Why do I constantly seek negative reinforcement?

jetsetter439 · Apr 10, 2011

So i've had pretty severe penis insecurities for about a year and a half now and while i've gained some with Penis Enlargement i still consistently 'see' myself as small. My measurements are around 6.25-6.50 NBPenis EnlargementL and 5.15-5.25 EG. So basically I went on a Chatroulette-type site called Omegle which tends to attract a lot of guys who enjoy being exhibitionists and showing it all on cam. I always kind of thought this was scummy, but I decided to give it a shot in an attempt to see what kind of reactions I might get. Now.. I wasn't 100% hard the majority of the time and of course not all angles are the most flattering, but one girl happened to utter the word 'short' while another one made some sort of disapproving hand gesture (not the finger.. something else.. difficult to describe). This just makes me feel worse. Which brings me to my next point..

I seem to be obsessed with negative reinforcement. My fragile ego is based around how I view my penis and here I try to get a casual opinion or two and end up with this. Now I know i'm not tiny, but I do tend to walk around just about every day with the notion that I am small. And I let things like this 'prove' that I am right.

Does anyone else find themselves more responsive to negative reinforcement (ie: watching �naked people movies� and acknowledging that your size is nowhere near those guys, etc, etc)? For me, this type of feedback carries a ton more weight, and things like the incidents above just feed into it. I wish I wasn't like this, because I've been avoiding sex as a result.

stillwantmore · Apr 10, 2011

Please look around before posting bro. This is more of a "Mental Penis Enlargement" forum thread. THanks.

Superdick · Apr 10, 2011

So i've had pretty severe penis insecurities for about a year and a half now and while i've gained some with Penis Enlargement i still consistently 'see' myself as small. My measurements are around 6.25-6.50 NBPenis EnlargementL and 5.15-5.25 EG. So basically I went on a Chatroulette-type site called Omegle which tends to attract a lot of guys who enjoy being exhibitionists and showing it all on cam. I always kind of thought this was scummy, but I decided to give it a shot in an attempt to see what kind of reactions I might get. Now.. I wasn't 100% hard the majority of the time and of course not all angles are the most flattering, but one girl happened to utter the word 'short' while another one made some sort of disapproving hand gesture (not the finger.. something else.. difficult to describe). This just makes me feel worse. Which brings me to my next point..

I seem to be obsessed with negative reinforcement. My fragile ego is based around how I view my penis and here I try to get a casual opinion or two and end up with this. Now I know i'm not tiny, but I do tend to walk around just about every day with the notion that I am small. And I let things like this 'prove' that I am right.

Does anyone else find themselves more responsive to negative reinforcement (ie: watching �naked people movies� and acknowledging that your size is nowhere near those guys, etc, etc)? For me, this type of feedback carries a ton more weight, and things like the incidents above just feed into it. I wish I wasn't like this, because I've been avoiding sex as a result.

Yo,Jettsetter

I think your looking to much into this stuff,sounds like you got penis envy from watching �naked people movies� and going to these cam sites,You should try not to think about your dick so much and focus on positive shit because if you do not it will affect other areas in you life also.Job,relationships,sports,school,friends,etc and women could sense that low-self esteem from a mile away.
Just go do some positive thinking or qi gong meditation,Hope this helps and good luck bro.

Peace Out,
Super

Alex78 · Apr 11, 2011

Yes i do the same with everything, i have been told by some women i am good looking, lots of them give me attention, even cling on to me but if i see a woman i like and she ignores me it vexes me.
I think it has a lot to do with people in general, nobody likes to be rejected, everybody wants to be loved by the people, that is why people seek fame.

I do not think there is a way around it, what i started to do is think of all those women before and acknowledge to my self i am attractive.
That is why people who are in love do not get hurt, somebody in their lives is crazy about them, given the proposition they are on a receiving end of love also.

You cannot mend what some women say, you must know the net is a place where lots of them will let their frustrations fly, and on a bad day insult guys just because she got rejected or dumped by one recently, do not seek approval over the net!

I sent my pic to some women over the net and never got any good result yet live they seem to be attractive to me, maybe im just not photogenic, but that will not shake my confidence!

Women generally do not give a rats ass about penis size, but love attention, and to joke around...
Once you get her laughing the rest is easy!

magiksock · Apr 11, 2011

Dude, you're bigger than avg. Stop holding yourself back. If you don't think positively about yourself no one else will. People sense weakness. The streets are watching...

