Is my girlfriend bored?

[Castor]

I've known my girlfirend for about 4 years, been together for over a year now. she lost her virginity when she was 14, shes 17 now. shes been with 2 different guys and i actually stole her away from her last bf. we have a amazing relationship, know eachother inside and out. with her previous bf she was a complete nympho and big partier, doing ecstacy and shit, tellin me that that she would have sex 5 times a day n shit. she was tellin me this when we were just friends, then we happen to hook up and fall in love.
so we first started going out she was a big nympho wantin it all the time, i had a pre ejac problem but that didnt stop us, we would do it 3 times a day. She was always givin me the devilish eye and ready to do it anywhere. After 5 months or so it seemded to die down. now 15 months later im lucky if i get it 3 times a month. Now, there are other factors, like school, work, parents always home, so we cant always have sex. but even when we do have time shes not really into it, and when i talk about it a school or whatever she just sort of shrugs it off. she never tells me she wants me anymore or anything like that. not like she used to. Also she has never climaxed in her life, she tells me i will be the one to give it to her as shes come closest with me, but i hardly get the chance anymore. What could be the meaning of all this.. is she bored, is she getting it somewhere else, do i just suck in bed that bad? i need some help guys, this is killin me.

 

[Pandora]

You ever give her oral.

 

[Castor]

oh yea of course. her puss tends to have a real strong taste most the time tho. like ill be sittin beside her and sometimes i can smell it. shes not dirty or anything, but its just a really strong smell tatse. its usually better when she wears cotton underwear but thats not very often. is there anything to aid in odour, like those wipes n shit, diet, anything?
And yea i give her oral when i can, i dont think im bad at it but if you got any tips let me know.

 

[Pandora]

Well its just that you say she has never had a orgasm. Have you given her a clitoris orgasm then.

There is this little video here.
http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showthread.php?t=25002&highlight=pussy

But it you want something more in depth you would have to download from a torrent site somewhere. Just do a search for How to eat pussy or something like that.

 

[penguinsfan]

oh yea of course. her puss tends to have a real strong taste most the time tho. like ill be sittin beside her and sometimes i can smell it. shes not dirty or anything, but its just a really strong smell tatse. its usually better when she wears cotton underwear but thats not very often. is there anything to aid in odour, like those wipes n shit, diet, anything?
And yea i give her oral when i can, i dont think im bad at it but if you got any tips let me know.

I must be the only guy in the world that has never been around pussy with a particularly strong smell or taste. Now, I suppose I haven't been around all that much pussy and if I posted my photo you'd understand why, but I can't imagine having any reservations about ever doing the job. Anyway, there probably is something that can help, but it's not my area of expertise.

As for the original question, yes, she probably is bored. Doesn't mean she doesn't like you anymore or anything, but it just seems to be reality. I mean, do most couples have as much sex after 20 years together as they did after 20 days together or weeks together? Probably not. It's just reality.

 

[aeroth]

She's only 17....to be honest she might feel tied down or something...I don't know though I don't want to give you bad advice here and my word isn't golden, but it does seem she's not as into it then with her track record and her age she may well be "bored" by the way how old are you? If you're still in high school too...to be honest....I'd tell you to play the field for one so you're more experienced...for two it might make her realize sex isn't going to be much better elsewhere.


I don't know she sounds kind of like a bit of an explorer and she may still like you a lot and you two have a great connection, but until she's ready to be with you exclusively in all ways she will continue to shrug it off. Who knows man who knows sorry I can't be more helpful

 

[penguinsfan]

BTW, I wonder what do strippers do to absolutely kill any trace of pussy aroma? I have never had any detection of any anytime I've had pussy shoved in my face for a mere $1.00, which is one of the best things a man can buy for a dollar.

 

[REDZULU2003]

My take is she is maybe busy or alittle down at the moment ... doesnt mean with you.

Talk to her ... ask her has she gone off you and explain why your asking this ... ask her does she still care for you and your asking because you dont have sex much anymore and worried if she had a problem ... if she says no problem than leave it and dont pester her again as she will see it as insecurity or weakness ... I dont think she is cheating but if you THINK she is than do some private investigations ... I would only do that if worse came to the worse though.

My gut instinct is she is either busy with life or work .. maybe depressed even and doesnt want to have sex much right now.

Good thing is she has calmed down from the last guy and said to you straight she would only climax with you ... both of you know oneanother inside out so that means something.

