Fisting Experience Fucking With My Head! Please Help Guys!

[10inchadvantage]

So the other night my ex and I were fooling around as usual. It turns out that we decided fingering would be a good option to get her going at the moment. She eventually just kept saying "more" and I was up to four fingers! Then she was begging for more and I ended up putting my whole fist (9" girth!) in her! This freaked me out and kind of left me depressed. WHAT THE FUCK JUST HAPPenis EnlargementNED? I thought that shit only occured in weird-ass porno movies.

We talked about it yesterday and she said, "Well, now you have a goal to work to." She seemed half-joking-half-serious. Does she have a cow pussy or something? She was taking it like a champ, wasn't bitching at all. She said she felt "tons of pleasure." This is starting to warp me into the "dark ages" again, when I used to feel that I was inadequate, even at a very large size. Now I'm starting to get into those thoughts of 'I need at least 7" of girth to please a woman."

I'm not in a good place sexually right now. I really need some advice. I feel like I'm ironically the one here that has been "ruined."

 

[goinfor11x7]

It's o.k, pal!! Enjoy it!! You're pleasing her sexually, that's all. The thing is, did YOU enjoy it? That's important too, my good person.

Remember, if women can get a baby's head through there, they sure as hell can get your fist through that opening. Think about it! That's why I have to laugh when people say that a female could never adjust to a 7" girth penis or larger. Maybe if you're talking about some tiny narrow hipped virgin. But even then.

And they do loosen up after they give birth. It's really quite natural, 10 incher. Don't think of it in any other way. And for God's sake, just enjoy the experience, you lucky bastard.

roflrofl

 

[10inchadvantage]

It's o.k, pal!! Enjoy it!! You're pleasing her sexually, that's all. The thing is, did YOU enjoy it? That's important too, my good person.

Remember, if women can get a baby's head through there, they sure as hell can get your fist through that opening. Think about it! That's why I have to laugh when people say that a female could never adjust to a 7" girth penis or larger. Maybe if you're talking about some tiny narrow hipped virgin. But even then.

And they do loosen up after they give birth. It's really quite natural, 10 incher. Don't think of it in any other way. And for God's sake, just enjoy the experience, you lucky bastard.

roflrofl

I didn't enjoy the experience. It scarred me mentally. I don't look at her the same anymore to be honest. There's no way I can compete with a fist, or a baby. I've read reports of people doing fisting where it took hours for them to fully get inside of their girls' vagina, but this took only a few minutes to fully get in.

I've never had sex with another girl so I don't know if she's loose or not. Fuck I'm pissed man! Fuck!

 

[goinfor11x7]

She's NOT loose. She's normal!! But if you didn't enjoy it, then you have every right to tell her that you didn't enjoy it and that you don't want to do it again. That's o.k., too. I didn't realize that this is the first female you have been with.

You have to take my word for it, that it's not that unusual. It's just that that fuckin' adult entertainment shit you've probably been watching has you convinced that's it's fucked up. It's not. And if she enjoyed it, for her sake, it's not.

My suggestion is to try to get the adult entertainment images out of your brain and focus on pleasing her and PLEASING YOURSELF, which means letting her know that you did not enjoy the fisting part and that you don't want to do it again.

If she cares about you at all, she'll understand.

 

[goinfor11x7]

And the reason you got in so easily is because she was relaxed, lubed up well, I'm sure, and really into it, enjoying you and enjoying the whole thing with you. That is why I said that you should try to focus on her as well as on yourself. The reason that it took hours for those others is because they were probably doing it for some adult entertainment with a whole crew around them. Can you imagine? Yukk.

 

[10inchadvantage]

I'm starting to feel a little better. I'm sure in a week most of the "icky" feeling will have gone away. I just couldn't stop thinking about it. It really humbles the ego after you fist a girl. Gives you a whole new perspective on penis size.

 

[stridge]

Man, you have to to relax and realize that sexual enjoyment - for both partners - has to equate to more than just your perception that the girl is getting off on your dick size.

