Hi all I'm at a bit of a loose end at the moment. A girl who I dated around 3 years ago has become single all of a sudden and I'd really like to try and get in touch with her, because I made a huge mistake not taking things further with her. I think I only have one shot at this so I need to take the right approach, any advice guys?
Stripeee;739168 said:
Take her out for a Smoothie, girls love that shit.
Nah that happen to me a couple of times, actually the girl I broke up with recently was someone I had dated before. My approach or strategy is to have no strategy and just be straight up, girls appreciate (people in general) appreciate when people are genuine with them. Not saying you will for sure get her but at least if you don't you go out like a man, where as if you try to "game" or some pickup tactics and bullshit the odds are pretty much the same and if you fail you go down like a little manipulative bitch.
Simply reach out and call her. Ask her to meet for coffee and keep things light so you can read her. If things feel good ask her to dinner and take it from there. I would not go for a serious date right off the bat, I would opt for coffee so you can access the situation first.
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all good advice, but I'll add one thing:
get yourself in the mindset of being the leader/decision maker (it doesn't matter about what) just so she knows you're running the show. the last thing she wants to hear is 'sure babe, wherever/whatever you want', so don't be afraid to be yourself and be a man (our society has essentially 'shamed' the masculinity right out of the man) which means lead her where she knows she wants to go
get yourself in the mindset of being the leader/decision maker (it doesn't matter about what) just so she knows you're running the show. the last thing she wants to hear is 'sure babe, wherever/whatever you want', so don't be afraid to be yourself and be a man (our society has essentially 'shamed' the masculinity right out of the man) which means lead her where she knows she wants to go
Exactly just like I am about to lead BSA to donate more money to the bortherhood than he wants to.
I run this show! Lol
I run this show! Lol
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K...I done donated
now back on topic!
One more thing...she's the one who's been 'gifted another chance'
now back on topic!
One more thing...she's the one who's been 'gifted another chance'
Big Schwanz Acht;739281 said:K...I done donated
now back on topic!
One more thing...she's the one who's been 'gifted another chance'
Unless she is a 21 year old colombian that brazilian waxes and does crossfit. Also got her boobs done and injected her butt with her own stomach fat.
If thats the case, consider yourself lucky my friend.
I have been out of the dating game for over 30 years but I would have to agree with another post, straight forward and to the point. I am not sure that trying to tap dance around the issue would get you where you want to be, just my opinion
Agreed thats for pussies.
My thing is this, if you go in thinking you have to act a certain way, do certain things to CONVINCE her of liking you. You already lost.
My thing is this, if you go in thinking you have to act a certain way, do certain things to CONVINCE her of liking you. You already lost.
Is she coming back or leaving for good and how far away will she be
Stripeee;739747 said:
Listen to meh Stripee, what you need to do is go to a strip club make sure its only black ladies there. Like if you don't feel you might get shot you aint do it right. Go the strip club, find a big booty bitch and have her jerk you off with her booty and try not to cum. If you succeed at that then go to the taco truck outside and ask for a cheese quesadilla with the cheese one the side and a cup of ceviche, the guy might look at you a little weird but stick with it and get through that akward silence if anything repeat "put the cheese on the side, on the side, cheese" eat the quesadilla but through away the ceviche cause its gonna give you food poisoning. Then go back into the stripclub and ask the cashier to change your 20 dollar bill in 20s, she might object but tell her "Its for the bitches". So hold the twenty dollar bill with your lips and sit on the chairs next to the stage, hold it tight with your lips cause the strippers are gonna dance on you and put their booty on your face and try to take the dollar bill away from you. Hold your fucking ground and sit there for three rounds and try not to blink. Then get up with your 20 dollar bill still held with your lips turn 90 degrees keeping your arms down and stiff find the pregnant bitch and walk slowly towards her, remember not to blink! Give her your twenty dollar bill, tell her "Your baby daddy sends you this, he says 'goodbye'." now run the fuck out of there and hop in the uber I sent for you and I mean fucking sprint! Call this girl you like and tell her, "Baby, wanna go to Whole Foods or some shit?". Get some condoms along the way cause you fucking tonight!
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please excuse my retarded cousin (above) he knows not of what he speaks, (except the ceviche part...that shit will fuck a brother right-up)
Stripeee;739954 said:
For real though you see what I said first, whats probably accurate.
This play it slow, be cool or whatever the fuck is bull shit especially in situations that there's a time constraint.
