FemaleInfluence;357365 said:
Lol I know a few guys who would be sending her a card at Christmas but really scandalous or smooth operator? And would that make her a whore or a woman with a healthy if somewhat questionable sexual appetite.
Well, while I'd use different terminology (I'll get to that later) I, personally, see no reason whatsoever that a single, adult woman of consenting age and rationality shouldn't express her sexuality in any way she chooses.
I look at it this way: biologically, the only valid reason to have sex is
procreation, however, being the only species on Earth that can voluntarily control its population we now enjoy sex for
recreation.
So, if we are all bangin' away like mad monkeys then the secondary valid reason to have sex is
mutual satisfaction. From that perspective, if one partner (let's face it= women mostly) is having sex that is unsatisfactory...then something is wrong. Either with the expectations leading up to the sex and/or what she believes she will derive from it, or in the actual sex itself.
(Therein lies the great grey region of what one might define as scandalous.
To me scandal simply means that people are talkin' about ya behind your back.
Basically it's a question of: why people do what they do and just what the "observers" believe those people should be doing instead, if anything.
Me, I really couldn't care less about "Public Opinion"; there's 6-7 billion people on the face of the Earth and there's no way in Hell to please 'em all, and no damn way to control what they think of me-be it right or wrong.)
I'd rather deal with what people actually
know about me,
that
I have control over. The conclusions they draw from the information I provide is theirs alone.
Simply put, many women have sex for a variety of wrong reasons.
Similarly, many men also have sex for a variety (although different, mostly) reasons.
Having said all that, I gotta say that if someone gets into a sexual relationship, however brief or lengthy, with either an ulterior motive, unreasonable expectations of the other person or sometimes simply a different assessment of the "relationship" then one or the other of them will come away...disappointed at the very least. Crushed, bitter and homicidal at worst.
So if a woman is intent on takin' a guy for all he's worth, and he accomodates her, then I say she's smooth. She met her objective and made him all hers.
She had a method to her mating and she accomplished her purpose.
(Nobody can take advantage of you without your permission, I always say)
I separate sexual behavior from moral or ethical conduct; if you're a bad person, you're a bad person. The vehicle of that conduct (sexual, financial, etc.) really makes no difference.
Now, if a woman is having sex for all the wrong reasons, I first call that kind of pathetic. (And the list of wrong reasons is as vast and varied as the number of people we're talking about here.) But if she is neglecting any responsibilities towards anyone who might depend on her; that, to me, is truly scandalous.
Here, I'd prefer the terms contemptible, pitiful, maybe even criminal.
Mostly because of the attendant behavior that surrounds most misplaced sexual promiscuity, i.e. drugs, alcohol, extended time away from family, loss of income, etc. And at this point it really doesn't matter if the sex is fukkin' mind-blowing or not.
If
one aspect of your life diminishes
all the rest of your life, something is tragically out of balance. And people, unfortunately, can become addicted to anything.
Now, as far as the term "whore" goes...well I've used that as an ass-smakkin'
term of endearment many a time. (The "terminology thang!)
And so has she.
So there's my take on it, for whatever it's worth, as rambling as it may have been.
. Though it was tough it just left her angry the next day. 
