Dating or Getting into a relationship with a EXOTIC DANCER?

I dated a stripper for awhile, and she came from Latvia. Had a degree in accountancy back home, but could earn allot in the UK stripping off.

We got on well, and I paid a few times for her, but then we got on, and went out without any strings attached, no money exchanged affairs for fun. It could have got serious, but both of us had issues at the time we didnt know about if you know what I mean ... i.e I was a drunk and drug addict with insecure feelings around being a man if that makes any fucking sense? I delt with all this crap now though, and she had issues with wanting to please all the time.

Lightning made allot of sense, and you gotta see through her eyes also, in that you are just a potential income, a course of cash, this isn't her being a cunt either, or a slut, but its smart I reckon, as its not easy to get steady income all the time in this world nowadays, so she has you on call, its nothing bad, if you want a fuck take it with the cash, and be nice ... maybe as a regular she can give you discount? ask, I used to with escorts in the past that I banged each week.

As Lightning said again, it takes a certain strength to date one of these women, due to all the men sniffing about as part of the job.

The one I knew, has since gone back to Latvia, no idea if she went back into accountancy or strips again.

One thing I want to emphasize, is that these women are not damaged or bad, anyway less compared to other women in other careers. I do not see them as cheap or sluts, even prostitutes I have respect for them because its not all their fault, it should be legal here in the UK so they can be safe, and a register created for them I think rather then walking streets, and being controlled by some piece of filth pimp who probably abuses them on the side.

Think carefully about the potential reactions to your actions in your future movements with her, and prepare to live with it, otherwise change tack.

Very true, I've been out with many strippers from nobodies to celebrities. Many I met were really decent women. Most dancers I met do it for the attention and the rush and pay bill's satifying thier needs. The most common thing strippers I met are dancing for is to pay for school. Most of them wanted to be cosmetologists.

Some dancers try to get men with big dollars and sell them the dream outside the club and introduce the man to family and all to get that money. I've met dancers whose family is part of the game as well, so it really opens your eyes. It took me many years to fully trust my wife over this one thing as nobody can be trusted 100%.

Keep in mind, Strippers run into allot of bad/sick men as well. Being that my wife was black, she ran into allot of racist men, some telling her they would tie her up and beat her to death if they ever met outside the club and whisper racist comments to her while she dances for them but yet she had to maintain her composure.

Dancers also run into allot of pimps that know how to talk to a women and get them outside the club. Then next thing you know they could be working the streets or wake up on the back of a truck on the way to being trafficked in another country. My wife had this trust issue with me, because she use to see me come in her club many nights with many different beautiful women. She thought I was a pimp because she didnt know I was in the adult industry and worked with allot of �naked people movies� actresses plus I had allot of good stripper friends (most were married).

It is a super high risk job and many men also get upset after they drop a few hundred dollars in the club on dances thinking its leading up to some pussy at the end of the night to then learn not.

I got my wife a gun and taught her how to shoot so she can protect herself. Some of these guys wait outside the club and follow you home, shit is very creepy.

The top thing strippers hear from customers is "Why are you working here? You are so smart and beautiful and I could take care of you if you need help".

So keep all that in mind next time you think something is brewing in the strip club.

Thanks Guys this puts a lot into perspective, I told her I couldn't come see her for awhile because I have other priorities to take care of coming this new years. I cant say I didn't have lots of fun and that they are terrible people, to each there own. I have had a success with my PE and also my weight loss, I have new goals for the new year and going with the flow, well see what happens and if she tries to even contact me again.

I have dated a stripper it is is nothing but a nightmare unless you’re secure with yourself to the point of understanding her showing her body to other men.

Tornadocock said:

Thanks Guys this puts a lot into perspective, I told her I couldn't come see her for awhile because I have other priorities to take care of coming this new years. I cant say I didn't have lots of fun and that they are terrible people, to each there own. I have had a success with my PE and also my weight loss, I have new goals for the new year and going with the flow, well see what happens and if she tries to even contact me again.

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She will probably check in with you now and then.

She's in strictly for the money. I was a stripper, I know every single trick. These girls are experts. She keeps the communication open because you're a client. Its like when you are a sales rep, you keep your list of current/potential clients and follow up with them every once in a while. This is the same.

