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Sad to hear DLD, ya sure it doesn't need to come from parents, but from what the OP said in his case it's most likely, it just happens often.

Have you tried hypnosis for the Bi-polar disorder? Hypnosis can be very powerful, I have heard it's worth a try for Bi-polar disorder.

Meeting up with hookers isn't anything bad, when you think of it deeply it's actually pretty much a good deal. No stress, no worries, no bullshit, just a good time, you pay her she goes and that's it. Sweet deal, no wasting time, no deep emotions.

But do you still have the urge to have sex, to have the intimacy time with a woman? and it's the pain of getting hurt again is stopping you or you don't care anymore?

There is a woman out there for each of you. A real person. Chances are she's an introvert too. So she's wondering how do I meet a nice guy who isn't just a player.

But all you guys have to realize that everyone is faking it. No one deals with life and social situations perfectly. Get over yourselves.

There are different kind of girls and boys in the world. Some girls are players too, so you can reverse the question as well. But what do you mean by everyone is faking it?

I think that many of us have been in that situation.

I myself never lost my virginity until 19 and rarely even kissed a girl until i was 18 however from being a pariah when it came to approaching women, i then kissed dozens of women and had sex with 9 in 10 months.

Whilst i have always had a big ego (self-confidence) through school i always lacked the confidence with women and had no clue what to say however soon after i went 18 i decided that to change, i had to put myself out there. I then proceeded to meet many women from MSN (any site like Facebook will suffice) however initially i could'nt read the situation well and so it was not until my 4th girl that i kissed her at the end (shame as the first one i met i hugged at the end and she said she would have fucked me if i came onto her), this then led to a positive multiplier effect. From being uncomfortable about when to do what i grew in stature and confidence and met dozens of girls over the next 2 and a half years and notably the time to kiss them reduced dramatically such that at my peak it was talk for 10-15 minutes and then "Your well beautiful.." kiss, this also effected my sexual confidence overall in that i was getting finger action, handjobs (never really liked them as most women are crap however), blowjobs and after 18 months i finally lost my virginity in dramatic fashion (there had been opportunities but bad location, no protection ect.. had prevented me), the result was such that i got off a bus at 8.20 and was in a field fucking her at 8.45, 2 months later i had my second girl on footbridge above a footpath (she was kinky, deepthroat and anal for a 16 year old 1 night stand) and from there got lucky elsewhere before being in a relationship for 7 months and fucking her for another 2. Most notable however was one of the girls was not from online, i had smiled at her in the bus station a few times and finally asked her for her number once (it turns out that my smiling and staring without approach had been driving her mad haha).

My point essentially is that if you want to lose your virginity and meet the love of your life and have perfection its probably not going to happen but if you start meeting women then even if you don't have sex with them you will gain confidence (at my peak i was told i was being too forward) and sow your seed.

Sadly however whilst i had been balding since 17 and that was no issue i was getting gradually fatter and so since i stopped shagging my ex (over 2 years ago) i have been in drought primarily due to the fact i am now fat and have lost that female confidence again. Once i lose the weight (happening) and get the cock however i intend to return with a vengeance and rival Kingsnake.

Seize the moment and seize the girls, get them met, get them kissed, get them fucked and get into a relationship.

Faking it till you make it. I see this more as playing a part in the game of life

But what if I don't know how to fake it?

kitfisto;513623 said:

But what if I don't know how to fake it?

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Practice!

If you want a 10 inch cock pretend you have it now and it will come so much faster. When the mental agreements are made it is a very fast process.

Faking it. Everyone looks cool and collected like they never have a bad hair day when they feel like a loser. Everyone is faking it at one time or another.

Being on the internet asking people to feel sorry for you, isn't helping anything. I don't have time to talk about your issues and I don't even know you. Everyone talks about their personal problems like it's some sort of special miracle only they are gifted with. Get out of your house. Go do something. Take a yoga class. join a coed sports team. Get in a book of the month club. Just do something with other people. You don't have to change, but you have to change how you deal with yourself. Over time you will change, but not if you sit on your pity pot.

If you truly are having social anxiety, you need to make friends and extend your social range. You can pay a therapist to listen to you, but in the end he/she is going to say the same thing. So why not start right now? Go on craigs list and look at the platonic ads. Meet a couple women who are seeking friends only and just hang out with them. Go to a movie, go to a coffee house with her. And, don't judge her by how she looks, judge her by who she is, what she is into.

