hello there first and foremost Im a virgin. Im 27 years and Im boring as hell. I have no social life whatsoever. I have no friends. What can I do to improve my dating life. I dont know how to ask a girl out. And even if I did I honestly dont have anything to talk about. Conversation is the main thing I need to focus on. If I could improve my social skills that most definitively help but I dont know how.
how to date when youre boring as hell
LONGERDICK7+
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Well Sometimes knowing people can be an amazing experience,when that people is kind, educated,and they share things and knowledge they think is useful for you is great.
Unfortunately knowing people thats is the complete opposite annoying,rude,and inconsiderate can be a really bad experience...
:Orofl
Unfortunately knowing people thats is the complete opposite annoying,rude,and inconsiderate can be a really bad experience...
:Orofl
LONGERDICK7+
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Dont worry man you have plenty of time ahead
start your routine,get bigger,youd get more confident...
start your routine,get bigger,youd get more confident...Big Schwanz Acht
@Big Schwanz Acht
What do you truly enjoy to do? You're more interesting when you can be your authentic self and having a good time. Positive energy will exude from your pores when you're happy and engaged in an activity that really gets you going. I'm stealing this next part from an older/obscure movie called The Tao of Steve...'be excellent in one thing'. Doesn't matter what that one thing is, just be excellent at it. Once you start gaining down below, you'll also project much more confidence and people will automatically gravitate toward that confidence.
Good luck and as was mentioned before, you have lots of time to find your Tao
Good luck and as was mentioned before, you have lots of time to find your Tao
Ok...this comes with a disclaimer..."Honesty is the best policy"...however, if you are "boring as Hell", why not become someone else? If you are looking for a wife, you should stick to honesty. If you are just looking to get laid or even have more fun in life, having stories to tell to females is priceless. Some will be 100% honest, some will be a mix of honesty and a little stretching of the truth, and some will be mostly or totally made up. There are many "coaches" out there that you can follow, and there's a lot of bullshit advice, but nearly all of them will talk about the importance of having stories to tell. Forget a big dick,a handsome face...monster bank account...being able to have a conversation with a woman will open more doors or drop more panties (having them as a friend, girlfriend, acquaintance, fuck mate...whatever) than everything else combined. The basis of those conversations will be stories about experiences you've had (or a friend, real or imagined) today, last week, or maybe 5 years ago.
I would cultivate your ability to tell stories. Look up guys like Carlos Zuma, Badboy, Vince Kelvin, Tom Torero...there are dozens more...who will show you how to become an interesting guy, even if you're not right now. At some point, even if you have to fake being an interesting guy in the beginning, you will become a legitimate interesting guy.
I would cultivate your ability to tell stories. Look up guys like Carlos Zuma, Badboy, Vince Kelvin, Tom Torero...there are dozens more...who will show you how to become an interesting guy, even if you're not right now. At some point, even if you have to fake being an interesting guy in the beginning, you will become a legitimate interesting guy.
Two things made me man up:
-Nearly losing my father to illness
-Being introduced to powerlifting after rehab and counseling for substance abuse.
I was a wimpy kid with no confidence. Almost losing my father taught me to never procrastinate in life. Just live, love and do before it is too late.
Powerlifting not only gave me physical strength, it gave me discipline. Before, I hated the gym. My cousin tried to get me into body building while I was in rehab but I found it all so boring. Powerlifting took a while but it became an outlet for me to channel all the negative feelings I had about myself and grow from them. At first I had thoughts like "im a weak pussy, I don't want to do this. I can't do this." As I worked on my form and got stronger, those thoughts turned to "I got this, let's do this". A lot of people ive spoken to say they get this from martial arts too. Powerlifting has given me confidence, physical presence (corrected my posture) and even changed the way I carry myself.
Strength, confidence and a burning ambition to better yourself is all you need man. If you really have these attributes you'll be swimming in pussy. When you really have it, people around you can sense it.
-Nearly losing my father to illness
-Being introduced to powerlifting after rehab and counseling for substance abuse.
I was a wimpy kid with no confidence. Almost losing my father taught me to never procrastinate in life. Just live, love and do before it is too late.
Powerlifting not only gave me physical strength, it gave me discipline. Before, I hated the gym. My cousin tried to get me into body building while I was in rehab but I found it all so boring. Powerlifting took a while but it became an outlet for me to channel all the negative feelings I had about myself and grow from them. At first I had thoughts like "im a weak pussy, I don't want to do this. I can't do this." As I worked on my form and got stronger, those thoughts turned to "I got this, let's do this". A lot of people ive spoken to say they get this from martial arts too. Powerlifting has given me confidence, physical presence (corrected my posture) and even changed the way I carry myself.
