Hidden Fears.....

hello guys, ive noticed alot of guy on here open up about thier problems and everyone seems to care so i thought maybe i could find maybe some answeers on here. this is goin to sound really fuckin pathetic but here goes.....ive always had a mental obstacle when it comes to havin sex. i could never fully get around 100% if im about to have sex..i dont know why this happens...i always seem to get aroused 100% most of the time when im by myself thinkin about certain females and wantin to ball them. but if i would get the chance to have sex with same females i was thinkin about i cant seem to consentrate and get 100% fully hard with the same females that i was thinkin about when i was alone fantasizin about them. its like if they are lookin at me while im fuckin them i get really uncomfortable and i feel like hidin from them. whenever these girls ever gave me a handjob i have to cover my face because i feel embarrased at them watchin me. another thing ive gotten compliments on this forum from you guys about my penis and im extremely thankful for that, but i always feel like any female that sees it wont like it or wont think its big enough for her. thats also another tought that makes my penis erections die or not get 100% if im with a female and we are about to have sex. ive never been a guy that sleeps around and thats by choice but all the girls ive had sexual encounters with have been my girlfriends at the time. its gotten so serious that theres alot of females im attracted to young and old and i could never be able to get with them because ive never been able to overcome these fears of mine. im not even 25 years old yet and theres somethings that i would like to try before i die and one of them is to have sex with an older female between 30-55 years of age. its always been a fantasy of mine ever since i was a little kid but ive never been able to do it because of all these fears. i have so many fears and they started to develop when i started growin up when i was in my mid teens thats when it got worst ive had ocd for a few years now and theres times i can beat the ocd and theres other times where that shit takes over my mind. i havent had a girlfriend in over 3 years because of all these fears i have in my head the shit gets so bad sometimes that it affects my life at times and i cant move foward with what i have to do.... theres times when its gotten so bad that i start fearin things that i never feared as a child or in the past....what the hell is wrong me?? theres times when i feel good about myself and theres other times where i dont feel like a "real man" why do i feel like im slightly losin my mind? can anyone relate to any of these things i have disscussed here or have any advice? thank you for readin my thread.

sounds to me like you have performance anxiety my friend. you just need to relax and stop thinking/worrying to much about stuff. you create problems for yourself that are not even there. size is not your problem, your thought process around women is. just try to relax.

pepepe;307271 said:

sounds to me like you have performance anxiety my friend. you just need to relax and stop thinking/worrying to much about stuff. you create problems for yourself that are not even there. size is not your problem, your thought process around women is. just try to relax.

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Thanks Penis Enlargement, i really hope i can atleast overcome that fear because thats just one of so many ive developed while growin up.

Benjamin Siegel;307274 said:

Thanks Penis Enlargement, i really hope i can atleast overcome that fear because thats just one of so many ive developed while growin up.

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youre physically fine its all in your head.

pepepe;307293 said:

youre physically fine its all in your head.

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thank you for caring Penis Enlargement. ill keep tryin to overcome these demons

Hey Ben, I recently overcame almost exactly what you have going on there. 'Performance Anxiety' it's really mind of matter and evidently there are quite a few psychologists around that deal with sexual anxiety only. About six months of talking, understanding and coping through exercizes with my GF, and using mediums to speak to others I'm fixed and it doesnt happen. In base the way it works is the more you think about it the more it happens, so half the issue is trying to forget makes you think about it more. My best advise is find a partner and admit this issue to them before any sexual activity, that way when you get in there you know it doesnt matter if you don't stay up - for me this thought process worked the second time and had no problems since. All I can say is get up to date (as I'm sure you are) with fingering/licking that way when you go down you don't feel bad about it, it only gives you another oppurtunity.

>>>>what the hell is wrong me??

to me thats the problem. you look at everything that i read so negative without any confidence at all you are the man. if you dont believe it nobody else will. many people famouse succeful al hae one thing in commonis believeing in themeselves in whatevr situation. even when they fail it doesnt bring them down. right now i think you have ingrained yourself wiht so much negativity that your true self wont come out. even if you have to fake confindece or attitude its something that can be learned adn developed. the more you stick to not trying things casue if bad feeling the more youset youself back from experienceing life. you keep doing what you are doing you end up where you at (tiger woods). step out of your element and your head.

Pyroxide;325709 said:

Hey Ben, I recently overcame almost exactly what you have going on there. 'Performance Anxiety' it's really mind of matter and evidently there are quite a few psychologists around that deal with sexual anxiety only. About six months of talking, understanding and coping through exercizes with my GF, and using mediums to speak to others I'm fixed and it doesnt happen. In base the way it works is the more you think about it the more it happens, so half the issue is trying to forget makes you think about it more. My best advise is find a partner and admit this issue to them before any sexual activity, that way when you get in there you know it doesnt matter if you don't stay up - for me this thought process worked the second time and had no problems since. All I can say is get up to date (as I'm sure you are) with fingering/licking that way when you go down you don't feel bad about it, it only gives you another oppurtunity.

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hey man, thanks for the advice youre right about that. the more i think about the errection thing the more it will happen.

atlyroc;325713 said:

>>>>what the hell is wrong me??

to me thats the problem. you look at everything that i read so negative without any confidence at all you are the man. if you dont believe it nobody else will. many people famouse succeful al hae one thing in commonis believeing in themeselves in whatevr situation. even when they fail it doesnt bring them down. right now i think you have ingrained yourself wiht so much negativity that your true self wont come out. even if you have to fake confindece or attitude its something that can be learned adn developed. the more you stick to not trying things casue if bad feeling the more youset youself back from experienceing life. you keep doing what you are doing you end up where you at (tiger woods). step out of your element and your head.

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Thank You, youre also right. a person is what they think they are in thier mind. i agree with the sayin "i can do it because i think i can". since this post i have opened up more and have overcome most of my shyness about approachin females. thanks so much for all you guys that posted advice on here for me.

Nothing from with you. I too started developing fear of sex after bad experience. I am still unsure of myself and don't think I can satisfy a woman. Your small penis makes your confidence small, too That's sad but true.

Kokobo;337001 said:

Nothing from with you. I too started developing fear of sex after bad experience. I am still unsure of myself and don't think I can satisfy a woman. Your small penis makes your confidence small, too That's sad but true.

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hey man, thanks for your advice. yea ive also noticed that when i start thinkin stupid shit or start gettin nervous, i start to have problems. but i try not to think of the negative shit. thats true ones penis can sometimes cause problems mentaly. dont worry man, youre here now and im sure with this website youll be able to achieve what you want. youll be able to enlarge your penis and at the same time youll be enlargin confidence in yourself.