I have a dilema going on in my head right now about a girl that i met on labor day weekend, and to everyone i have talked to they have said i have done nothing wrong to get to this outcome. I would like to go through the whole story but it could end out dragged out or boring so, if it becomes this way im very sorry i just want to make sure all the facts are out there for you guys.
It started the saturday night of labour day weekend i was helping a friend at an old bar i work at dj, and these two girls come up and start requesting songs (long before it got busy), so we start playing them and next thing i know one of the girls goes "Im new in town, I left my psyco boyfriend while he was on holidays and came here to live with my uncle and aunt. I don't have many friends." So I thought i would be nice and gave her my cell phone number although being in the bar figured she wouldn't call cause she would drink herself stupid. As the night went on she would come back up and talk to my friend and I, and to be honest i don't really pay attention to the girls in the bar (cause most are hoochies that want free shit). I guess my buddy was trying to hook her up with a friend of his that was also there and she gave him this really gross look and then started looking at me, I didn't notice.
Later that night before she left with her friend and aunt, she comes up kisses me twice and says "I'm going shopping with my aunt outta town for school, ill call you monday when i get in."
Monday comes along and no phone call (said she tried to text message me but i don't have that on my cell phone). So tuesday while im working i get this call on my cell, Its her and because i had to work i told her to call back later after i was off work. She called exactly at the time i said i was off work, so i told her to let me finish what i was doing and that i would phone her when i got home. So i did that and she told me how her shopping trip went.
Then every night for that week she is calling me to see how my day was, until the friday when she appeared at the bar with her aunt and some of her aunts friends (ALLL HOT). Now i still havn't gotten a proper read on this girl so i kinda stay away and avoid any uncomfortable situations. She later approaches my friend the dj and asks him what is up with me? (dunno what his reply was but im not worried about it). Right before she leaves that night she comes up and kisses me again.
So saturday comes along and i think we talked for a little bit but she was very tired and shit and i might of had to work, so she said she would call me sunday and go from there. She doesn't phone sunday, so i call her monday when i get off work and shes in tears and tells me that she wants to go home and that her mom said if she did she had no place to come home to. So im feeling really bad for her and i have to admit that home sickeness does suck so i told her i would taker her out to a movie that night. I go to pick her up from her aunts place and i hear her aunt telling her cousins that they have to go upstairs not to bug her or myself, and i said its alright they can meet me, so they did.
The tuesday she phones me while im at the bar dealing poker, and tells me that she went into a sumBathmateission grappling class at the gym she goes to (I got an instant hard on knowing that she likes mixed martial arts). and told her to call me later. the wednesday shes telling me she has all these bruises from the class and wants to show them to me, and that we should go out for dinner friday night before going to the bar. I said it would be ok if she was done her school work and to call me with the final plans. She phones me Friday saying shes got some friends that are going to come as well, I started shitting my pants cause i didn't feel like getting picked apart by a bunch of girls so i called my now single cousin to see if he wanted to come out for dinner, he said sure. As it turns out her friends couldn't make it for dinner so its her, my cousin and myself.
By the time we were done at the bar that night, she had everyone assuming/fooled that we were a couple. (I still havn't gotten a proper read on her)
Then the next night we wen't up to my cousins (neutral ground) to watch movies and she said she had a sore back so i started rubbing it while we were watching movies.
Suday comes along and she calls me from some noisey place and says she has something to tell me but can't hear me so she'll call back later. She then calls me monday to say shes going up to my cousins to use his hot tub and asked if i wanted to join. (wtf??) I said that i was already up there, visiting him. So we get into the hot tub and my cousins in his shower, and she comes over to me and says "I don't know if i am giving out the wrong signals but im not looking for a boyfriend." And i told her that was fine because my original concern was her schooling. So i drop her off after wards and head back to my cousins and the first thing he says is "did she talk to me???"
I said ya why and he goes "she wanted to get me to tell you that but i told her no that she had to do it herself, so it doesn't look like im trying to do anything with her behind your back." My cousin said he would never do anything with her and I trust him cause hes like an older brother to me.
