Weekend afterthoughts.....

[thewife]

Not that you all really care about my sex life or anything. But I thought I'd share a little of what happened.

We had a sitter on Friday night. I made several comments to hubby this week about us trying some new things this weekend, I THOUGHT he was on track with me. I was disappointed when I found out Friday evening he hadn't even thought about it. Especially when I could think of nothing else all day long. I text him at lunch time telling him that I couldn't wait to suck his big cock and that I hoped he had something specail and sexy planned for me. He never got the text...therefore didn't make any plans etc. We ended up arguing at dinner. We got over it after a few drinks....but it still sucks that we aren't on the same page at ALL. I'm ready to drift into this alter ego and do dirty things, and he's hung up on getting a fishing license. Sigh......

So anyway. We had great sex that night, but not what I was building up to. We had sex every night this weekend, and tried some new things:

The position where I keep my legs together while he penetrates me missionary style. Didn't work. He couldn't get it in???

Lifting me up with his dick - whoever suggested that is a genious. AWESOME.

I read the entire article about female ejaculation, and think I have done it before. Hubby didn't read it....so well see if he takes the initave himself.

He did read the "newbie routine" and his comment was "this is basically just jacking off". I said yea, but what about the stretches. He showed me how he was having a hard time getting his dick between his ass becuase of his ball sack (it's big).....but he was going to try. He said basically he needed to be doing it all day long. We had a real open conversation about it. I basically played dumb and said "whatever you think honey....this is guy stuff....I just got you the info.".

I'm sort of disappointed because he's just not getting it. I tried to explain to him that I'm reading all this info., buying stuff ,and really getting into our intamacy so it makes me feel stupid that he's not as into it. And when I feel stupid, I shut down. I told him that if he didn't want to take it the next level we could just continue our marriage and sex life the way it was - boring. He agreed and said he'd try....I told him I wasn't expecting anything grand.....just show me that your into it and me as much as I am.

We shall see....meanwhile.....I'm having to realease all this sexual energy whenever I can. It's like I'm turned on 24/7 - maybe I'm reaching my peak or somehting?? I know he's not complaining....but also not taking full advantage of it. Weird.....

Thanks for getting this far if you did.....and for everyone who gave me suggestions....THANKS!

Peace.

 

[Baraka]

Don't be discouraged. He'll come around eventually. There ain't a guy out there who isn't willing to at least try making their cock a little bigger. Did you suggest any girth exercises for him? If you did, what did he say? You should tell him that you've seen some wrist-thick cocks in adult entertainment and you've always wondered what it would be liked to be stuffed with something that thick. If that doesn't motive him... uh, I don't know what will.

Something you could try, if you haven't already, is to watch some high quality adult entertainment with your husband. Stuff with white and black monster cocks, anals, DPs, etc. Maybe even some squirting vids. Once he sees what's possible, he may get very motivated. It's always best to motivate by example and action, rather than just words. Try doing it and see what happens...

 

[MAXAMEYES]

Also, don't forget, that as "on-board" with the whole program he may seem to be on the surface, there still may be an undercurrent of animosity on his part. He may not even be conciously aware of it, but every time you bring up the subject it may register deep inside him as a dig, one further little twist of the knife. As honest and sincere as you may be, your husband might take each "intrusion" of your interest as an accusation of his inadequacy. And, again, he may not be conciously aware of it.
Life itself goes in cycles, know when push, know when to hold, know when to pull back.

 

[thewife]

Good point. I guess it's just feels almsot like rejection to me . Correct me if I'm wrong, but wouldn't most married men who had been with their spouce for 8 years doing the same old routine get a little "keyed up" knowing their wife is basically salavating at the mouth for a more complex and intimate sex life??? It just doesn't seem to phase him, and makes me wonder if he's getting it somewhere else that is even spicer than what I'm offering. I just never imagined telling my husband some of the dirty and arousing things I've told him, and get next to NO responce from him.

The whole Penis Enlargement thing isn't even what I'm after....it would be a major perk, but basically I just want him to want me......and want to try different things. I want HIM to come home all hot and bothered from thinking about ME all day....the wasy I do him. It doesn't happen.

Who knows.....but your point is well taken. I don't have a clue whats going on in his head - as much as I'd like to think I do....I don't. Maybe I am making him feel inadaquate and don't even realize it. Now that I think of it, ever time I'd suggest a new position or him lifting me with his dick - he got a little defensive and said "well, I already do that sometimes, but I guess you didn't notice".

And they say WOMEN are hard to understand - puuulease! Not at all....I'm pretty clear about what I want....HE'S the one being difficult here...... :sigh:

Also, don't forget, that as "on-board" with the whole program he may seem to be on the surface, there still may be an undercurrent of animosity on his part. He may not even be conciously aware of it, but every time you bring up the subject it may register deep inside him as a dig, one further little twist of the knife. As honest and sincere as you may be, your husband might take each "intrusion" of your interest as an accusation of his inadequacy. And, again, he may not be conciously aware of it.
Life itself goes in cycles, know when push, know when to hold, know when to pull back.

 

[Chi]

And they say WOMEN are hard to understand - puuulease! Not at all....I'm pretty clear about what I want....HE'S the one being difficult here...... :sigh:

That`s what a woman would say. And of course, he would probably be thinking what the hell got into her. See what I´m saying?

You are out of synch here. All of a sudden (I understand you had it in you btw) he is watching how you are showing you want a lot more than what you currently have. On top of all your efforts, you want him to get a bigger penis so... maybe the pressure is on?