DLD · Apr 11, 2011

magiksock;424431 said:
The streets are watching...

JAY Z

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Turnover · Apr 11, 2011

jetsetter439;424364 said:
So i've had pretty severe penis insecurities for about a year and a half now and while i've gained some with Penis Enlargement i still consistently 'see' myself as small. My measurements are around 6.25-6.50 NBPenis EnlargementL and 5.15-5.25 EG. So basically I went on a Chatroulette-type site called Omegle which tends to attract a lot of guys who enjoy being exhibitionists and showing it all on cam. I always kind of thought this was scummy, but I decided to give it a shot in an attempt to see what kind of reactions I might get. Now.. I wasn't 100% hard the majority of the time and of course not all angles are the most flattering, but one girl happened to utter the word 'short' while another one made some sort of disapproving hand gesture (not the finger.. something else.. difficult to describe). This just makes me feel worse. Which brings me to my next point..

I seem to be obsessed with negative reinforcement. My fragile ego is based around how I view my penis and here I try to get a casual opinion or two and end up with this. Now I know i'm not tiny, but I do tend to walk around just about every day with the notion that I am small. And I let things like this 'prove' that I am right.

Does anyone else find themselves more responsive to negative reinforcement (ie: watching �naked people movies� and acknowledging that your size is nowhere near those guys, etc, etc)? For me, this type of feedback carries a ton more weight, and things like the incidents above just feed into it. I wish I wasn't like this, because I've been avoiding sex as a result.

Self Gratification.

You seek the approval of others and you will never be able to have everyone's. Sometimes I get depressed about my body, I want it too be perfect SO bad! When I see my reflection I am right on track and nothing is wrong, but when I see someone with a really nice body, nice clothes, accessories, I feel like I am not that and that is what I want to be. I could be that; I could buy the same outfit and wear things that resemble how I want to feel would fit what I desire. Its just not what I need right now. If I was dating somebody then I would care. I would wear nicer clothes and I would do things to stand out to look good. The reason I dont is because Im not interested in dating right now.

Maybe you look at other guys and you want to be the way they are, so you go to places and do what they are doing. You're comparing how you are not as good as them, thinking you will find an answer in how they are presenting themselves. You don't need random people telling you you're good enough or not good enough, you need to be good enough for only ONE person; you. If you think of yourself that way all the people who are your friends and not your friends will be people that are there or not there because of who you are, is there any other way to live?

With penis enlargement DLD has allowed us to change that last thing humans were never able to manipulate- Now we can say, if something you do not like about yourself change it, if you can't change it change the way you think about it.

magiksock · Apr 11, 2011

doublelongdaddy;424456 said:
JAY Z

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One of my favorite old school sounds, and the shits true.

DLD · Apr 12, 2011

magiksock;424528 said:
One of my favorite old school sounds, and the shits true.

Yup, was listening to it on my way to town this morning where a lot of people owe me money

Very effective to listen to in that state

jetsetter439 · Apr 12, 2011

thanks for the input guys.

you know sometimes i just feel like my brain is broken or something, what with my hypersensitivity and almost 'fear' of what a girl might think nowadays. and i say nowadays because unfortunately i am able to trace this back to a single event, pre Penis Enlargement, when in a fit of rage a girl told me that i was small. but who am i to believe she was lying? i certainly wasn't big. shortly following this event i basically dedicated myself to Penis Enlargement. although it seems no matter what my gains are, i still seem to look for reasons why i'm 'small' as opposed to just acknowledging that i've gained 0.75" since then and that i really shouldn't be considering myself 'small' anymore. but when an overweight person succeeds in losing a bit of weight after being called fat, they still might very well see themselves as such. see where i'm coming from? i guess its really just something i need to work out in my head. ironically my fear is not so much pleasing the woman as much as it is me freezing up during any sort of intimacy, knowing that my penis might soon be exposed. "what if it looks small?"... "what if i'm not hard enough?... "what if the anxiety i might happen to be feeling is unable to produce a sufficient erection and i look just as small as i did before, however bigger i might be now?" yes, these are the ridiculous 'what if' questions that i ask myself, which essentially hold me back from going out there and meeting people. pathetic i know.

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