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DoctorBiggie

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Few moths ago i was scared about why i didnt get an erection when i had my first sex.
Now... I have another problem.
Sex with my girlfriend lasts about 1 hour And more (few months i was still virgin).
i tried with condom, without condom, faster, slower and i don't know what it's the problem. And every time i ejaculate when i start masturbating at the end of sex.
when i have sex, i feel that my pelvic floor muscles are so contacted and maybe there is the problem.
any help please??
 
Oh no... ���� in last year very rare and in last 3 months nothing.
About masturbating, i can say yes. Almost every day (i used masturbating as warm-up for PE workout).
 
Orgasm comes when there is enough or more than enough arousal.....

Are you being aroused properly?
Have you been doing any substance abuse?
What about liquor or smoking?

Gonna need more information about you to help you.....
 
DoctorBiggie said:
when i have sex, i feel that my pelvic floor muscles are so contacted and maybe there is the problem.
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You should certainly try to relax that as a general rule, but that's not going to be your main issue. It's more likely a symptom of your main issue.

DoctorBiggie said:
Sex with my girlfriend lasts about 1 hour And more (few months i was still virgin).
i tried with condom, without condom, faster, slower and i don't know what it's the problem. And every time i ejaculate when i start masturbating at the end of sex.
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DoctorBiggie said:
About masturbating, i can say yes. Almost every day...
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Emphasis added!

So we know that you CAN, in fact, reach orgasm. You do so on a daily basis, with poorer physical stimulation than you get during sex. That's an important distinction, because now we know the problem is not physiological. It's something going on in your head! I would venture to guess that you're experiencing some self-fulfilling anxiety about all of this, and/or conditioning from daily masturbation.

When you have sex, how much are you thinking about your performance, and how much are you just enjoying yourself? That ratio should be in the neighborhood of 0:100. I highly recommend putting on your reading glasses for this book here. I know your problem isn't premature ejaculation, but PE, ED, the inability to ejaculate, etc can be different symptoms of the same psychological problems.
 
I'd limit your masturbation. It can desensitize you and rob you of some of the subtle feelings of a warm vagina. Also the more you orgasm the harder it is to orgasm and the longer it'll take. I ran into this same problem when I first started having sex. I'll second learning to relax and be in the moment as much as possible during sex as that'll help orgasm as well
 
No smoking, addiction and alcohol and same stuff.

Yeah... Im not really relaxed. My brain always running in 100% (this is in my nature, not only during sex).
And yeah, i always think about my performance, my gf and to please her (and im lucky, every time she has at least one orgasm.. i can build up to 3).

More then one week im not masturbating just at the end of sex, to make myself ejaculate.
 
DoctorBiggie said:
Few moths ago i was scared about why i didnt get an erection when i had my first sex.
Now... I have another problem.
Sex with my girlfriend lasts about 1 hour And more (few months i was still virgin).
i tried with condom, without condom, faster, slower and i don't know what it's the problem. And every time i ejaculate when i start masturbating at the end of sex.
when i have sex, i feel that my pelvic floor muscles are so contacted and maybe there is the problem.
any help please??
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Try foreskin restoration, that solved my problem with being unable to climax.
 
You should practice some meditation, and learn to relax your mind. It is worry that pangs. Don't you fret brother, she is more than enjoying you during intercourse. Orgasm is an extra plus, but doesn't determine if she is feeling pleasure during.
 
I was thinking about this ealier. High estrogen or low for that matter cause problems as well as prolactin. If nothing else get a cheap hormone panel done.
 
First, you should eliminate any frivolous masturbation. Not only does this deplete libido, you may very well be negatively conditioning yourself.

During training, you should perform the "reverse" Stop and Starts to decrease your time to the PONR (Point Of No Return) and to decrease your sensory threshold (requiring less stimulation to ejaculate). The Reverse Stop and Starts is performed using an extremely light grip and attempt to ejaculate as quickly as possible. That should help to reset your sensory threshold. It won't take too many of these sessions to reset your sensory threshold.
 
Bony Throbbins is correct (Guru joke, hope doesn't fall FLAT). Definitely take his advice, as he has helped, and continues to help, men from all walks of life.

Blessings...
 
Think about what you are doing when you masturbate.....
That sensation is what giving you an orgasm. And then, try to incorporate that sensation in your sex life....
 
Cut back on your masturbation because doing this every day is going to affect you in certain ways that may be negative. Go 2 weeks without masturbation and see if things change.
 
DoctorBiggie said:
No smoking, addiction and alcohol and same stuff.

Yeah... Im not really relaxed. My brain always running in 100% (this is in my nature, not only during sex).
And yeah, i always think about my performance, my gf and to please her (and im lucky, every time she has at least one orgasm.. i can build up to 3).

More then one week im not masturbating just at the end of sex, to make myself ejaculate.
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That sounds great gotta get a warm pussy myself too
 
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DoctorBiggie said:
Yeah... Im not really relaxed. My brain always running in 100% (this is in my nature, not only during sex).
And yeah, i always think about my performance, my gf and to please her (and im lucky, every time she has at least one orgasm.. i can build up to 3).
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That's what I figured. You know what isn't sexy at all? Being tested. How on earth do you expect yourself to climax to a friggin test?

Just have fun with your lady. You don't have to be a ���� star for her. She'll enjoy it more if you're present with her anyway, and you can send her to the moon with your fingers and tongue if you have to.
 
Brawn Johnson said:
That's what I figured. You know what isn't sexy at all? Being tested. How on earth do you expect yourself to climax to a friggin test?

Just have fun with your lady. You don't have to be a ���� star for her. She'll enjoy it more if you're present with her anyway, and you can send her to the moon with your fingers and tongue if you have to.
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Agreed! The more one feels tested, the more the encounter becomes performance-based. Once a certain emotional balance has tipped, this is where performance anxiety can come in.
 
Yeah, guys need to get this ���� way of looking at sex, indeed, even love making well out of the way.

It's not healthy, is completely false, nothing like real sexual life.

This is why to younger folk today growing up with easy instant ���� online, have distorted, weird beliefs about sex, before they even have a sexual encounter.

More and more studies are suggesting that ���� addiction is damaging to the viewers personality.

Personally, the Western world would be wise to censor most ���� sites, as the world is too sexualized, often to the wrong ones, not to mention how disrespectful ���� is to both genders, and all ethnicity
 
I will only be intimate if there is emotion. Just me. Just how I feel.

I was raised around some seriously depraved stuff, and ���� was a normal thing for me, at 7 years old and up. I grew up extremely insecure, and it hindered my entire childhood. No more. There is so much more. She... you... that magical, intimate, emotional moment....

Blessings. ...
 
REDZULU2003 said:
Yeah, guys need to get this ���� way of looking at sex, indeed, even love making well out of the way.

It's not healthy, is completely false, nothing like real sexual life.

This is why to younger folk today growing up with easy instant ���� online, have distorted, weird beliefs about sex, before they even have a sexual encounter.

More and more studies are suggesting that ���� addiction is damaging to the viewers personality.

Personally, the Western world would be wise to censor most ���� sites, as the world is too sexualized, often to the wrong ones, not to mention how disrespectful ���� is to both genders, and all ethnicity
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❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
 
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