So the week goes on and im kinda hurt cause no all my old co-workers at the bar are asking me about her and i can only say we're just friends even after the show she put on the previous weekend. And its baffled me how she went from all over me to nothing at the drop of a dime, but then the following friday she comes into the bar with my cousin and his friend. Now im really confused and i had just gotten off working 4 days at the hospital, so im not in a good mood to begin with and she thinks that I am angry with her. So she calls me the next day asking why i was an asshole and i told her I wasn't i was just not having the best of days, and then she questions me on why it seemed like everytime i looked at her i was angry and i had no answer to it so she hung up. Due to the actions of the previous night my friend the dj wanted to get things strait with her so he sent her an email, i guess she read it the sunday, and tried to phone me about it but i was at work at the hospital where cell phones are not permitted. Some one in my house heard my cell phone ring and picked it up clearing any message of a missed call. So i go upstairs after work reheat some taco, go onto the computer to check up on any new Penis Enlargement info and she comes on MSN saying "I don't appreciate you not answering you phone, and i don't appreciate the email the dj sent me!!" and im like WTF i worked at the hospital all day so i didn't have my phone on me and what email did the dj send to you.
So she forwards me the email and says I don't really want to talk to you any more bye.
And that is how this dilema got to be where it is at.
I don't know what to do and i finally got to the point where i don't really care, althought i still would like to see her get back to the position she was at before her parents sent her out here.
So i guess I still kinda have feelings for her but i think i would view them as feelings towards a sisters hot friend. where you wanna do something with them but you don't.
So i dunno what to do and that is where it stands, i have been in contact with her i think 3 times since the email, and i have been trying to figure out what i did to cause her to pull the 180 and a cant.
Any advice would be great.
And if your wondering im really quite a shy person and i do suffer from depression so that is why i didn't make a move anytime I really had the chance, that and im a couple years older then her so i don't want it to look like i was forcing anything to happen.
Thanks BcBoy.
*and on a side note i tried to put up an avatar but it won't let me can someone pm me with instructions for that as i couldn't find them anywhere.
It started the saturday night of labour day weekend i was helping a friend at an old bar i work at dj, and these two girls come up and start requesting songs (long before it got busy), so we start playing them and next thing i know one of the girls goes "Im new in town, I left my psyco boyfriend while he was on holidays and came here to live with my uncle and aunt. I don't have many friends." So I thought i would be nice and gave her my cell phone number although being in the bar figured she wouldn't call cause she would drink herself stupid. As the night went on she would come back up and talk to my friend and I, and to be honest i don't really pay attention to the girls in the bar (cause most are hoochies that want free shit). I guess my buddy was trying to hook her up with a friend of his that was also there and she gave him this really gross look and then started looking at me, I didn't notice.
Later that night before she left with her friend and aunt, she comes up kisses me twice and says "I'm going shopping with my aunt outta town for school, ill call you monday when i get in."
Monday comes along and no phone call (said she tried to text message me but i don't have that on my cell phone). So tuesday while im working i get this call on my cell, Its her and because i had to work i told her to call back later after i was off work. She called exactly at the time i said i was off work, so i told her to let me finish what i was doing and that i would phone her when i got home. So i did that and she told me how her shopping trip went.
Then every night for that week she is calling me to see how my day was, until the friday when she appeared at the bar with her aunt and some of her aunts friends (ALLL HOT). Now i still havn't gotten a proper read on this girl so i kinda stay away and avoid any uncomfortable situations. She later approaches my friend the dj and asks him what is up with me? (dunno what his reply was but im not worried about it). Right before she leaves that night she comes up and kisses me again.
So saturday comes along and i think we talked for a little bit but she was very tired and shit and i might of had to work, so she said she would call me sunday and go from there. She doesn't phone sunday, so i call her monday when i get off work and shes in tears and tells me that she wants to go home and that her mom said if she did she had no place to come home to. So im feeling really bad for her and i have to admit that home sickeness does suck so i told her i would taker her out to a movie that night. I go to pick her up from her aunts place and i hear her aunt telling her cousins that they have to go upstairs not to bug her or myself, and i said its alright they can meet me, so they did.