It's almost been a year but I had a chance to get laid .A few months ago. she was like 50, too bad she really killed the mood by offering me wine. Her offering alcohol really killed the mood for me. I had bought some condoms too.


I'm not a huge drinker I only had 15 beers or so this year.

AdmiralLongDong;515162 said:

Faking it. Everyone looks cool and collected like they never have a bad hair day when they feel like a loser. Everyone is faking it at one time or another.

Being on the internet asking people to feel sorry for you, isn't helping anything. I don't have time to talk about your issues and I don't even know you. Everyone talks about their personal problems like it's some sort of special miracle only they are gifted with. Get out of your house. Go do something. Take a yoga class. join a coed sports team. Get in a book of the month club. Just do something with other people. You don't have to change, but you have to change how you deal with yourself. Over time you will change, but not if you sit on your pity pot.

If you truly are having social anxiety, you need to make friends and extend your social range. You can pay a therapist to listen to you, but in the end he/she is going to say the same thing. So why not start right now? Go on craigs list and look at the platonic ads. Meet a couple women who are seeking friends only and just hang out with them. Go to a movie, go to a coffee house with her. And, don't judge her by how she looks, judge her by who she is, what she is into.

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A little harsh, I think, but true. You can pay a therapist if you feel you really need one but getting out and meeting people is the best cure for anxiety. You really MUST get out and keep meeting people. Facing your fear and messing up until you aren't scared anymore is really the only way.

DLD, you seem like a really friendly dude and it makes me sad to hear you talk about settling for less than you want. Back in the mid-2000s I was stuck on a girl that wasn't supportive of me and it really set me back and kept me from a lot of experiences that would have been great for me. It does make me wonder how much of a support system you have outside of this community and while I don't mean to be too personal I would encourage you to go to places where other people go for an emotionally supportive community....like church if you're religious or yoga classes if you're not. There really are girls out there who you can meet that will treat you right. I think it's easy to get down especially if you (me) already have some issues such as bi-polar disorder but it can also turn into a cycle.

Anyway, the above kind of goes for everyone, definitely myself. And to be even more sappy, it's Thanksgiving week and most of us actually have a lot to be thankful for. For me, focusing on the things I have that are good and planning to build on those things really keeps me going and keeps my mood up, generally. It gives me someplace to go mentally when I start to get down.

Love to all.

I blame the internet.

neognostic;518422 said:

DLD, you seem like a really friendly dude and it makes me sad to hear you talk about settling for less than you want. Back in the mid-2000s I was stuck on a girl that wasn't supportive of me and it really set me back and kept me from a lot of experiences that would have been great for me. It does make me wonder how much of a support system you have outside of this community and while I don't mean to be too personal I would encourage you to go to places where other people go for an emotionally supportive community....like church if you're religious or yoga classes if you're not. There really are girls out there who you can meet that will treat you right. I think it's easy to get down especially if you (me) already have some issues such as bi-polar disorder but it can also turn into a cycle.

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Thanks for the kind words. I have one heck of a good support system here and I have many discipline's in place to take over if I go over board. Women seem so far away from me on so many levels. I am a big job, I do not think there are too many women who would want me in their lives...way too much work.

Eh... reread what you posted about wanting a 10" dick and replace it with wanting to be connected with a woman. Take your own advice.

And i'm not trying to harsh on anyone here, but seriously we collectively have to move away from the self inflicted paralysis we create. I do it too.

AdmiralLongDong;519396 said:

seriously we collectively have to move away from the self inflicted paralysis we create. I do it too.

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Hell to the fucking yes.

neognostic;519412 said:

Hell to the fucking yes.

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Agreed!

hepcat;520097 said:

I used to drink 18 beers a day! People say I was a "problem drinker" and was "fucked up" all the time but I know they're just a waste of time cause when I get the first six-pack in me it's okay!:cool:

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I keep it to two drinks a night (wine) and of course some beautiful weed...together they are like the Bathmate and Jelqing

been a while since I came here, not much has changed what so ever. I have seen a small amount of growth to my girth, consistently getting 6"1/2 mid shaft . Erections are better too