Dumped

[BDS]

Hiya guys.

On monday I was dumped by my girlfriend (well, ex-girlfriend now). I have a strong intuition and I kinda new something was wrong, since the weeks before she had acted all weird on the phone and not returning any calls or text messages on the phone. Anyway, I didn't contact her for about two weeks, but on sunday I texted and asked how she was doing and all. (we don't live in the same town, about 110 kms away). Didn't get any reply, but on monday morning at 7 I saw that a message had arrived on my phone at 2.30 am. She said that she's doing fine but that she said that she didn't think she wanted to be with anymore. Yes, I've been dumped via a frikkin' sms (text message on cell phones). After two years, and she doesn't have the guts to even do it on the phone.

I've been trying to get some answers out of her, and I was promised an e-mail at least, but I have not received anything yet.

It feels like a major low blow. At least now I'm done with the crying.. two years. The slightly immature part of me is saying: "Two years, and I didn't even get laid. And, she didn't even have breasts." *slaps himself* But the real me is sad because I gave her my unconditional love, I gave her all of me. Energy-wise, I feel rather drained at the moment. I'm pissed.. I have started thinking whether love is only a myth that appears in poems, books, songs and spiritual books. It's as if two years of my life has been thrown away.

Man, I'm not getting any younger.. 26 and still a virgin ya know, it doesn't feel right. And I suck at dating and picking up women.. I don't know, I need to get my life straight, do my best at getting a job here in Sweden.

But really, it's her loss. Gotta look forward, and get bigger of course! After a break of several weeks because of my head not filling up, I'm back at it. Have been doing Penis Enlargement for 11 days straight with a new routine! And baby it is growing! And my fat pad is shrinking! I'm down at 95.8 kg of morning weight.. pretty good considering I was 106.5 kg a few months ago. I'm happy about my weight loss, do you know what my ex did when I expressed my joy of losing my pounds? She rolled her eyes and laughed condescendingly...

Anyway, thanks for reading. =)

 

[longTom]

hey! that sucks! <
No breasts?? Man What where you thinking? :s
Did you look down her shirt and say "nice shoes" rofl
I wasn't the best at dating either but I found a good one and have been married 15 years so try again
LT

 

[Shafty]

Man, I'm so sorry to hear that. <
She sounds like a total bitch, and you should be glad to be rid of her!
Still, I can imagine it must hurt like hell when you just get tossed to the curb like that... especially after 2 years of being together!

I honestly recommend you take a look at this: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/

and this:
http://www.fastseduction.com/mailbag/

Trust me, the insight and information contained in these sites is worth it's weight in gold, and then some!

For now, you would do well to cut any and all further contact with her. DON'T send her one single e-mail, and DON'T call her- not once! It might be tough at first, but once you get your game going and start dating other women, you might want to send her one final e-mail, in which you'll make it perfectly clear that SHE was a burden to YOU, and that you're way better off with the women you're seeing now. That will rattle her cage like nothing else.

 

[BDS]

LOL, Longtom, I thought she had breasts, but she wore bras that were rather stiff. *grins* Seriously though, I should have ended it earlier, before she got a chance to. She was always more interested in what's on TV than in me.. the times we tried to have sex I couldn't get it up because I was nervous. And that led to more insecurities because she thought it was her fault.. evil circle, and I'm still a virgin. LOL But there is one thing that bloated my ego and that is that when I did get it up and we tried, I was too thick. didn't have lube with me that time.

Yeah, thanks Shafty. I'll take a look at those sites. I'm a subscriber of the double your dating newsletter, and it has some excellent stories time to time. Yeah, I feel that this relationship was holding me back somehow, but naïve me kept on seeing her. =) I'll try my very best to not try to contact her. It's just that I need closure, an explanation. So I won't have to go think about it. I'll start dating when I'm ready, I just feel that I am a nobody, by society's standards. If I had a job, at least I would be someone (and I would have a place of my own).. oh damn, it's an attitude problem I know. >.<

Thanks for listening guys! Much appreciated.

 

[WantToBeThick]

Wow, that's cold. My advice would be to send her a letter... on an actual piece of paper. Make it short, and ask her to explain herself. Also, make it clear that if she refuses to explain herself then to not bother contacting you ever again. Then don't send her another bit. Work on the self improvement and get another girl. Believe me, the best way to get a woman back is to start dating someone else. Just my opinion.

 

[BDS]

Hiya WantToBeThick. Thanks for the suggestion. Actually, I have received an explanation and she told me that maybe we have grown apart from each other. Anyway, I replied and told her how I felt, how it hurt that she would do this over sms, and I went own how I felt about certain things.. and that I won't take her back unless she's willing to change and help in keeping the relationship alive. I used kind words, didn't use insults of any kind.. but somehow I have feelings of guilt. Maybe I shouldn't have been so honest.

 

[WantToBeThick]

You did the right thing. And being polite was very classy. Many wouldn't have kept their cool.

Now the trick is to stick to what you said and stay strong. Good luck man. There's a better girl out there for you and she's waiting for you.

 

[BDS]

Thanks WantToBeThick, it warms my heart.

