Fisting Experience Fucking With My Head! Please Help Guys!

[10inchadvantage]

So the other night my ex and I were fooling around as usual. It turns out that we decided fingering would be a good option to get her going at the moment. She eventually just kept saying "more" and I was up to four fingers! Then she was begging for more and I ended up putting my whole fist (9" girth!) in her! This freaked me out and kind of left me depressed. WHAT THE FUCK JUST HAPPenis EnlargementNED? I thought that shit only occured in weird-ass porno movies.

We talked about it yesterday and she said, "Well, now you have a goal to work to." She seemed half-joking-half-serious. Does she have a cow pussy or something? She was taking it like a champ, wasn't bitching at all. She said she felt "tons of pleasure." This is starting to warp me into the "dark ages" again, when I used to feel that I was inadequate, even at a very large size. Now I'm starting to get into those thoughts of 'I need at least 7" of girth to please a woman."

I'm not in a good place sexually right now. I really need some advice. I feel like I'm ironically the one here that has been "ruined."

 

[goinfor11x7]

It's o.k, pal!! Enjoy it!! You're pleasing her sexually, that's all. The thing is, did YOU enjoy it? That's important too, my good person.

Remember, if women can get a baby's head through there, they sure as hell can get your fist through that opening. Think about it! That's why I have to laugh when people say that a female could never adjust to a 7" girth penis or larger. Maybe if you're talking about some tiny narrow hipped virgin. But even then.

And they do loosen up after they give birth. It's really quite natural, 10 incher. Don't think of it in any other way. And for God's sake, just enjoy the experience, you lucky bastard.

roflrofl

 

[10inchadvantage]

It's o.k, pal!! Enjoy it!! You're pleasing her sexually, that's all. The thing is, did YOU enjoy it? That's important too, my good person.

Remember, if women can get a baby's head through there, they sure as hell can get your fist through that opening. Think about it! That's why I have to laugh when people say that a female could never adjust to a 7" girth penis or larger. Maybe if you're talking about some tiny narrow hipped virgin. But even then.

And they do loosen up after they give birth. It's really quite natural, 10 incher. Don't think of it in any other way. And for God's sake, just enjoy the experience, you lucky bastard.

roflrofl

I didn't enjoy the experience. It scarred me mentally. I don't look at her the same anymore to be honest. There's no way I can compete with a fist, or a baby. I've read reports of people doing fisting where it took hours for them to fully get inside of their girls' vagina, but this took only a few minutes to fully get in.

I've never had sex with another girl so I don't know if she's loose or not. Fuck I'm pissed man! Fuck!

 

[goinfor11x7]

She's NOT loose. She's normal!! But if you didn't enjoy it, then you have every right to tell her that you didn't enjoy it and that you don't want to do it again. That's o.k., too. I didn't realize that this is the first female you have been with.

You have to take my word for it, that it's not that unusual. It's just that that fuckin' adult entertainment shit you've probably been watching has you convinced that's it's fucked up. It's not. And if she enjoyed it, for her sake, it's not.

My suggestion is to try to get the adult entertainment images out of your brain and focus on pleasing her and PLEASING YOURSELF, which means letting her know that you did not enjoy the fisting part and that you don't want to do it again.

If she cares about you at all, she'll understand.

 

[goinfor11x7]

And the reason you got in so easily is because she was relaxed, lubed up well, I'm sure, and really into it, enjoying you and enjoying the whole thing with you. That is why I said that you should try to focus on her as well as on yourself. The reason that it took hours for those others is because they were probably doing it for some adult entertainment with a whole crew around them. Can you imagine? Yukk.

 

[10inchadvantage]

I'm starting to feel a little better. I'm sure in a week most of the "icky" feeling will have gone away. I just couldn't stop thinking about it. It really humbles the ego after you fist a girl. Gives you a whole new perspective on penis size.

 

[stridge]

Man, you have to to relax and realize that sexual enjoyment - for both partners - has to equate to more than just your perception that the girl is getting off on your dick size.