Very few, if any women, approach sex with the mindset of "well, if he's the biggest guy and stretches me out the most, then this will be the best sex!" They're not focusing on the same size issues that you are when it comes to sex, they're just looking for fulfillment and pleasure like anybody else. You know that when you have sex, you're not just continually focused on the tightness of the girl's pussy, there's a lot more going into it. And, just because you could theoretically handle some more friction of tightness when fucking, do you think "shit, my dick could handle a lot tighter oriface than this, I hate her pussy now!" ? Obviously not, and she's not going to start looking at your penis with disdain just because she's capable of fitting a larger object in herself.

Perhaps having slept with just the one girl has given you a limited perspective, but as you get out there and fuck some other people you'll learn that women just really aren't as engaged with this size thing as we are.

From what you've described of this girl and your sex life, you more or less found yourself a full-blown sex maniac, which is pretty lucky. I think the other guys on the forum would attest to the fact that a college chick that has squriting orgasms and loves anal sex with a guy your size is a pretty rare find, not to mention that she's secure and confident enough to go ahead and let you stick your hand in her vagina. That's not exactly a common thing for a girl to be totally comfortable with, especially at that age, and I think it speaks volumes about how much she's enjoying herself with you.

And that's really the point - it's basically an ego thing for us to insist that the best or most pleasurable thing for the woman must be getting fucked by us. Women view sex as a total package -- oral, foreplay, intimacy, all that -- they don't just sit and wait in anticipation for our dicks to show up and make or break the whole experience. Obviously she's had orgasms from straight sex and likes your dick a lot, otherwise she wouldn't have stuck around and been open to a lot wilder stuff. She could probably get off from something as small as your finger or as large as your whole hand, so stop letting the size obsession fuck with your head.

She's not concerned about it, so if you start letting it get to you, it'll only end up pissing her off when you get neurotic, so nip it in the bud. Enjoy yourself, she's sounds about as game as a first sexual partner gets, so don't worry about it. You're in a great situation with having a NSA sex partner to get more experienced with, and she sounds like fun, so don't blow it by letting some stupid dick size obsessing ruin things.

 

[penguinsfan]

Dude, this rocks!!! I would LOVE to have a chick that would take my fist and get off on it. And, as Stridge said, she loves it in the ass too...you've got a dreamgirl. Why is she even your ex? (I'm messin' on that and you don't have to answer)

Like was said, women give birth. Not matter how much you work your cock, you're not going to compete with a baby's head for girth. The vagina expands in a miraculous way and does so when aroused too. This means nothing, so don't analyze this like you are.

Instead of worrying about how your cock feels inside her, when compared to a totally different object/sensation, just realize you're comparing apples to oranges and forget about it. Appreciate the fact that this girl is so open-minded, so into you, and seemingly loves having you do various things to her. Again, she sounds like the perfect partner...don't fuck that up.

 

[10inchadvantage]

Well after reading this I have stopped worry about it. I don't feel bad about it. It was silly and egotistical to worry about it. Thank you everyone for opening my eyes. I love this place.

 

[goinfor11x7]

I'm glad we could help you. Lots of great advice above!!

 

[8InchMIKE]

Dude, it's pretty normal i would say. The most petit girl i was ever with was 5 feet and she took my fist at the very first try with just some spit for lube. She never had a baby, she felt tight to my dick and it just turns out that some women are just more "flexible" than others and they can enlarge as well as tighten it at will, it's mostly muscle that acomodates to whatever sizes. Does not mean she is loose, a cow or anything else. Go with it.

Fisting is possible in time with mostly any woman.

It is part of sexual forplay for many a women as it's been my experience.

Mind you that i have pretty huge hands too so that surely does NOT mean she is a size queen or whatever. She always took my girth pretty well after a few minutes and it was never "easy" to get in.

Some taller and bigger girls were sometimes looser and sometimes tighter regardless of body type or size.

You got lucky, got a girl willing to "explore" different stuff and that is a good thing

Peace

Mike

 

[robjeremy]

10 inch,

I would say she is very, very loose. I have never been with a woman who wanted more than 3 fingers and at that it was tight. If you do it and it's fun for you both great. don't let her put the zap on your head with shit like "now you have a goal to work twaords"

Find another girl man, you are in your prime. don't tie your self down with one woman, you will regret it later. get all the pussy you can get while you can still get it.