Sit down and talk to her ... if you havent been giving her much attention at all than buy her something such as flowers or whatever she likes ... give it to her and explain why you are doing that i.e you have negelected her and this is youeway of showing how much you love her.

DONT MAKE A HABIT OF BUYING A WOMAN MANY GIFTS TOO OFTEN THOUGH!!!

Try to caress her more, massage her back and stroke her .... cuddles etc etc etc these can be better than sex IMHO and can lead to it easier ... try the smell method, hard to explain but I have it to a fine art ... you seductively smell her neck and say she smells gorgeous and you want her sooo badly ... woman love LOVE to be smelled.

All the best

 

[Castor]

Good Stuff Zulu, thanks. Now I talked to her last night over the phone and fought for quite awhile. In the end i just told her shes right im wrong. She bought it and now things are better. But she didnt completely ignore what i said as she is now telling me she cant wait to come over today and go to the baseball diamond in my truck so we can be alone . But ill take your advice Zulu and just stop expecting sex, and go about it a different way and make her want me. If i fulfill her needs she will fullfill mine.
As for you other guys, your help is appreciated but I dont thinks she is looking for another partner. I know shes young but she said shes done screwin around and wants to settle down with me. Now, I have trouble trusting people but I will do my best to trust what she says. I am young, only 20 years old next month, and I actually did lose my virginity to this girl a couple years ago and shes the only one ive been with. Im a very loyal person and I dont even really want to play the field. Everyone tells me there is no way I can ever be with one person my whole life, maybe they are right, but right now i dont see the need to cheat on her when shes probably the best ill ever have anyway. Trust me, this girl is smokin. hourglass curvy body with a nice plump ass, C-cup, and big green eyes that could make her a mabeylline model. Maybe ill post some pics or a vid one day. Anyway the help and opinions are appreciated guys.

 

[neondrvr]

As far as the stinch goes. Does she shave? My X wife always had the fishy smell and taste to her and I've been told by other females it was probably because she didn't shave and the hair was containing alot of the smell. If it smells all the time she may have a physical or medical problem. Just try and make sure she is fresh out of the shower before you journey down there. I won't even consider going down on my wife if she hasn't just gotten out of the shower. It's freshly clean then As far as the sex thing goes she could have just been fealing guilty for being so sexual at such a young age. You know how girls are, she may have been talking to some friends and they made comments about how much sex she had and she got a little embarassed.

 

[Castor]

shes always clean shaven, and i have noticed some discharge in her panties, like a yellow goopy shit. is that normal?

 

[goldmember]

shes always clean shaven, and i have noticed some discharge in her panties, like a yellow goopy shit. is that normal?

I don't think that's normal. Could be a yeast infection...

 

[Riven650]

It might be that your g/f is aware that her vaginal smell is a problem and is sexually inhibited because of it. The fact that her pussy smells better when she wears cotton panties is a bit of a give away. My wife cannot wear pants made from man-made fabric. If she does, she always gets a yeast infection (or fungal infection often known as 'thrush'). A healthy girl's pussy will always leave a little sticky patch in her knickers - that's normal - but it is usually whiteish and shouldn't smell nasty if it's reasonably fresh. If your g/f has a strong, unpleasant fishy smell, and a yellow discharge, she should consult her doctor because she probably does have thrush. You should not have sex until it is cleared up because you can catch it, and you can get it orally too. For goodness' sake don't worry too much about this one though, as your natural defences should be able to deal with such a low grade infection.

In the meantime, get her to switch to panties made from cotton, avoid wearing any tight, man-made fabric clothes (ie. nylon pantyhose, or lycra cycle shorts). She should look at improving her diet, hydration, exercise, sleep. All of which should feed back positively on each other and improve her health AND her appetite for sex. She should also be careful to wash away any smegma caught in the folds of her labia - particularly beneath her clit hood. Most girls are not taught to do this.

I don't agree with guys who say that a woman's pussy will only smell nice straight after showering. In my experience, healthy girls who wash themselves properly and change their pants daily tend to smell good all day.

 

[REDZULU2003]

I would agree with Riven on the hygiene advice and what he has also noticed with regards to female smells down below.