Very few, if any women, approach sex with the mindset of "well, if he's the biggest guy and stretches me out the most, then this will be the best sex!" They're not focusing on the same size issues that you are when it comes to sex, they're just looking for fulfillment and pleasure like anybody else. You know that when you have sex, you're not just continually focused on the tightness of the girl's pussy, there's a lot more going into it. And, just because you could theoretically handle some more friction of tightness when fucking, do you think "shit, my dick could handle a lot tighter oriface than this, I hate her pussy now!" ? Obviously not, and she's not going to start looking at your penis with disdain just because she's capable of fitting a larger object in herself.

Perhaps having slept with just the one girl has given you a limited perspective, but as you get out there and fuck some other people you'll learn that women just really aren't as engaged with this size thing as we are.

From what you've described of this girl and your sex life, you more or less found yourself a full-blown sex maniac, which is pretty lucky. I think the other guys on the forum would attest to the fact that a college chick that has squriting orgasms and loves anal sex with a guy your size is a pretty rare find, not to mention that she's secure and confident enough to go ahead and let you stick your hand in her vagina. That's not exactly a common thing for a girl to be totally comfortable with, especially at that age, and I think it speaks volumes about how much she's enjoying herself with you.

And that's really the point - it's basically an ego thing for us to insist that the best or most pleasurable thing for the woman must be getting fucked by us. Women view sex as a total package -- oral, foreplay, intimacy, all that -- they don't just sit and wait in anticipation for our dicks to show up and make or break the whole experience. Obviously she's had orgasms from straight sex and likes your dick a lot, otherwise she wouldn't have stuck around and been open to a lot wilder stuff. She could probably get off from something as small as your finger or as large as your whole hand, so stop letting the size obsession fuck with your head.

She's not concerned about it, so if you start letting it get to you, it'll only end up pissing her off when you get neurotic, so nip it in the bud. Enjoy yourself, she's sounds about as game as a first sexual partner gets, so don't worry about it. You're in a great situation with having a NSA sex partner to get more experienced with, and she sounds like fun, so don't blow it by letting some stupid dick size obsessing ruin things.

 

[penguinsfan]

Dude, this rocks!!! I would LOVE to have a chick that would take my fist and get off on it. And, as Stridge said, she loves it in the ass too...you've got a dreamgirl. Why is she even your ex? (I'm messin' on that and you don't have to answer)

Like was said, women give birth. Not matter how much you work your cock, you're not going to compete with a baby's head for girth. The vagina expands in a miraculous way and does so when aroused too. This means nothing, so don't analyze this like you are.

Instead of worrying about how your cock feels inside her, when compared to a totally different object/sensation, just realize you're comparing apples to oranges and forget about it. Appreciate the fact that this girl is so open-minded, so into you, and seemingly loves having you do various things to her. Again, she sounds like the perfect partner...don't fuck that up.

 

[10inchadvantage]

Well after reading this I have stopped worry about it. I don't feel bad about it. It was silly and egotistical to worry about it. Thank you everyone for opening my eyes. I love this place.

 

[goinfor11x7]

I'm glad we could help you. Lots of great advice above!!

 

[8InchMIKE]

Dude, it's pretty normal i would say. The most petit girl i was ever with was 5 feet and she took my fist at the very first try with just some spit for lube. She never had a baby, she felt tight to my dick and it just turns out that some women are just more "flexible" than others and they can enlarge as well as tighten it at will, it's mostly muscle that acomodates to whatever sizes. Does not mean she is loose, a cow or anything else. Go with it.

Fisting is possible in time with mostly any woman.

It is part of sexual forplay for many a women as it's been my experience.

Mind you that i have pretty huge hands too so that surely does NOT mean she is a size queen or whatever. She always took my girth pretty well after a few minutes and it was never "easy" to get in.

Some taller and bigger girls were sometimes looser and sometimes tighter regardless of body type or size.

