Breaking up. 3 years together. need advice

Im 25 shes 24. QSo the long story short is we've traded living together at our parents house. For the past year ive been at her parents house. I feel awkward living there because even though we are the same nationality , i was born here and don't speak the language. She is always working. I havent worked in a while. I don't have a job. I feel like living with her is the issue.

I feel like im kissing a different person maybe because i just started noticing the things i dont like about her. Shes not really that nice. I think her negatives exceed her positives. Ive proposed to her a year ago. I think it was a mistake. She doesnt even wear the ring anymore and shes complained of it not being expensive enough. It just stopped feeling right after i proposed. Being low on money made it a unlikely cutest proposal award nominee. I dont blame her for anything.

The last couple months i felt like moving on and just letting her be in my past. I definitely miss being single. She likes to stay home and watch tv. Thats what we always did. Im not really fond of that. I feel like i can have a better life without her. This is my first long term relationship. One of the best reasons i can give that I do not love her anymore is the sex never was amazing. 2nd Shes kind of rude. She thinks its just her being funny. 3rd weve talked about raising children and we seem to be opposite on how to do that. I feel like I usually had to conform to her ways and It will always be like that because she gets abusive when she doesnt get her way. Pinching hitting slapping. I don't hit back. It doesnt hurt physically but damn i wish i had a sweeter more calm girl instead.

Haven't seen you on the forum so welcome brother.

As much as i would like to give you an advice. I need to ask you one thing.

What do you need advise for?

Kull69nirvana;676418 said:

Im 25 shes 24. QSo the long story short is we've traded living together at our parents house. For the past year ive been at her parents house. I feel awkward living there because even though we are the same nationality , i was born here and don't speak the language. She is always working. I havent worked in a while. I don't have a job. I feel like living with her is the issue.

I feel like im kissing a different person maybe because i just started noticing the things i dont like about her. Shes not really that nice. I think her negatives exceed her positives. Ive proposed to her a year ago. I think it was a mistake. She doesnt even wear the ring anymore and shes complained of it not being expensive enough. It just stopped feeling right after i proposed. Being low on money made it a unlikely cutest proposal award nominee. I dont blame her for anything.

The last couple months i felt like moving on and just letting her be in my past. I definitely miss being single. She likes to stay home and watch tv. Thats what we always did. Im not really fond of that. I feel like i can have a better life without her. This is my first long term relationship. One of the best reasons i can give that I do not love her anymore is the sex never was amazing. 2nd Shes kind of rude. She thinks its just her being funny. 3rd weve talked about raising children and we seem to be opposite on how to do that. I feel like I usually had to conform to her ways and It will always be like that because she gets abusive when she doesnt get her way. Pinching hitting slapping. I don't hit back. It doesnt hurt physically but damn i wish i had a sweeter more calm girl instead.

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Welcome Kull69nirvana to the Brotherhood!

Reading your post I have to say I think you gave yourself the best advice, let her go and move on. When the relationship has suffered to the point of a lack of attraction and a shit sex life (on top of her negativity and rudeness), it is time to move on. Not having a job or extra money this may be hard unless you have somewhere else to go. Maybe find a sugar mama I think you should make a friendly break up and go search for that woman, lover, mother of your children that you want! Life is too short to remain in hell when Heaven is right around the corner.

She doesn't seem like she's respecting you.I would break up with her immediatly.Find a girl that respects you for who you are,not for how expensive the ring is.You deserve better.

Look man getting married in the U.S. is a poverty sentence, but you're already poor so nevermind. I know I'm not your mom to say this but get a job plz that way you can take a nice girl out on a date. Personally any ho that acts a fool has made me reach for my tool, do you know what I'm saying. The number one chiraq commandment is thou shall not lack

To summarize the parable have a paraballs

i tryed to poke you to get some sort of reaction but it didn't really work.

you don't specify what you need advise for you just complained about a bad relationship. you didn't ask a question.

this is a sign of very low self confidence.

and i can 100% guarantee you that she was the one who found you. not you finding her (yeye you might have been lead to believe it was you but she pulled the strings)

and the truth is that this is an extremely bad relationship.

get out as fast as you can.

the most important thing in a relationship is this:

Does she make you happy?

and if not. the relationship is unhealthy for both of you.

i guarantee you that she feels like you are a zombie since you don't stand your ground.

and at this point if she hasn't already found someone else to fool around with.

she does have 1 or 2 as backup.

now please.
don't start blaming her for being a manipulative bitch etc etc.

and understand that she is doing what she is doing because she doesn't get the masculine energy in the relationship.

comfort. support. stability. and to some extend domination (yes female energy wants to find a male to feel submissive to it has something to do with their subconscious level feeling that she has found an inadequet male to reproduce with he has to be strong for the kid to survive)

mate will all said and done. your dating life is clearly running on autopilot.

i know this might sound tough. but what you are doing is bad for both of you.

her not wanting to get married is the best thing that can happen to you.

even though it might not feel like that.

with that being said.

when you have become single.

get into SRT to get a massive cock

get a gym membership and build a massive body (we can help with that here aswell)

and go read book of pook. (actually read that now as it will give you a fair understanding of why your relationship didn't work)

and trust me mate. life as single will feel lonely in the beginning. but it becomes awesome! so very awesome if you want it to be.

and MOS can help you do that. IF you help us help you.