The tuesday she phones me while im at the bar dealing poker, and tells me that she went into a sumBathmateission grappling class at the gym she goes to (I got an instant hard on knowing that she likes mixed martial arts). and told her to call me later. the wednesday shes telling me she has all these bruises from the class and wants to show them to me, and that we should go out for dinner friday night before going to the bar. I said it would be ok if she was done her school work and to call me with the final plans. She phones me Friday saying shes got some friends that are going to come as well, I started shitting my pants cause i didn't feel like getting picked apart by a bunch of girls so i called my now single cousin to see if he wanted to come out for dinner, he said sure. As it turns out her friends couldn't make it for dinner so its her, my cousin and myself.
By the time we were done at the bar that night, she had everyone assuming/fooled that we were a couple. (I still havn't gotten a proper read on her)
Then the next night we wen't up to my cousins (neutral ground) to watch movies and she said she had a sore back so i started rubbing it while we were watching movies.
Suday comes along and she calls me from some noisey place and says she has something to tell me but can't hear me so she'll call back later. She then calls me monday to say shes going up to my cousins to use his hot tub and asked if i wanted to join. (wtf??) I said that i was already up there, visiting him. So we get into the hot tub and my cousins in his shower, and she comes over to me and says "I don't know if i am giving out the wrong signals but im not looking for a boyfriend." And i told her that was fine because my original concern was her schooling. So i drop her off after wards and head back to my cousins and the first thing he says is "did she talk to me???"
I said ya why and he goes "she wanted to get me to tell you that but i told her no that she had to do it herself, so it doesn't look like im trying to do anything with her behind your back." My cousin said he would never do anything with her and I trust him cause hes like an older brother to me.
So the week goes on and im kinda hurt cause no all my old co-workers at the bar are asking me about her and i can only say we're just friends even after the show she put on the previous weekend. And its baffled me how she went from all over me to nothing at the drop of a dime, but then the following friday she comes into the bar with my cousin and his friend. Now im really confused and i had just gotten off working 4 days at the hospital, so im not in a good mood to begin with and she thinks that I am angry with her. So she calls me the next day asking why i was an asshole and i told her I wasn't i was just not having the best of days, and then she questions me on why it seemed like everytime i looked at her i was angry and i had no answer to it so she hung up. Due to the actions of the previous night my friend the dj wanted to get things strait with her so he sent her an email, i guess she read it the sunday, and tried to phone me about it but i was at work at the hospital where cell phones are not permitted. Some one in my house heard my cell phone ring and picked it up clearing any message of a missed call. So i go upstairs after work reheat some taco, go onto the computer to check up on any new Penis Enlargement info and she comes on MSN saying "I don't appreciate you not answering you phone, and i don't appreciate the email the dj sent me!!" and im like WTF i worked at the hospital all day so i didn't have my phone on me and what email did the dj send to you.
So she forwards me the email and says I don't really want to talk to you any more bye.
And that is how this dilema got to be where it is at.
I don't know what to do and i finally got to the point where i don't really care, althought i still would like to see her get back to the position she was at before her parents sent her out here.
So i guess I still kinda have feelings for her but i think i would view them as feelings towards a sisters hot friend. where you wanna do something with them but you don't.
So i dunno what to do and that is where it stands, i have been in contact with her i think 3 times since the email, and i have been trying to figure out what i did to cause her to pull the 180 and a cant.
Any advice would be great.
And if your wondering im really quite a shy person and i do suffer from depression so that is why i didn't make a move anytime I really had the chance, that and im a couple years older then her so i don't want it to look like i was forcing anything to happen.
Thanks BcBoy.
*and on a side note i tried to put up an avatar but it won't let me can someone pm me with instructions for that as i couldn't find them anywhere.