You got lucky, got a girl willing to "explore" different stuff and that is a good thing

Peace

Mike

 

[robjeremy]

10 inch,

I would say she is very, very loose. I have never been with a woman who wanted more than 3 fingers and at that it was tight. If you do it and it's fun for you both great. don't let her put the zap on your head with shit like "now you have a goal to work twaords"

Find another girl man, you are in your prime. don't tie your self down with one woman, you will regret it later. get all the pussy you can get while you can still get it.

 

[10inchadvantage]

No she's a pretty cool girl. We're not in a relationship, it's just that I haven't found a girl that is as cool as she is. How many girls have you been with rob?

 

[spinner2]

That hasn't been normal in my experience, so don't expect every girl to be like that. I'd also suggest for you to go out and meet some more girls. If you don't you'll regret it later.

 

[10inchadvantage]

That hasn't been normal in my experience, so don't expect every girl to be like that. I'd also suggest for you to go out and meet some more girls. If you don't you'll regret it later.

Oh I do go out and meet other girls. Just haven't slept with any. I'm not a "one night stand" type of guy. Or at least haven't met a girl able to blow my mind enough for me to consider it.

 

[penguinsfan]

10inch, I'm glad you've relaxed about this one. Enjoy it. My cock and my fist envy you.

 

[alwaystrying]

10 inch, I'm with Rob....I bit my tongue on this one til now. I have been with about 25 to 30 women and I have never encountered this. Not even close. Hell, I am also a adult entertainment warrior and rarely come across it on my accidental viewing sessions. Sure, if u look it up there's probably stuff u can find, but even outright whores and all the filth, I rarely see fisting, it's not the norm. Still, I would not trip out too much, some guys have big wangs, large nuts, and some women are tight, some have cabbage for pussy lips, and some just have a bigger pit in general. At least she let ya fist it.

 

[10inchadvantage]

10 inch, I'm with Rob....I bit my tongue on this one til now. I have been with about 25 to 30 women and I have never encountered this. Not even close. Hell, I am also a adult entertainment warrior and rarely come across it on my accidental viewing sessions. Sure, if u look it up there's probably stuff u can find, but even outright whores and all the filth, I rarely see fisting, it's not the norm. Still, I would not trip out too much, some guys have big wangs, large nuts, and some women are tight, some have cabbage for pussy lips, and some just have a bigger pit in general. At least she let ya fist it.

It feels pretty tight (as in strong) when I'm fucking her. Although I don't have anything else to compare to, nor would I be so immature to go out and fuck a girl just to tell a difference.

 

[robjeremy]

No she's a pretty cool girl. We're not in a relationship, it's just that I haven't found a girl that is as cool as she is. How many girls have you been with rob?

Not a whole lot. I was way to shy in college. Hence my reason for saying get out and get while the getting is good before you are tied down to one chick. I'm just saying If I had to do it all over again. I would have gotten laid a whole lot more.

but do what ever feels right for you, you are the captain of your own ship so feel free to do what's best for you.

 

[alwaystrying]

10inch, are you saying this is the only pussy u have fucked? K, not to sound condescending but there is a lot out there man, and when u only know one thing it almost blinds you, u have nuthin to compare it to hence people often think that's all there is. I may be sounding a tad harsh but I only say this with great experience, I too was exactly this way, almost married my first gf, were together for 3 and a half years the whole bit. She was a doll in hindsight, but a lousy lay. Great pussy, etc. but it wasn't til I got out there and felt women out (emotionally and physically) that I had the authority or knowledge to realize she was good, but there was/is better for me out there, and of course worse. This experience and wisdom I wouldn't change for anything, take it from me. I can only recommend the same to you. I know it's rough but u sound like u want to but are having issues with pulling the trigger? Live it up man, u will see there are plenty of great women out there, and of course nutcases as well (who can be awesome in bed I might add haha).

Again, this just hits close to home cuz I got buddies who won't let that one loose, and they are often blinded, and the woman will respect u more if u tell her to fuck off (not really, but at least not always be there for her), maybe come back, maybe not (I've done both many a time). Plus, it sounds like in ur case u have a woman who is prob a bit looser than average, lots of the time it's just genetic, but I am more concerned of the mindgames this may be playing on ya and you don't even realize it.