Get all the fun you want, enjoy it, but DO NOT PUT REAL FEELING OR EMOTIONS INTO IT BECAUSE IT IS A LIE. IT IS FAKE LIKE CNN FAKE.

Smart women if you ask me, smart women!

In simple terms, the way i look at it is that we are all tricks, whether married or not. If you are paying the bills and/or taking care of a woman, it's basically in-house or out-house pussy. A wedding certificate is basically a deed saying you own that pussy and sometimes those deeds are broken.

So the question is, are you looking to be an exploring trick or settled down trick?

My name is Lightning and I'm a settled down trick.

@Jackxxx, I've been to a couple male strip clubs (LaBares) in Miami and Ft. Lauderdale, Florida with dancers I hung out with. Some of those dudes had ridiculously long dongs but not exposed. Do male strippers wear strap ons? I would think so since its not full nudity.

They are definitely faking the funk

Lightning said:

@Jackxxx, I've been to a couple male strip clubs (LaBares) in Miami and Ft. Lauderdale, Florida with dancers I hung out with. Some of those dudes had ridiculously long dongs but not exposed. Do male strippers wear strap ons? I would think so since its not full nudity.

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Thats exactly where I used to dance. Labare. Ft. Lauderdale location to be more specific.
To answer your question, YES. 95% of them stuff their underwear to enlarge the pouch. I didn't. Just for the record. Ive been pulling my noodle since 1998 and proudly showed the results while dancing .

Jackxxx said:

Thats exactly where I used to dance. Labare. Ft. Lauderdale location to be more specific.
To answer your question, YES. 95% of them stuff their underwear to enlarge the pouch. I didn't. Just for the record. Ive been pulling my noodle since 1998 and proudly showed the results while dancing .

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Damn thats crazy, I met my wife in Scarletts 8 years ago. I knew a couple male strippers from the girls I hung with and one came in to Scarletts one night to hang with us. It would be so crazy if it was you lol.

....and even crazier, today is my wife and I 8th year anniversary when we met in Scarletts

to impress a Chick:ROF:

Congratulations Lighting to you and your Wife

Lightning said:

Damn thats crazy, I met my wife in Scarletts 8 years ago. I knew a couple male strippers from the girls I hung with and one came in to Scarletts one night to hang with us. It would be so crazy if it was you lol.

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Congratulations man!!
Well to be more specific I dance between 2010 and 2014, skipping a few months in between here and there. Indeed, we used to close at 3am on weekends and go to scarletts afterwards lol. Bring Labare cards and hangout with the girls.

I have some of the most wonderful memories from those days. I was also a full-time �naked people movies�star. Sure my life was a piece of shit, but those days were incredible.

Jackxxx said:

Congratulations man!!
Well to be more specific I dance between 2010 and 2014, skipping a few months in between here and there. Indeed, we used to close at 3am on weekends and go to scarletts afterwards lol. Bring Labare cards and hangout with the girls.

I have some of the most wonderful memories from those days. I was also a full-time �naked people movies�star. Sure my life was a piece of shit, but those days were incredible.

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Crazy again, I was with Bang Bros back then. We did allot of scenes at the Flamingo down in South Beach. We had multiple condos there being used for shoots. I use to do Monsters of Cock stuff as well as other spin offs, Bang Bus etc

@Jackxxx My wife danced at Scarletts between 2008 - 2012 at Scarletts, she was Ms August in the 2010 Scarletts Calendar and she was the Scars model on the Digital Billboard on 95.

This was her calendar photo back then

Lightning said:

Crazy again, I was with Bang Bros back then. We did allot of scenes at the Flamingo down in South Beach. We had multiple condos there being used for shoots. I use to do Monsters of Cock stuff as well as other spin offs, Bang Bus etc

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Whats funny is that I only did 1 scene with bangbros lol. I had like 5 different agents in those days and they all wondered why bang never used me. Did a lot fo scenes with Score, Jim Gunn, a couple for Brazzers when they were producing in Sunrise in those days, a lot of CA companies when they were coming here, etc. I was with EC direct, type9 models back in the day, Megan Jones when she was an agent, Robin Steel, etc.

I did work through with Snachez...lol After he left Banbros he went to work with Nerdpass where they started their own concept of Bangbus called "viva la bus" I did a couple of bus with them plus a couple of normal scenes before they closed.