 

[10inchadvantage]

No she's a pretty cool girl. We're not in a relationship, it's just that I haven't found a girl that is as cool as she is. How many girls have you been with rob?

 

[spinner2]

That hasn't been normal in my experience, so don't expect every girl to be like that. I'd also suggest for you to go out and meet some more girls. If you don't you'll regret it later.

 

[10inchadvantage]

That hasn't been normal in my experience, so don't expect every girl to be like that. I'd also suggest for you to go out and meet some more girls. If you don't you'll regret it later.

Oh I do go out and meet other girls. Just haven't slept with any. I'm not a "one night stand" type of guy. Or at least haven't met a girl able to blow my mind enough for me to consider it.

 

[penguinsfan]

10inch, I'm glad you've relaxed about this one. Enjoy it. My cock and my fist envy you.

 

[alwaystrying]

10 inch, I'm with Rob....I bit my tongue on this one til now. I have been with about 25 to 30 women and I have never encountered this. Not even close. Hell, I am also a adult entertainment warrior and rarely come across it on my accidental viewing sessions. Sure, if u look it up there's probably stuff u can find, but even outright whores and all the filth, I rarely see fisting, it's not the norm. Still, I would not trip out too much, some guys have big wangs, large nuts, and some women are tight, some have cabbage for pussy lips, and some just have a bigger pit in general. At least she let ya fist it.

 

[10inchadvantage]

10 inch, I'm with Rob....I bit my tongue on this one til now. I have been with about 25 to 30 women and I have never encountered this. Not even close. Hell, I am also a adult entertainment warrior and rarely come across it on my accidental viewing sessions. Sure, if u look it up there's probably stuff u can find, but even outright whores and all the filth, I rarely see fisting, it's not the norm. Still, I would not trip out too much, some guys have big wangs, large nuts, and some women are tight, some have cabbage for pussy lips, and some just have a bigger pit in general. At least she let ya fist it.

It feels pretty tight (as in strong) when I'm fucking her. Although I don't have anything else to compare to, nor would I be so immature to go out and fuck a girl just to tell a difference.

 

[robjeremy]

No she's a pretty cool girl. We're not in a relationship, it's just that I haven't found a girl that is as cool as she is. How many girls have you been with rob?

Not a whole lot. I was way to shy in college. Hence my reason for saying get out and get while the getting is good before you are tied down to one chick. I'm just saying If I had to do it all over again. I would have gotten laid a whole lot more.

but do what ever feels right for you, you are the captain of your own ship so feel free to do what's best for you.

 

[alwaystrying]

10inch, are you saying this is the only pussy u have fucked? K, not to sound condescending but there is a lot out there man, and when u only know one thing it almost blinds you, u have nuthin to compare it to hence people often think that's all there is. I may be sounding a tad harsh but I only say this with great experience, I too was exactly this way, almost married my first gf, were together for 3 and a half years the whole bit. She was a doll in hindsight, but a lousy lay. Great pussy, etc. but it wasn't til I got out there and felt women out (emotionally and physically) that I had the authority or knowledge to realize she was good, but there was/is better for me out there, and of course worse. This experience and wisdom I wouldn't change for anything, take it from me. I can only recommend the same to you. I know it's rough but u sound like u want to but are having issues with pulling the trigger? Live it up man, u will see there are plenty of great women out there, and of course nutcases as well (who can be awesome in bed I might add haha).

Again, this just hits close to home cuz I got buddies who won't let that one loose, and they are often blinded, and the woman will respect u more if u tell her to fuck off (not really, but at least not always be there for her), maybe come back, maybe not (I've done both many a time). Plus, it sounds like in ur case u have a woman who is prob a bit looser than average, lots of the time it's just genetic, but I am more concerned of the mindgames this may be playing on ya and you don't even realize it.

 

[alwaystrying]

Yeah man, me and Rob wouldn't steer ya wrong here.....not sure how old ya are but when you look back and feel like I shoulda been this way or that way and realize ur wisdom in hindsight, u would give anything to go back knowing what u know now, that sucks.

