My sex issues.......Help

hello fellow members, im pretty new around here and just been doing a lot of reading around here and been gaining a lot of info. thanks guys. but I have a few questions for you guys.

well I've been wit my girl now fiance been together for 4 years now. she use to be a nympho for the sex. we are both 23. as we both grew older her sex drive started to dissapate. we don't have sex as much we use to.

now to the older guys, does stress and other daily issues and growing older dissapate the sex drive?


I really jus want to be a better lover and not feel real doubtful when she says it was good even though I feel I could have done a better performance.

also I notice she doesn't get as wett as she use to when she was a few years younger not sure if its me or stress that causes this. I also want to achieve more sex penetrated orgasm on her part over the oral orgasm she recieves from me

stress and all that, even pressures of marriage can cause all that. depression, not being where u want to in life....hell kids if you have em. when you get older its not about being a �naked people movies� star all the time. with older women and shes young it about feeling a connection. try more forplay. also you guys are old enough and been together long enough where you can aske her whats she want of what you can do better. she should open up if she loves you. good luck.

i thought women's sex drives gets greater as they hit their peak at 30 or so. Im with atlyroc with there being something more to it.

thanks for the response. u really helped me out and hitthe nail on the head with stress and pressure from her job. we have open conversations about sex and I ask her what can I do better and she says nothing. I jus have doubts about myself not performing to my fullness. but I do belive more forplay needs to play a bigger role. we both enjoy massages with oil. but sometimes she jus usually wants me to get her off orally and that's where my doubts come in its like she wants to ejaculate quickly and get it done and over but we rarely jus stop after she gets hers. I think I may need to try different sex positions to get her more active for her to enjoy it more. but im going to try longer foreplay

Theres Alway Something If Patterns Change. It Just Like When Guys Lose There Jobs Or Have Financial Trouble And Cant Provide. Many Of Them Become Impotent Etc. Causet They Feel Like Less Than A Man. Women Sometimes Feel Guilty About Things. Ot To Knock Anything But Could Be Lose Of Intrest Casue Of The Pressures Of Marriage Etc. Basically You Need To Sit Her Down And Talk And Just Show Her You Care. If You Notice Lack Of Sex Drive Think Harder And See If Anything Else Is Lacking Like Overall Desire For Your Presence And To Desire To Please You .

well I talked to her and everything is fine its just that she doesn't want to be worried about someone walking in on us cause other people stay in the house. also shes wanting to have a child with me but im just not ready until we get married. I already had a kid out of wedlock and im jus trying to get married before I hav another

that good you talked to her. it takes a big man to do that and she will respect you more. also you can do little things like a romantic getaway even in your own city jsut to give it some intrest. it will spark thing up a bit good luck

thanks im taking notes

The thing is... after 4 years, sex will always become a little boring and other things become a higher priority. This is what happens in marriage and the reason why married couples only average having sex a couple of times a week (at most). In order for sex to improve in both quality and frequency... you both have to want to work at it. You both have to find new ways of bringing excitement back in the bedroom. For some that may be toys/lingerie and for others it could be role playing. Find the one thing that will bring excitement back and you two will be tearing each others clothes off in no time.

To improve your love skills... you need to make sure you can keep at it for a while (kegels, kegels, kegels) and definitely include alot of foreplay. Plan on spending 30 minutes or so on just foreplay. When it comes time for actual sex, you need to work on varying your speed, tempo, and depth of your penetrations. This will give her different sensations as you work her pussy. You also want to learn to transition from one position to the next without having to stop, pull out, move into position, and then resume fucking. You should be able to go from missionary to any position without ever having to pull out. This takes a little bit of practice but once you get it down, she'll think you're a �naked people movies� star. Hope this helps...

thanks thats great info

Wang Chung;290514 said:

i thought women's sex drives gets greater as they hit their peak at 30 or so. Im with atlyroc with there being something more to it.

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Yea I think the sex drive keeps getting more intense, then levels off around 30 or so. I don't know, I'm almost 30 and have the sex drive that'll make Ben Afflack seem like a faggot.