How to deal with regret?

mano22

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Right now I am in a relationship with someone which is going great although in the past I have not really had any relationships or been a player and I really feel like I need to go through that phase.

Fuck I am in my 30's!

Shall I see other women and see my gf?
I'm not sure if I can.

If I think about it I really regret my past and not having more experiences with women.
 
generally
past - done
future - to be done and formed in the now.
no matter how old you are.

accept. let it go. move forward.
What do you want? Do it! live with the consequences!
 
Do you think thewoman your with right now should be your bride? In case no. Then go and screw around. Under all circumstances you have to do the right thing. If you do it to be nice to her. And because your afraid your doing everybody a bad favor.

This isnt mario. You only got 1 life. Live it!

If you really love her. Then keep her. But en again you wouldnt write here if you did...
 
We are given two gifts that we rarely use for reasons of subconscious guilt an self suffering, the two gift are
1. The Ability to Remember and Create
2. The ability to forget an forgive

In either case recreate responsibly!
It is up to you how you feel about something, no one else. SO if you want to forget the past, you can, if you want to get something new, shiny and just right four you then I would say Remember a re-creation of what you really want and it will come, you only need to believe.
 
Never regret your past. Never.
It is done, you can never "go back" and fix what you believe to be mistakes.
The past is immutable, irretrievable and unchanging.
All you can do is learn from it and make decisions that effect your future.

Never, ever regret anything which you cannot change.
It's a losing game; any and every moment you use focusing on the past you lose from focusing on your future.

The past: you've already been there, never to return. End of story.

The future: where ya wanna go?
How ya wanna get there?
Whatcha gonna do when you arrive?
Who ya wanna bring withya?
What do you plan on learning while there.

And on...
and on...
and on...

The past is like a check already cashed.
The future is a bank account, wide open, waiting for your contributions.
Make 'em count.
 
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mano22;467711 said:
Thank you everyone.
You all make a lot of sense in what you say :)

and now the cents will make you longer, thicker and much wealthier:)
 
Depending on what the regret is, how severe it has affected you deeply is really how quickly you can move on. Regret can go side by side with guilt which is a killer emotion that can literally swamp someone under! If its a regret that isnt so deep then it can be dealt with much easier i.e look forward and be positive, happy to be alive and grateful for things etc. If its more severe however such as regretting not going back inside the house and checking the room where your mate was burnt alive, well that is hard to live with! I knew someone who still to this day over 10 years no lives with regret and guilt of not going into the cold waters to do more for his friend who drowned, albeit it was not his fault and he was not a coward, he blames himself and now has a fear of water. Its easy to say do this, think like that etc etc its not so black and white at all. Meditation helps allot, if you have a faith or core belief system then use it to help you.

In the end we can recover from anything but sometimes the hills can become mountains, its being prepared as best you can like a hiker would going across the mountains otherwise when a blizzard comes at altitude your going to fight for more then you ever did think possible such as reputation, integrity, emotional stability etc etc.
 
I would also feel a lot of stress lifted I feel if I had a really good income. At the moment its all over the place. I need to focus on it to get it at a good level
 
I just want more time to do other stuff from P.E. to self development. I think a good income would do the trick
 
mano22;467790 said:
I just want more time to do other stuff from P.E. to self development. I think a good income would do the trick

The Good income comes when you output the self development:) Feel good now, as if it already is an it will come so much quicker...and income will be money, gains, confidence an ultimately self empowerment and knowledge to give to those who need it.
 
A cornball old saying, as true as it is corny though, is "Most people don't plan to fail; they simply fail to plan."
Doubt about the path of your future, and just what shape it'll take can have a really debilitating effect on your life.

Take stock, define yourself; WHO do you want to be? How do you plan to attain your dreams?
Hell, just what ARE your dreams?
Answer some questions for yourself.

Make some decisions...then
Take all the action you need to become who you truly are.
 
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