Strength, confidence and a burning ambition to better yourself is all you need man. If you really have these attributes you'll be swimming in pussy. When you really have it, people around you can sense it.
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But that's still boring as hell
Thanks for killing my from the heart moment.
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Its ok bra go have a 'coming to Jesus moment'
GottaGetAGrip;697928 said:
Strength comes from so many places and much of the time it is not a pleasant place but the outcome is what matters, becoming stronger. It is during the toughest times that Jesus wants to see us flip that and see the silver lining. We are never given more than we can handle and you handled it perfectly and became stronger because of it.
Losing my Father was very hard for me but in return Jesus gave me a Son and 2 Grandson's so I know my Father and my Heavenly Father had something to do with it! After Jen left me I was heart broken but I took that [pain and I started to paint and became a great artist. I guess what I am saying is always take something from a painful situation, do not allow it to go for nothing, always take a lesson.
Being a bore is something that is attractive to some women just like an outgoing guy is, the biggest thing we need to do is take that risk and start the conversation. I have tried with not so much luck but I know that only means that was not the right person for me. Jesus always brings them when the time is right. We have to have faith.
I'd say take time away from dating and work on yourself/try to find some things that interest you.
That said, the bigger problem is when you start running into girls that bore you...I still haven't fully figured out the solution to that one. Seems most these days are only interested in following the Kardashians and restaurants they want to eat at.
That said, the bigger problem is when you start running into girls that bore you...I still haven't fully figured out the solution to that one. Seems most these days are only interested in following the Kardashians and restaurants they want to eat at.
Phoenix7672;698094 said:
It depends on what your intentions are with the girls that bore you. If you are looking for a long term relationship or anything beyond that, just walk away. If you run into girls that bore you, but nevertheless you would like to get balls deep...then there are alternatives. I can give you some direction on those too...but I need to know the general direction you'd like to take with girls that bore you.
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I still haven't fully figured out the solution to that one. Seems most these days are only interested in following the Kardashians and restaurants they want to eat at.
LOLrofl TRUE
LOLrofl TRUE
Nah man. Girls want assholes and aloof DGAF guys. If you're looking for a wife, then I have no advice to offer. I am, on my best day, very average, but I've had way more than I could possibly deserve...and that was after spending a lot of time trying to figuring what women want and listening to/reading what the supposed "experts" recommend...When I actually did follow the advice...game changer.
LONGERDICK7+
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True seems like they never learn about that..they get those DGAF type of guy, and the assholes too,the ""tough ones"" too..
Nothing more lame than women being regretful once they really get to know those guys....
But most of them love them hahaharofl:Olol
Nothing more lame than women being regretful once they really get to know those guys....
But most of them love them hahaharofl:Olol
doublelongdaddy;698744 said:
Absolutely it's a fine line that I definitely find myself walking all the time. For sure...if you want quality...just be yourself and honest and sincere...and if a girl takes advantage of that or doesn't want to be with you...just move on and realize that says a lot more about her than you. For me, I'm not looking for anything serious and without a doubt, being an aloof, DGAF guy has dropped more panties than anyone like me could possibly deserve. I almost got married once but I can count on one hand the number of women I've dated and/or slept with that I would ever consider marrying. I just don't like being accountable to someone else..."Where are you at?"...."What time are you coming home?"...just can't do it. I'm pretty sure a wife is not gonna like it when you're like "Don't you fucking worry about where I'm at or when I'm coming home." I know for a fact girlfriends don't react too well to that...although that attitude does open other opportunities and legs...which I think is where I started this. Circle of life...LOL.
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PEers and our strange lives...but is true who wants someone asking where you at,what are you doing,and that kind of stuff..
But it may be a [words=https://shop.mattersofsize.com/products/sizegenetics-penis-extender]sign[/words] that she cares ...who knows lol.Or she just want to control the whole thing..
But it may be a [words=https://shop.mattersofsize.com/products/sizegenetics-penis-extender]sign[/words] that she cares ...who knows lol.Or she just want to control the whole thing..
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She cant handle the whole thing bra, I'm gonna give her just the glance. Ill probably just ball tap her or somethingshortdick;698784 said:
I'm in the very same boat, a little older and don't know what to do (I hardly even post here so talk about anti-social). Without being in school, we have no "forced" social bubble, and the only one that comes close could be the workplace but possibly dating someone you work with or around could be an issue. I've been in my area for years and still have ZERO friends, and have only gone on 1 date with someone I ended up not being very attracted to so I ended it fast because I didn't want to lead her on. Also making it worse is I am separated and have that hanging around even though I have only been with two partners.