Castor, you sound like a nice young man and I hope all goes well for you ... infact you remind me of a good freind in real life ... hard to explain why but its just in my head ... anyways makesure you dont always give in to her, this is another topic ... woman want a strong man who they can fall back on not a door mat ... I aint saying you are for one minute, just that if you always agree with her or admit your wrong etc etc than she will see this as weakness .. all woman do and wont admit it.

Be confident and strong ... make a decision and act upon it ... woman love you for that.

Inform us how it all goes.

 

[penguinsfan]

But she didnt completely ignore what i said as she is now telling me she cant wait to come over today and go to the baseball diamond in my truck so we can be alone .

:clap:

Trust me, this girl is smokin. hourglass curvy body with a nice plump ass, C-cup, and big green eyes that could make her a mabeylline model. Maybe ill post some pics or a vid one day.

:clap:

 

[Castor]

Ok, Riven's analysis seems reasonable. IF this is the case how should I approach her about this? She knows it smells, after a day of sitting in class she usually tells me not to go down on her cause its going to taste bad. I think she thinks its normal though, and i guess i did too. I should also note that I never wore a condom until recently and ive tried not to blow in her as much as I thought it may be the reason of the smell.

And ya Zulu I know i shouldnt give in, and i normally dont, but i thought i would try something different this time. I think i do have trouble admitting im wrong so if I just accept it once in awhile im sure it wont do any harm.

My overall question here is just how can I approach her with this issue without offending her? We are very close and comfortable with eachother but she is quite sensitive and i just dont want to embarass her or offend her.
Again, thanks for all the help.

 

[goldmember]

Check yourself for an STD bro.

 

[Castor]

Check yourself for an STD bro.

why? me or her? she had a physical today, and believes everything went well. Test results will come in later. She was reccomended for HPV shots though. dont know if that means anything, personally i think its a money grab, especially @ $170 per shot. These shots are just supposed to help prevent genital warts and such. Dont think he found any noticeable STD's or im sure he would of said something.

 

[Riven650]

The spores of the fungus that causes 'thrush' are in the environment. They just need the right conditions to breed. It's very similar to the fungus that causes 'athlete's foot' - a condition I tend to suffer from if I wear socks made from man made fibre (this is the reason I know so much about this issue). Somehow, you need to choose your moment and clue your girl up about this issue.

It's important to start by saying something positive. You could tell her that she smells nicer after wearing cotton panties. You cauld also say that you have read about this issue. Maybe you could buy her a couple of pairs of nice little cotton pants?

Whenever the doctor prescribes antibiotics for my wife for whatever reason, she always asks for a prescription of a Canisten (I think that's how it's spelt) pessary as well, so that she can immediately treat the inevitable outbreak of thrush that she gets after taking the antibiotics. What happens is; the antibiotics kill off the 'good' bacteria that live in the vagina and this changes the environment (probably the ph) and allows the thrush fungus to multiply, in turn causing soreness and discharge.

Whether any of this answers your original question 'Is my g/f bored?' I'm not sure. I guess only she knows the answer to that. But to be honest, if you can't talk about matters of sexual health, etc. with her I don't think the relationship is all that good yet. Be bold and talk to her about things that are on your mind. If she acts as though you're wierd then I think you have to come to terms with the fact that she's not very grown up and perhaps isn't really ready for a sensible relationship with a nice chap like you.

 

[penguinsfan]

My overall question here is just how can I approach her with this issue without offending her? We are very close and comfortable with eachother but she is quite sensitive and i just dont want to embarass her or offend her.
Again, thanks for all the help.

Tell her it's probably just a mild infection that the doctor can probably clear right up, which it likely is. Also, tell her it could have been caused by some semen from you, which it could have, from what I've heard. Just be gentle and let her know it's not anything she has done, such as a hygeine issue, but just a bacterial matter that should be easy to correct.

 

[Castor]

why? me or her? I've only ever been with her. And she had a physical today, and believes everything went well. Test results will come in later. She was reccomended for HPV shots though. dont know if that means anything, personally i think its a money grab, especially @ $170 per shot. These shots are just supposed to help prevent genital warts and such. Dont think he found any noticeable STD's or im sure he would of said something.

 

[Reber187]

oh yea of course. her puss tends to have a real strong taste most the time tho. like ill be sittin beside her and sometimes i can smell it. shes not dirty or anything, but its just a really strong smell tatse.

i had this kinda problem when i unbeknowningly sat down next to a female tramp on the tube... i moved.


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