if you were in love with someone 6 years ago broke up with them do different things in life move on have kids with someone.else and it's like.you still.think.about that person from.that long ago . and.you.love your kids but nothing has every felt.the same.since that 1 person what would you do.just move on . or drop.your life now.to.go.back.?
What would you do for love
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It's easy/natural to be nostalgic for past loves/lives...just remember that the reason(s) it didn't work-out then will be the same reason it won't work now.
we were.together. for.a.year it.was.my.first love to.lol.and.I.left her because. I.wanted to.do.me.and.experience some.other things In.life we haven't talked this.whole.time.I.got.with someone's else.n.had my.baby who.I.love to.death but.I.don't.feel.the same.for.the mom... I.always think.about this girl now.n.then she's with some else to.but she told.me.if.I every had a kid with someone.else we would.never work so yeah
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having love loosing love...Relationships dont last these days..Do they ?
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mrchino;703057 said:
I wasted 8 years reminiscing and all I got for it was 8 wasted years
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doublelongdaddy;703073 said:I wasted 8 years reminiscing and all I got for it was 8 wasted years
yep years can pass and wasted years are a torment..but as you say we have to look for that hidden catapult that will shoot us into the next relationship.
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If I made the decision to leave a women I "love" and then I made another decision to have kids with a different woman, I would stick by my kids. They don't need to pay for my mistakes.
But then you have to think about is it fair to your current partner? idk
But then you have to think about is it fair to your current partner? idk
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Yea, but I don't agree with staying with someone you're truly unhappy with "for the kids". That makes everyone miserable and sets a bad example for the kids rather than showing them mature adults move on and can still be good parents even if it means separately. If there's a broken relationship, it's been worked on for years and not even counseling helps, it's time to quit wasting life with someone you're not happy with.
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stillwantmore2;703355 said:
Yeah I agree, it depends on the situation. Am I unhappy with my current wife or am I happy but just feeling nostalgic and wondering what if? I wouldn't drop my current marriage on some nostalgia.
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Children you love with the mother you don't personally feel the best with. It's understandable. Your first love may have been everything and you probably messed up. But knowing that you yourself CHOSE to do something else shows that your decision is what affected your outcome. That is not to say you made the right or wrong choice. It is to say you determine your own choices in life and you decide how you feel about them. If your partner you're not particularly fond of maybe you still need to discover more about her to love her more if you just can't stand her then you need to decide whether or not to move on to make yourself happy. In the end you have to decide how you want to achieve happiness.
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choosing the way and doing the things that would makes us happy feel satisfied is key,How many times we do things we dont need to or dont want to just to fit in or feel accepted...
Insecurities can really harm peoples lives and is a quite sad thing.But is an opportunity to understand that all those mistakes and insecurities can be taken away..
Tough lessons arent a good thing when they happen but sometimes theres no other way to see things in a clearer way ..........
Insecurities can really harm peoples lives and is a quite sad thing.But is an opportunity to understand that all those mistakes and insecurities can be taken away..
Tough lessons arent a good thing when they happen but sometimes theres no other way to see things in a clearer way ..........
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kyomoto;704978 said:
yep working on myself by myself for myself, is way more imprtant