Honestly I see things will not happen unless I put the effort into making them. However I guess I'm just not "thirsty" enough to do the whole adult or man "grind" whereby everything is a bit contrived in order to get what I want.
People like us have to put ourselves out there, especially with females. Unfortunately doing so will put you into the meat grinder with every other guy and I'm sure females will see it from a mile away.
So other than college at this point or work there are:
Bars (no thank you)
Malls
Library or bookstores
Starbucks
Clubs
Parks with recreation like tracks where females might walk their little doggies
Beaches (meat grinder)
Online dating (joke mostly)
However if you have no other reason for visiting these places other than just trying to find a date you will probably not do it, as it is really a lifestyle choice before that which is something I just cannot change it seems.
Honestly I see things will not happen unless I put the effort into making them. However I guess I'm just not "thirsty" enough to do the whole adult or man "grind" whereby everything is a bit contrived in order to get what I want.
People like us have to put ourselves out there, especially with females. Unfortunately doing so will put you into the meat grinder with every other guy and I'm sure females will see it from a mile away.
So other than college at this point or work there are:
Bars (no thank you)
Malls
Library or bookstores
Starbucks
Clubs
Parks with recreation like tracks where females might walk their little doggies
Beaches (meat grinder)
Online dating (joke mostly)
However if you have no other reason for visiting these places other than just trying to find a date you will probably not do it, as it is really a lifestyle choice before that which is something I just cannot change it seems.
LONGERDICK7+
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well we all have dealt whit that stuff and the girls i have met they have basically looked for something..
But i couldnt care at all...
But i couldnt care at all...
Go to the gym and start a 3x a week strength training routine. Take progress pictures every week because beginner gains come quick when youre doing a squat centric workout (that includes the deadlift, maybe not every workout).
The bar scene is not for everyone but online dating is a medium people are becoming more and more confident with. Post pictures of you doing exciting things, travel or working in the yard with your shirt off (this is where the strength training works). Women respond better to pictures taken off you, not selfies (so shirtless selfies will make you look stupid). I've met plenty of girls at my gym, and even while volunteering for various events.
I met my current girlfriend through an online platform, it has been a year and we live together now. Work on you, and the best things in life happen when you least expect it but never stop working on yourself.
An older man that takes care of his body and life is very attractive to women looking to settle down or date on the long term so take advantage of it.
The bar scene is not for everyone but online dating is a medium people are becoming more and more confident with. Post pictures of you doing exciting things, travel or working in the yard with your shirt off (this is where the strength training works). Women respond better to pictures taken off you, not selfies (so shirtless selfies will make you look stupid). I've met plenty of girls at my gym, and even while volunteering for various events.
I met my current girlfriend through an online platform, it has been a year and we live together now. Work on you, and the best things in life happen when you least expect it but never stop working on yourself.
An older man that takes care of his body and life is very attractive to women looking to settle down or date on the long term so take advantage of it.
Juggers;701498 said:
For me it is close to 9 years (excluding 2 awful episodes). I have found so much peace and freedom being single. I have learned to live with myself, accept myself and even love myself at times (through THE LORD). I think every man needs to learn to do this. I am not saying celibacy I am saying living alone. Masturbation is just fine for me and that is a very short part of my day. The remainder is spent doing what I love to do, helping out in the Brotherhood.
Question; Are you saying you have not had an orgasm for 8 months?
doublelongdaddy;701507 said:
I only edge a bit and have had those small orgasms you get from that, but not a real full release. It started when I brokeup with my girlfriend, and I figured I would try to abstain from that when I started PE again. Sadly however I am very prone to blisters while hanging and it has really made my routines inconsistent whenever I get one.
Unfortunately for me I have lost my faith and no longer have peace of mind, suppose I am trying to find that in a female. He truly was/is the Prince of Peace come to think of it.
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doublelongdaddy;701507 said:
A peaceful mind.
Juggers;701653 said:
I understand and it was a noble goal in many ways. But, unfortunately if we do not allow an orgasm to happen on a regular bases it can cause issues. Just like you keep your body in shape you need to keep your orgasms in shape
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doublelongdaddy;701668 said:I understand and it was a noble goal in many ways. But, unfortunately if we do not allow an orgasm to happen on a regular bases it can cause issues. Just like you keep your body in shape you need to keep your orgasms in shape
great knocking one off everyday i love it!lol