Stripeee;740212 said:
I have always tried to go with what my gut tells me. If yours is telling you that it may not be good for the long term. I also know that the friend zone is not a bad place to be either, never know what might happen down the road. Best thing to do is keep your head up and looking forward because you would not want to miss it if the girl of your dreams came by and was interested
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Lookn4girth;740301 said:
Time for some tough-love...the 'friend-zone' is the absolute worst-place for any man. You're essentially her Eunuch to talk to and go on 'safe' dates with. Your attractiveness to her will wane and that 'one-day' will never come. Ask yourself what benefit you receive by being her friend. Companionship? Get a dog, they're far more loyal and loving. The only reason you're giving her all your power is the mis-guided thinking that she'll 'come-around' cuz you're 'there for her'...this is not going to happen. Sack-up and don't return her calls/texts for a few days...go be busy doing stuff that YOU like to do. Once you're able to be your own man and not her puppy, she will possibly see you as 'mate-material'
Sorry bro, you know I only want what's best for you
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doublelongdaddy;740894 said:laughed my ass off out loud so everyone heard!
sad but true
Being a "friend" sucks unless she really is a friend and throws all her friends on you. Thats rare, but it is possible and some girls do look out for her guy friends. But she really has to be a friend it can't be a "lets just be friends" type situation.
However being a fuckboy... thats the sweet spot. I am fuckboy for like two/three different girls, everytime they break up with their boyfriends they fuck me, they get back together I leave. I can deal with that.
However being a fuckboy... thats the sweet spot. I am fuckboy for like two/three different girls, everytime they break up with their boyfriends they fuck me, they get back together I leave. I can deal with that.
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rocky1243;741043 said:
you found the 'Golden Ticket'
Big Schwanz Acht;741044 said:
The fucked up thing is that they break up and get back together with the same dude... and those guys dont even know i exist.
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rocky1243;741048 said:
that's not fucked-up, that's serendipity!
Big Schwanz Acht;740768 said:
No need in holding back B, tell us what you really think, rofl
rocky1243;741043 said:
Nothing wrong with being a toy as long as it is your tool that is the toy and not the rest of you. That would be the equivalent of having your cake and eating it too Rocky, you go brother
I was out of service because I had girlfriend until not so long ago, I have to send out a couple memos. So when I go visit home theres something waiting for rocky....
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Stripeee;741319 said:
under no circumstances do you 'throw' another feeler out there...spend this time increasing your value and engaging other women
Stripeee;741319 said:
Hate to say it but it is time to move on. I am pretty sure you can write that one off. Let her be the one that has regrets later after you do PE and word leaks back to her that you had a huge cock and knew how to use it
Deep down in my heart of hearts I this is doomed to fail and won’t go anywhere, Ngl of me did think about messaging again but 99% thought very much against so I didn’t. When she comes back at Christmas time I may just say “hi” if the occasion arises but I deffo need to try n get back out there and meet new females, I mean my confidence and skill with females is absolute 0 right now so surely the only way is up from here.
Tbh I laughed at Lookn4girths’s idea of her finding out I have a much bigger dick! Just hoping these results will start to show soon and be plentiful!
Tbh I laughed at Lookn4girths’s idea of her finding out I have a much bigger dick! Just hoping these results will start to show soon and be plentiful!
Stripeee;741520 said:
Thanks strip, that is what it is all about. Don't weigh yourself down with regret, let her be the one to carry that around. In the meantime, keep working on your routine and wait for the next one to come along to share your treat with
Screw the past, it does not exist. All you have ion the moment and in this moment you are OK. So you need to brush up on some dating skills, that sounds like fun and if I were not celibate I would really like to practice this. I can't really remember how to pick up a girl but I do know there are many men here who can help you, especially Dashdeming and Threak, both have very good dating skills.
My information on dating is over 30 years old so I would not be a good choice for dating advicerofl
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do want a girlfriend or several? I'd suggest getting as many women as you can so your value in the dating sphere is as high as possible. Women Do NOT think the same way we do and they always question themselves, so if other women have an interest in you so will their girlfriends
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9hpYQsckWno
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9hpYQsckWno
Big Schwanz Acht;741646 said:
Especially if word gets around in that circle that you are king ding-a-ling
Stripeee;741656 said:
Casual conversation is a good place to start. Surely you are interacting with females on a daily basis. It can be a good idea to sit in a coffee shop or restaurant and listen to women talk sometimes. You can overhear some crazy shit sometimes. You just have to talk to them, there is only one of two answers you will get, I am fine how are you or get the hell away from me. Have some confidence and go for it
Not really I’m afraid. I go to a gym but 2 new gyms have opened in my area which are modern trendy fitness centres and that’s where most people go seeing as there’s the novelty of joining somewhere knew. I work in a retail environment but there’s never anyone there that I could approach in that way tbh.
Stripeee;741768 said:
Put the vibe out there and see what you catch. If you work in retail the potential candidates have to be numerous, just don't get fired for being a perv. I remember my retail days many years ago, I scored the 2nd hottest woman (hottest one being my wife of course) in my lifetime as a manager of a retail store. She came in as a customer with her friend and all I did was help them with what they needed and they were waiting for me at my car when I got off