Is it normal to finish quickly with a new partner but not during solo sessions?

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GillPicard

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When I’m alone, I can control things pretty well, but with a partner, especially someone new, I lose control fast. Is this common, and what’s the reason behind it?
 
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GillPicard said:
When I’m alone, I can control things pretty well, but with a partner, especially someone new, I lose control fast. Is this common, and what’s the reason behind it?
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You answer your own question right off the bat. When you are alone, you can control the situation at your own pace. Even with adult entertainment materials, which we don't encourage at all as they create PIED issues, you can still control the amount of excitement and stimulation. However, with a partner, all that goes out the door. You may think you're in control, but the stimulation types are different, and so are the level of hormones that causes you to ejaculate because the instinct of the male body is to fertilize the female. You can read on the oxytocin levels during sexual arousal with a partner vs when it's self-stimulated. The levels are way different. Your testosterone will have a sudden spike to keep your endurance up, and the conversion of dopamine will occur at the same time. Because of this, you have to retrain your mind and body to do things differently. Even those who have sexual partners for decades and our training susceptible to this. My last session lasted only 25 minutes or so compared to 40 minutes or more.
 
Hard to say if that herbal supplement will help - let us know your results. In my experience (long time premature ejaculation sufferer), it's mostly mental but also a function of your "kegel" muscle strength and your mind-body connection between the two. Check out the book "The Multi-Orgasmic Man" by Chia & Abrams. Practice on your own will make you more confident with partners(new and old).

Also - give yourself a break on the judgement too - most woment don;t care if you come quickly SOMETIMES, especially at first. Make her come with your mouth or fingers first and then fuck her right after she orgasms. Over time, you will last longer.

If all else fails, viagara or cialis can also help with PE in specific dosages - but just don't become reliant on them - do the work to build a skill.

HTH
 
It's roughly 60% mental, while the other 40% is retraining your body to control the sensitivity. Premature release has been studied by societies all over the world for thousands of years, mainly by the ancient high societies that used to have multiple partners. I lost count of how many scrolls came from Asia, Egypt, Byzantine Empire, and even the Greek and Roman literatures. They came up with some crazy techniques and methods to control their premature releases that baffled even the modern medical world.
 
oldandlively said:
It's roughly 60% mental, while the other 40% is retraining your body to control the sensitivity. Premature release has been studied by societies all over the world for thousands of years, mainly by the ancient high societies that used to have multiple partners. I lost count of how many scrolls came from Asia, Egypt, Byzantine Empire, and even the Greek and Roman literatures. They came up with some crazy techniques and methods to control their premature releases that baffled even the modern medical world.
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Like what technique were they using?
 
DLD said:
Like what technique were they using?
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Electrocution, penis slapping, glans desensitizing using herbal extracts (modern day numbing creams) and leeches or stinging ants (yepper), application of peppers (capsaicin) to numb the glans, using bundled straws or rawhides to whip the penis (S&M anyone?), and the best one yet, a hired mouth to constantly bite and nibble the penis. Forget foreplay before BJ, that's extreme conditioning.
 
Wow! Pretty extreme. I guess they wanted our ways thousands of years ago. Never do something like that 😕
 
I had Premature ejaculation for years. 20 years to be specific. The trick is to take everything in a "relax" state. PE mostly comes from low self estimation and from the push of your kegels that are moving like crazy. I found out that doing reverse kegels daily all the time - along with a therapist for personal issues, fixed the issue.
But ofc you can add a mix to fix things like cialis 5mg daily + ashwagandgha + rhodiola and you are good to go
 
kriskros said:
I had Premature ejaculation for years. 20 years to be specific. The trick is to take everything in a "relax" state. PE mostly comes from low self estimation and from the push of your kegels that are moving like crazy. I found out that doing reverse kegels daily all the time - along with a therapist for personal issues, fixed the issue.
But ofc you can add a mix to fix things like cialis 5mg daily + ashwagandgha + rhodiola and you are good to go
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Great advice!
 
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