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student707;375964 said:
Thats really good information, didn't think about it like that.
Going for my buddy's ex girlfriend.
Thats really good information, didn't think about it like that.
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agree with the post above. also even though you and this guy aren't the best of friends how do you two know each other. if he friends with your close buddies and you two happen to meet through them. If so he will make you seem like a back staber and all your current friends will lose some trust they have for you. And make shore she doesn't think she is the master of a puppet show. Meaning she isn't playing you cause forbidden fruit taste much sweeter and she may only be attracted to you cause she knew you two couldn't ever do anything before cause she was with your buddy. And just from my point of view I know people change over time or some people make bad choices but if I can't understand why a chick would like or date the guy she was with before me it is a total buzzkill for my attaction towards her.
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Bros before hos. Talk to him first, he might not care. If he does, back off.
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I had a death in my family this week and this girl is amazing. She made homemade meatballs and homemade sauce with rigatoni for my family. That's what I mean when I say she is a quality woman. Things are going very slow because I've been dealing with my grandma's illness and death, but she's not going anywhere.
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Pretty fucking simple dude.....if you just broke up with some chick who you loved and you were with for years, then your friend started fucking her how would you feel????
If this was a me, and my boy tried for my ex, I would crack his fucking head open!!!! Respect between friends forms brotherhood, I don't think any girl is worth fucking up a long term friendship ESPenis EnlargementCIALLY when this dude calls you his "BEST FRIEND" unless you just want to fight him, lose a friend, and prove how wrong this guy is for thinking you were his best friend, then I say go for it......hope she's worth it......
If this was a me, and my boy tried for my ex, I would crack his fucking head open!!!! Respect between friends forms brotherhood, I don't think any girl is worth fucking up a long term friendship ESPenis EnlargementCIALLY when this dude calls you his "BEST FRIEND" unless you just want to fight him, lose a friend, and prove how wrong this guy is for thinking you were his best friend, then I say go for it......hope she's worth it......
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Girth Hammer;376062 said:
I agree with that, I can't help but to judge a girl based upon who she dated before me, I know people do change, but I think that speaks volumes about a person and what standards they set for themselves. I think it's important that two people are on the same page, when I see what a douche a girl's ex is, I lose a lot of attraction because I see that she holds herself to a much lower standard than I do. However, I don't know what would be worse, to know her ex was a douche, or know he was the greatest guy ever.
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Lotta good advice here I gotta say.
One thing I didn't notice mentioned is the question on whether or not you might simply be "the rebound guy".
Y'know; just the first good guy she latches onto after a really sucky relationship.
The guy who she relies on for emotional support to see her through a rough transitional phase....
the guy who she then also moves on from because he's just a little too closely associated with the situation she's wishing to leave behind.
Yeah, that guy.
You might be, you might not be; only she would know that....and she probably won't ever really know that; women being women, and all.
Relationships are rough sometimes, on everybody concerned, and life itself is about making decisions- some good, some bad - and hopefully learning from 'em.
In the end the decision is yours alone to make, hopefully, though, we've given you at least some good points to ponder.
Either way around it, whatever happens; maintain your composure and, all the best to ya.
One thing I didn't notice mentioned is the question on whether or not you might simply be "the rebound guy".
Y'know; just the first good guy she latches onto after a really sucky relationship.
The guy who she relies on for emotional support to see her through a rough transitional phase....
the guy who she then also moves on from because he's just a little too closely associated with the situation she's wishing to leave behind.
Yeah, that guy.
You might be, you might not be; only she would know that....and she probably won't ever really know that; women being women, and all.
Relationships are rough sometimes, on everybody concerned, and life itself is about making decisions- some good, some bad - and hopefully learning from 'em.
In the end the decision is yours alone to make, hopefully, though, we've given you at least some good points to ponder.
Either way around it, whatever happens; maintain your composure and, all the best to ya.
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I understand what you mean entirely, I've been THAT guy myself on two occasions.
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UPDATE: It didn't work out. My buddy is pissed at me but we still talk on occasion like we did before she and I started talking. Our mutual friends surprisingly have been loyal to me and said not to worry about it, that they don't blame me for taking a stab at it.
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higherone;390442 said:
That's kind of messed up though. I'd never sleep with my friend's girlfriend..............................................Unless she's hot. If she's butt-ugly, I ain't touchin'.
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REDZULU2003;377573 said:
Brings on quite a set of mixed emotions, don't it?
On one hand you feel better about yourself as a human being for the helping hand you've extended...
On the other hand, depending on the sheer amount of emotional turmoil you've suffered, you can wind up feeling skinned, gutted and drained.
Ahhhh....the things we do for love...
There are too many women in the world to go after a girl that your friend dated for so long. I know its easier to become attracted to someone that you've been exposed to many times, but you were exposed to her because of your friend. Just being real with you, you're breaking the man code for going after his girl. Girls do things like that. Men aren't supposed to. Loyalty is hard to find in this world. Stay loyal to your boys.
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You also need to consider the psychological underlying reason for this acquisition...Are you sure you don't want her just for the challenge? Sometimes we do things that are completely ego based and we may end up with something we never wanted to begin with.