You can´t just say you want better sex from now on. If you breaks it like that, then he`ll be thinking before was no good. Slow down, baby steps will still take you there and you can very well enjoy the ride too. When he`s comfortable with it he`ll probably take the iniciative too. We men want to be on top of it after all.

 

[goldmember]

Damn, Wife, I wish my girlfriend would motivate me to the level you take it. I wish my girlffriend would demand more out of me (as incentive to keep bettering myself) but she always tells me sex is grand, I don't want you to last any longer, etc. etc. I know you started this thread for advice, but can I ask you something? What can I do to get my girlfriend to demand more out of me?

 

[MAXAMEYES]

I don't have a clue whats going on in his head - as much as I'd like to think I do....I don't.

And he might not know either, sometimes things take a while to get sorted out, even inside our own heads. Relationships can be complicated, they take energy, they need care and attention. Communication is absolutely essential; free, open, frequent and constructive communication. And even that can be difficult, from time to time.

 

[thewife]

Yea, I get it. I will slow down and continue w/ my subtle approach. Maybe he wants to take the lead and I haven't given him the chance. Never thought of that. I guess I have to let go of some control (hard for me ) and let him do his thing. Duh, that seems like such an obvious thing, but I got myself wrapped up. You have good advice....thank you for opening my eyes a little. Things are going to be good from here on out I think.

That`s what a woman would say. And of course, he would probably be thinking what the hell got into her. See what I´m saying?

You are out of synch here. All of a sudden (I understand you had it in you btw) he is watching how you are showing you want a lot more than what you currently have. On top of all your efforts, you want him to get a bigger penis so... maybe the pressure is on?

You can´t just say you want better sex from now on. If you breaks it like that, then he`ll be thinking before was no good. Slow down, baby steps will still take you there and you can very well enjoy the ride too. When he`s comfortable with it he`ll probably take the iniciative too. We men want to be on top of it after all.

 

[thewife]

Sounds to me like your GF is satisified with you. Honestly the fact that you ask her if the sex is good, and start the coversation tells me that you are probably an attentive lover to her. That is ALL A WOMAN WANTS! I'm sure she wouldn't lie to you if it wasn't....and you would know if she was. So, way to go.....sounds like your keeping her more than happy and checking with her ever so often is the icing on the cake for her I'm sure.

Now, if you wanted your GF to litterally be more demanding or take more charge in the bedroom.....definatly go there with her. Tell her to tie you up, or ask her if you can tie her up. WHen she sees how good it feels to just sit back and receive - I bet she will want to do it to you. Sometimes hubby and I just tell one another to put our hands behind our head as if they were stuck there....total suBathmateission is very hot. This new found sence of control might make her take the reins.

HTH??

Damn, Wife, I wish my girlfriend would motivate me to the level you take it. I wish my girlffriend would demand more out of me (as incentive to keep bettering myself) but she always tells me sex is grand, I don't want you to last any longer, etc. etc. I know you started this thread for advice, but can I ask you something? What can I do to get my girlfriend to demand more out of me?

 

[sporty]

the best thing you could do in my opinion is have a deep conversation with your partner. you need to tell him exactly what you're telling us, about how much this means to you and how you feel that he is on another wavelength when it comes to sex.

if he gets defensive, don't say anything to escalate it, just take a step back and let him say his piece.

i would think that a good heart to heart is probably more appropriate right now than any sex position or techniques.

wish you the best.

 

[goldmember]

Sounds to me like your GF is satisified with you. Honestly the fact that you ask her if the sex is good, and start the coversation tells me that you are probably an attentive lover to her. That is ALL A WOMAN WANTS! I'm sure she wouldn't lie to you if it wasn't....and you would know if she was. So, way to go.....sounds like your keeping her more than happy and checking with her ever so often is the icing on the cake for her I'm sure.

Now, if you wanted your GF to litterally be more demanding or take more charge in the bedroom.....definatly go there with her. Tell her to tie you up, or ask her if you can tie her up. WHen she sees how good it feels to just sit back and receive - I bet she will want to do it to you. Sometimes hubby and I just tell one another to put our hands behind our head as if they were stuck there....total suBathmateission is very hot. This new found sence of control might make her take the reins.

HTH??

Thanks for the input. It really was a self-esteem booster

Usually, we trade off in taking charge, although I tend to take charge more often. Maybe I could ask her to take charge more often, though. Good advice.

As far as demanding more, I was thinking more along the lines of wanting more dick, more [words=http://fleshlight.sjv.io/c/348327/302851/4702]stamina[/words], more sex. She has a healthy sex drive, and I'm sure we'd be having sex three times a day if we had the time. Just wish she would be more demanding lol

PS. What is HTH mean?

 

[thewife]

PS. What is HTH mean?

Hope that helps

 

[TomdW]

All these abreviations to remember. Soon we will have created a unique internet language where by we only ever use abreviations and never actually write the full words out.

IMO, IMHO, BTW, LOL, WTF, HTH. Not to mention BPenis EnlargementL, BPSFL, NBPenis EnlargementL, NBPSFL, BPFL, NBPFL, EG, OTS, BTC, SO. The list goes on.

Sometimes recently I've actually nearly said IMO out loud in conversation. Now that's FU (fucked up)

 

[goldmember]

Hope that helps

Thank you, and "yes" it did. I agree, so many abbrev.