Do not tell ever! There is a certain type of woman that would understand this but they are very far in between. In a normal relationship your wife may become jealous of all of the work you’re doing on your penis. This jealousy is called penis envy and it’s something that, In most cases, is inevitable. If you can keep it to yourself do you so!
So it sounds like you're coming from the same place as Enrik. I guess the idea I'm picking on is what you're referring to as penis envy: the idea that a normal wife will be jealous of "all of the work" we do on our penises. I quote exactly the phrase "all the work" because that's exactly where things get muddy for me.
I'll explain.
Let's take a hypothetical PE-er. We'll call him 'Dick.' Dick tells his wife what he's been up to, and how much time he's been putting into it, and she's very upset. Dick thinks she's jealous of his dick, and pissed because she wants him to devote more time to 'being her slave.' The thing is, Dick might be right! At the same time, as I mentioned to Born, it's also possible that his wife is pissed because he
is spending too much time on PE. Maybe Dick has been neglecting his responsibilities! To borrow from scripture, since I know some of you are into that
, maybe Dick isn't bearing his cross. Maybe he's like Jonah, ignoring his divine calling and ending up in the belly of the whale until he cuts the crap and gets to work.
The problem is there is no one interpretation that is always right in every situation. For example, DLD, it's one thing for
you to spend hours a day on this. It's what you
do, professionally! If your lady is upset that you spend so much time/energy on this passion... then why is she with you?? What did she
expect? Then she probably
is being jealous and sili. But if
I spend that much time, it comes at the cost of other things that really are much more important for me to focus on. (Obviously PE is
not what I do professionally). So if
my wife thinks I'm spending too much time on it, it's more likely that she's coming from a place of love and concern and has a point. Maybe not, maybe I'm balancing everything fine, but it's more likely.
If you are with a high quality woman, mother material, you should be able to trust her to act and counsel you in your best interests, just as you would do for her. Sometimes that means telling you when you're being a doofus, because sometimes we all need that.
Having said all that, I should mention for clarity and transparency that I myself AM keeping it secret for now, and don't plan on mentioning anything until/unless she asks. (Unless I use it as a tactic in my shameless campaign to make her take action on her breasts
).
Dont tell all at once. PE is a taboo in most ppl minds and most of them will react like u are doing satanism or black magic but they dont understand that is like a bodybuilder who want to grow his muscles. Ppl minds are not ready for so much info on this, but if ur wife in general is openminded tell everything but slowly, little info every sometimes, so she will hear all at the end normally.
Me personally i ve told recently to my close friends that i m doing PE for 5 years explaining in short detail what is it and how it works. Most of them tried to demote and degrade what i was doing (asking why u r doing this ? // size doesnt matter // u were already average to big so why u want more // this is a lose /waste of time u should do something most creative ) but i just realized that they were just jealous of what i was doing and they wanted to do this too but they didnt have the mood or just shy to ask me for details as i told them that this is difficult too, it needs time effort and discipline like bodybuilding or marathon running.
But anyway telling them what i was doing i felt better and as time passes, they will get used to it.
And then Emmanuil goes and tells his friends, too. :D
Assuming you tell, I definitely like the idea of bringing it up gradually. It makes big a difference, too, if you already have
results to show by the time you've mentioned the work you're doing. Especially with other male friends, you can lead with 'my dick grew ______' and then the PE itself doesn't matter so much because they know it isn't BS.
TLDR: keep it to yourself and let your girl know it's all her doing
I like it, Big.
I do wonder how well that will work when, as FullBlood mentioned, the size difference is really striking. If it takes a few years, sure, that could be gradual enough if your lady isn't very familiar with the male body. My wife was a virgin when we met, so I can count on her being pretty clueless in that department. :D But some people pack on multiple inches in less than a year. That's a big difference! And that's what I'm aiming for.
I think a wife or a girlfriend will never notice PE gains (only the gains not the exercises I'm talking about) even if you're living together. Why?
PE makes the gains unnoticeable.
In other words if you grow half an inch this won't be noticeable.
Then she has to do it for example with that 5 or 6 months unnoticeable half an inch.
Then the next months maybe another 5 or 6 months another half an inch. This can't be noticeable. That's 0.2 inch a month.
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But if you do PE like pumping or other stuff that makes your Dick fluid or that pumped look, and thick look for couple of hours. Then everyone will notice that directly.
And second. I don't think you can do PE effective if you don't say that to a woman you live with. Because PE is asking several ours a day.
My situation is pretty nice in this regard. I work mostly from home, and she does not. So I have a lot of opportunity to do work away from her on the weekdays.
I think you, MCBLZ, and Big are on to something when you talk about how gradual the process is, and how that could prevent her from even noticing something is up... although one can't take that for granted. Some PE-ers get pretty dramatic results!
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Good thread so far, guys. Y'all are making me think about this stuff. Thanks!