 

[DLD]

BDS, My heart goes out to you and I hope you do not suffer anymore from this loss. Do not look for explanations to why because it is very apparent why and it is not worth giving her the satisfaction that you even care. Women can be very selfish and when they feel like there is a better deal elsewhere some women have no problem shutting off their emotions to us and giving them to some other guy. Remember, she thinks she is doing better and really does not give a fuck about your feelings but there is something she is not seeing and that something is KARMA. KARMA is the payback that evens the score when a wrong is done. It may take a minute to happen but what goes around REALLY GOES AROUND. You are a caring, emotional man who will persevere and come out on top. In the face of betrayal it is difficult to see anything positive but in time you will see why everything happens for a reason.

 

[BDS]

DLD, thanks man, I've got tears in my eyes. =) You are right, everything does happen for a reason, and I'm sure there come something positive out of this too. (and hey, I do now have freedom and the exclusive rights to do anything I want, nothing holding me back now). =)

Thank you for your support!

BDS

 

[Dashdeming]

Remember that a girl that is easy to get is also one that easily leaves. Find one that has her on mind and beliefs and knows what she wants in life. Be honest about who you are so that, when the real you comes out, you don't get dumped. Look for maturity and be mature yourself. 90% of a successful relationship is finding the right person. The remaining 10% is the easy part.

 

[BDS]

Thanks Dash, great advice!

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

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26 y/o virgin also...

 

[AlloyCG]

BDS -

Just wanted to say you are in my thoughts. Don't give up on love!

 

[BDS]

Ulcaster, man, I thought I was the only one.. but hey, we'll get laid AND find love some day man. =)

Thanks AlloyCG, it means a lot to hear that. =)

 

[penguinsfan]

Wow, sorry to hear about all this, but you're likely better off. Not returning your calls or messages is unacceptable, providing you didn't go overkill with them. And not sharing in the accomplishment of your weight loss shows she doesn't truly understand you.

 

[BDS]

Yeah, I'm beginning to understand that it's probably better off without her. Thanks, Penguinsfan!

BTW, and update to y'all: I'm feeling a lot better now than last week. I realised that I can flirt with anyone now without having to feel guilty. I see it as practice. I smile at every girl I get eye contact with. Hehe.

 

[thefranchise]

Yo, bro your first mistake was giving her unconditional love for two years with no punani. I know it's hard at times, becuase honostly I know myself if I find a girl I like I wanna do nothing but treat her right. Unfortunatly I've been devistated about twice from this, so you gotta do what they say on the streets bro. Treat em rough, you'll get your muff.

 

[hopful]

Yoa man break ups are bad, feel sorry for ya. But better now then later. As longer a relation ship lasts so harder the break up gets. Anyway with that reaktion of her about you losingwait is like a punsh in the face, i can imagine how that feels. I mean i lost 70 punds in the last 2 years until now and everytime i got on the weight scale and saw that i'm getting closer to my goal i was so proud of my self and thinking of my girlfriend doing something like that when i would tell her would really kill me. I guess i would feel realy depressed and beaten up.
A girl that can't be happy for you because you reached something you realy wanted is a stupid bitch with a bad personality and you will absolutly do better without her. there are so many nice, kind and beautiful girls out there what realy deserve a nice guy like you. Don't wast tears on here even if its hard. One big Pain is always better then a life full of little ones!
I wish you all the best and i hope you reach all you're goals that you want to reach and don't worry you WILL find something better, trust me.

 

[BDS]

Hey, thefranchise, I know.. I won't be so wussy in my next relationship. Gotta find some happy medium, cause I don't want to be a S.O.B.

Hey hopful, thanks for the words of encouragement. You have lost 70 pounds? Congratulations man, you have done well. It feels great to see the pounds melt off your body. We have the same goals in Penis Enlargement too I see. Cool stuff!

Thanks for the words of encouragement guys! I really appreciate it.

 

[hopful]

You're welcome

 

[thefranchise]

Yea BDS I understand, that's one reason I dont really ever date women, beucase it's so stupid. I don't liek the fact that I have to force myself to be a prick sometimes just to keep a girl. It's like the same girls that like guys spitting game at them. A lot of girls like guys that can spit game, it's like wtf you like being lied to, manipulated, and treated badly. Fuckin women are insane. I long for the day when they come out with Virtual reality women with full impulse and sensativity controls. I'll never leave the house.

 

[pepepe]

BDS, My heart goes out to you and I hope you do not suffer anymore from this loss. Do not look for explanations to why because it is very apparent why and it is not worth giving her the satisfaction that you even care. Women can be very selfish and when they feel like there is a better deal elsewhere some women have no problem shutting off their emotions to us and giving them to some other guy. Remember, she thinks she is doing better and really does not give a fuck about your feelings but there is something she is not seeing and that something is KARMA. KARMA is the payback that evens the score when a wrong is done. It may take a minute to happen but what goes around REALLY GOES AROUND. You are a caring, emotional man who will persevere and come out on top. In the face of betrayal it is difficult to see anything positive but in time you will see why everything happens for a reason.

so very true.

 

[BDS]

Hehe, franchise, my thoughts exactly. I'll never understand women, but that doubleyourdating-guy seems to make sense. I get his newsletters.