AIM out

Being broke n lonely sucks,if i had cash i wouldnt chase girls at all,they would chase me LOL

shortdick;676571 said:

Being broke n lonely sucks,if i had cash i wouldnt chase girls at all,they would chase me LOL

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All of your guys input helps. I know I've been wanting to break up with her for a while. I miss having high energy fun and heart racing connection with girls. I really don't think i love her and so far i moved out of her place and im at home. I basically told her we needed space. I can already tell shes angry. Im planning to become an uber driver also so i can get paid. My main question was Do you think i should really leave her? And I pretty much think you guys answered that. I want to do it asap btw. I cant wait to find someone else.

Kull69nirvana;676631 said:

All of your guys input helps. I know I've been wanting to break up with her for a while. I miss having high energy fun and heart racing connection with girls. I really don't think i love her and so far i moved out of her place and im at home. I basically told her we needed space. I can already tell shes angry. Im planning to become an uber driver also so i can get paid. My main question was Do you think i should really leave her? And I pretty much think you guys answered that. I want to do it asap btw. I cant wait to find someone else.

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Dont be in such a rudh to find someone new. Find yourself first!

And try and read your first post with the name covered (read it like someone else wrote it)

And then give this "other person" the advise you seem to fit.

You know the answer. You just hope someone will oprah you out of it with an amazing solution. But you want to find the truth. Read it like someone else is writing it and see what happens

I would say your relationship with her is over..you can't really change things.I would end it.But aim is right.She didn't really get what she wanted..most women want an alpha male,someone to protect them,feel safe with them.someone to dominate them.I don't think she saw you as an alpha male.

In your free time,you can download a book called " god sex method ".Not a long book,very interesting.You can read about how you can become an alpha male and dominate every women.She will be at your feet .

ChilDsh;676749 said:

I would say your relationship with her is over..you can't really change things.I would end it.But aim is right.She didn't really get what she wanted..most women want an alpha male,someone to protect them,feel safe with them.someone to dominate them.I don't think she saw you as an alpha male.

In your free time,you can download a book called " god sex method ".Not a long book,very interesting.You can read about how you can become an alpha male and dominate every women.She will be at your feet .

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Very good response, also AIM too. Repairing a relationship that got to the point it has is near impossible. I tried with my Ex and that lasted 3 months before I booted her out. What I have found is do not get into a relationship right away, learn to live and love yourself without someone doing it for you. Take this time to improve yourself, bigger penis, better body, etc. When you feel that self love go out there and get the right girl for you. As stated above, we are Alpha Males here, we deserve the best.

Just to update. We are spending a little time with each other every now and then. She loves me alot! Its hard to decide, we have a vacation planned going to the phillipines next month. I mean I have to be completely honest because the reason why i felt like breaking up was i just wasnt attracted to her. Especially going to the philippines is an awesome place to spot hot girls. Were both out of shape. We both went to the gym today together. I think the physical attraction sparked a little bit because other guys were checking out her breasts. They are C cups, but she has a really little butt. Thats why we did alot if glute and leg stuff today. I mean if i see an improvement in how i am attracted to her I don't think its time to fall apart just yet. I made it seem like shes evil, but she is 5'2 and im 5'11 so she has a little woman syndrome. Sometimes I think of women with longer legs. I put personality first going into the relationship, I might as well just keep bringing her to the gym and hope my attraction to her changes. and thats how I feel like I am having a hard time.

Well tell us five things that you like about your partner (for fun maybe ask her the same thing of you:blush. This way you can tell if she's right for you

1. She has a defined, firm lower back i like to caress this part of her body.
2. She is a hard worker. 2 jobs and school.
3.shes a good singer. Sings all the time. It used to annoy me.
4. Cute when shes mad.
5. Really unique and nice lips.

Those are nice qualities. I shouldn't have said that's why you know she's right for you because id have to be you for one, and second be around her to sense if we cog right.
Lots of times we go for the chick we think we want, but they aren't the one we know we want . When somebody is right for you then you'll know beyond a doubt. She might give you butterflies, and shit :blush:. When I think of a girl that's wife material for me she has to be on a scale of 1-4: A three or higher in looks, a two or lower in crazyness(all women are crazy to some extent) and a three or higher in smarts, and she has to be at least a little god-fearing

If I wasn't sure about somebody's qualification, I really couldn't waste my time, or hers with make-believe romances. This is mainly because females have lots of feelings. She might think that you'll both be together forever, and when you suddenly decide to leave its gonna devastate the poor thing.

templnite;677486 said:

When somebody is right for you then you'll know beyond a doubt.

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This is so true. I have met 3 woman in my life where I just knew they were the right one. 2 of the 3 would be but as time went by the 3rd one was no longer included in that group.

If you love her and you feel like she's loving you,stay together.But i would have a talk with her if i were you.Make it clear from the beginning.She must respect you.If there is no respect in a relationship,it cannot last.From your first post i see that she's not respecting you enough.Be sure you're the alpha male in the relationship ( both mentally and physically ).

ChilDsh;679025 said:

If you love her and you feel like she's loving you,stay together.But i would have a talk with her if i were you.Make it clear from the beginning.She must respect you.If there is no respect in a relationship,it cannot last.From your first post i see that she's not respecting you enough.Be sure you're the alpha male in the relationship ( both mentally and physically ).

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Very important to take the upper hand and and set things straight. A relationship takes work and compromise if there is no room for this the relationship is doomed to fail. I would have a serious sit down and be frankly honest about everything. Put it on the table and see how things pan out. Sometimes facing what we fear brings us the strength we need to move on.

Yeah bruh always be the wearer of the pants in your relationship. In the bible the wife's role is always to support her husband so they are of a complementary nature (unchecked they could go about supporting fugazy shit). When the woman has all the power she may do something wack like cuckolding. That's why no one wants police women just check the article https://www.ncjrs.gov/policing/fem635.htm