..Lost track of this thread or might have added this last september.
I'm about to lay out some heavy kung fu. -- Always try to be considerate of how the participants will feel afterwards .. like it was win/win/win and they'd do it again.
Multiple posters:
"I had a three-some and I could not keep up with both girls, it was kind of awkward ... the hard part was splitting my time between the two. As I was doing one girl the other was just there on the side"
"I think the trick to a good threesome is that the girls have to be bi or at least into each other and you have to be into both of them. I have had one other threesome where I was only into one of the girls and that was really awkward"
"that is exactly what it was, when I was doing one the other just sat there looking sad waiting for her turn."
Yeah, it'd be a drag if the second (etc) chick felt like they were not even a voyeur but instead like they were just waiting in a queue.
Most things become more acceptable once everyone is hot and bothered, .. kissing them both really close to each other and then turning them to each other to continue it girl-to-girl can be a way to break that ice. Taking their hand and putting it on the other chick .. and then telling her [approving of] how hawt that is.. that kind of thing.
Most chick's sexuality is a moving target and they'll do pretty much anything if they either feel, or later as an anti-slut defense can act like, they were "caught up in the moment" and "swept away" etc..
(People can't read your mind, always give impressed approval for things that you liked and want to see more of. Approval [not just Appreciation but Sanction .. Authoritative Permission] is a disintegrator ray for chick's mary-nun barriers.)
But the trick to getting uptight chicks to not just sit around acting bored or weird as an observer is to literally make them part of the action. -- The decisions that you would normally make [as to what goes where and in/on whom] ... let the
chicks get in on that action. Then the chick that you're -not- doing at that particular moment gets to say what it is that you're doing to the chick that you -
are- doing at that moment. The off-chick isn't bored any longer because you've just made her into a porno director and put her in control not only of your dick but where the other chick should be getting it.
This also tends to cause an escalation as it becomes subsequent turns .. so now they're trying to one-up each other in what they suggest, and trying not to chicken out before the other girl does, so pretty soon you're freely doing stuff to both of them that might have previously taken quite a bit of convincing.
And then after a bit when one of them says something that either gender could do (mouth, tongue, fingers) that it'd be hot to see
her do instead of you, you can always say .. 'you do that one while I do X' and now you're both doing the receiving girl .. because of the not chickening out, and the escalation, and the getting 'swept away' dynamics.
With this you're taking the concept of boundaries and logistics and pacing [in the enjoyability sense that everyone is entertained] ..
all of the work .. and having the chicks readily trash them, plan them, self-enjoy them,
for you .. so you get to a have a blast and essentially 'just' move your hips and agree that what they each say to do next is a brilliant, and yet perfectly normal non-judge-able, idea.
Enjoy!
ps ..
If some 'PUA' steals this like it's theirs and I find out ... I'll bust them out on it. Show some respect and attribute it.