastic about it, you are right on the money for the money issue.

Regarding sweet nice and humble, i have never seen a chick be interested in this kind of approach, i always make eye contact try to evoke erotic topics and moods, it takes 10 minutes and im already really close to her...

But yeah, they always say money is not important, but given the chance will take a guy with money and no skill with women, over a guy who has game and has some issues even tho he is trying hard to go up.

These kind of stories are always in the movies, where the women are supportive of their men who are having a bad year.

And penis size is really not that important, yes a really small dick is annoying but a normal size penis will never be replaced over a gigantic cock just because the guy is well hung...
They will cheat their hard working husbands with bad boy if the husband is not at home or too tired to perform.

DLD size cocks are rare like NLP flying over my building every day, so its easy to say that all this cheating around is not going on because of small penises but has to do with lack of endurance,romance or just plain boredom.

Strike that'' DLD size cocks are rare like UFO's flying over my building every day, so its easy to say that all this cheating around is not going on because of small penises but has to do with lack of endurance,romance or just plain boredom.''

Alex78;416416 said:

Strike that'' DLD size cocks are rare like UFO's flying over my building every day, so its easy to say that all this cheating around is not going on because of small penises but has to do with lack of endurance,romance or just plain boredom.''

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Most women would most likely pass on my dick...too big and bumpy

doublelongdaddy;416456 said:

Most women would most likely pass on my dick...too big and bumpy

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Oh i think after the first gasps and ouuh and ahh its so big there would be some admiration and what if...

I think the best thing i heard was when some girl was saying that to Shane Diesel and he replied just suck the head...he did not tell her go all the way...after that she was trying to go...

**You put your quarters in the slot, you press the button, and the bells ring**

Alex78 has some good advice. Get yourself into social settings where you are forced to interact with women which will give you some situational confidence, and at least get you past the first step. Really it's about the value that you bring to her world. You have to be interesting, be fun, and make her reality exciting and dynamic. What exciting reality can you create for her and how good are you able to make her feel in that moment? If you don't know the answer to this then I wouldn't bother approaching. Women respond to leadership, decisiveness, excitement, authenticity, and dominance. If you can convey these qualities to a woman, it doesn't matter if you work at Taco Bell and drive a Pinto, you will have a strong chance of pulling her. If you are too in your head, worrying about what to say, what to do, what she's going to think, if she's going to laugh at you then I can assure you that you are not making her feel all that exciting in the interaction. Be present, get out of your head and into the moment. Have fun, because that's what she wants to do. If you are an interesting guy then you'll have plenty to talk about, if not....get interesting. Think about this. How many guys do you think approach fine women, how many times are they approached with the same tired opener, "Can I buy you a drink?" Be different and approach as an interesting confident guy, a guy who doesn't give a shit whether she rejects you or not because you know that you are a person of value, and you have something to offer. Have real confidence, core confidence. The kind that doesn't waiver, the kind that holds it's ground no matter job, money, looks, etc. Walk up weak, scared, and worried about what she or everyone else is going to think then you'll end up creating a nervous, weird and "creepy" reality for her. Your reality, your "frame" ultimately determines her response. Something to remember-no one on this earth is like you- you are BORN authentic. Pretty crazy right. So what do you say? Anything you want, just have fun with it. One more thing...... never buy a girl a drink. What has she done to earn it? Really. I don't mean that in a sexual way either. I mean you just met this girl, why do you need to spend money on her? You don't know if she's quality or not and you are already spending your hard earned cash. You have more to offer-be interesting and have fun with it. You would't walk up to a guy at the gym and say "Can I buy you a powerbar", cause you want to know what his training routine is. You'd just go up and ask him, no big deal. Same thing.

Cobra, I have 2 openings I use on all women, rather I interested in them, being introduced to them by friends, or I just feel like talking to complete strangers. These are extremely simple:

1. Greetings, I just wanted to let you know that I saw you from across the club and you seemed like you could have a really good vibe to yourself. My name is James, what is yours?

This Second example is based off the fact that I collect Watches and male Jewelry, so this opening is very easy for me to open with if the woman has either watch, necklace, rings, or (all 99% of women are wearing this last one) Earrings.

2. Hey, I just wanted to let you know that your necklace looks fantastic. I really like the Jade color on it (Or whatever detail it might have).

HER: Thanks!

YOU: Your welcome! My name is James, what is yours?

HER: Beth

You: well Beth, what brings you to this club? I don't see you here with anyone.

Her: Oh I'm here with some friends, or they will say I am waiting for some friends.

You: That's cool. So you having fun?

Her: Yes (Doesn't really matter what she says at this point)

You: So what else do you do for fun?

At this point I listen to what she says and determine rather or not I want to continue this conversation. If the girl goes on a long list of things that she does, she is a keeper for that night. If she gives me a few vague things, I'm gone.

If, assuming you are at a club, you get a good conversation going, ask "Hey while you wait for you friends, would you like to dance?"

If she says no, hey at least you got some conversation experience.

If you are a little shy, Bring some friends! I'd suggest bringing another guy to show you the ropes, and 3 girls that you are friends with, and yes I personally have another guy and 3 girls I work with while I do this.

Remember, in situations like this their is no such thing as failure as long as you learn something and gain some experience.