I'm not saying go screw randoms, I'm saying let urself free from this situation. It's amazing how liberating it is when u tell urself, hey, I don't give a fuck anymore. Cuz u and I both know there was a time when u did, and the way say I haven't met anyone as cool as her yet, tells me u still care which is ok, normal. All I am saying is the sooner u get out there and try and heal ur mind, the sooner it will happen. Chicks love this shit anyway, and besides it's a lot more fun.

 

[stridge]

I don't think the guy is holding himself back from getting laid, he's just saying that he's not interested in fucking any skank that comes his way. That's generally pretty smart, and he seems to be getting plenty of experience with the girl he's currently fucking.

I've always taken a little personal pride in never having fucked a bunch of sub-standard chicks just to get laid. It's a lot more satisfying for me personally to look back over my various encounters and be reminded that I never banged a bunch of fatties of disgusting bar whores, especailly when I compare my record to some of my friend's. Plus, only sleeping with women of quality and maturity helps insure that you'll avoid disease, unwanted, pregnancy, or any psychotics/stalkers/clingy idiots.

I know plenty of guys who didn't get laid that much in school that now fuck lots of great women, and I knew guys that were studs in college that don't get around much anymore. Just because he's playing it smart and not fucking anything that moves his first few years of college doesn't mean he won't be able to enjoy himself later on, in the near future or farther down the road.

 

[alwaystrying]

Who said anything about fucking substandard whores? You're assuming a.) that that was my intention and b.) that I have/condone racking em up, just for shits.....ugly bitches and all. Not to burst your bubble, but that's not me, and also, I only meant that I have seen so many guys hang onto that good ol girl and it sickens me. I'm not even about to brag about the women I have had sec with, cuz it's dumb, but I have high standards my friend, and not one fat chick, not even close. I always hear how women get a attached blah blah blah, very true, but the same happens to us men. Not saying 10inch is, but that mantality signifies to me that there are restraints for some reason. Lets be honest, no good looking chicks are going to come to you, and my point was get out there, get over her if that's what needs to happen. Go have fun, whether it be have sex, get ur education, or just hang (in which I condone all of those). Cold turkey is the best way to go in my opinion.

 

[spinner2]

If you're not meeting smart, fun, and beautiful girls then you need to take responsibility for that. Be more outgoing and you'll find there are lots of girls you like as much as your ex.

 

[stridge]

Alwaystrying, I think you missed the point here. He's fucking this girl, who happens to be his ex, without any obligation. He doesn't need to get over her or get back out there, because he's already done both of those things. I was merely suggesting that he shouldn't feel the pressure, as per some of the advice offered on this thread, to try and fuck every girl that he possibly could.

I never suggested were out banging fat chicks, so don't be so insecure - I wasn't even addressing you, I was just offering my two cents to 10inch.

 

[10inchadvantage]

10inch, are you saying this is the only pussy u have fucked? K, not to sound condescending but there is a lot out there man, and when u only know one thing it almost blinds you, u have nuthin to compare it to hence people often think that's all there is. I may be sounding a tad harsh but I only say this with great experience, I too was exactly this way, almost married my first gf, were together for 3 and a half years the whole bit. She was a doll in hindsight, but a lousy lay. Great pussy, etc. but it wasn't til I got out there and felt women out (emotionally and physically) that I had the authority or knowledge to realize she was good, but there was/is better for me out there, and of course worse. This experience and wisdom I wouldn't change for anything, take it from me. I can only recommend the same to you. I know it's rough but u sound like u want to but are having issues with pulling the trigger? Live it up man, u will see there are plenty of great women out there, and of course nutcases as well (who can be awesome in bed I might add haha).

Again, this just hits close to home cuz I got buddies who won't let that one loose, and they are often blinded, and the woman will respect u more if u tell her to fuck off (not really, but at least not always be there for her), maybe come back, maybe not (I've done both many a time). Plus, it sounds like in ur case u have a woman who is prob a bit looser than average, lots of the time it's just genetic, but I am more concerned of the mindgames this may be playing on ya and you don't even realize it.

I know I'm not in a relationship, but I don't have much incentive to truly get with new women because I have one that jives so well with me now. I know it's tempting to go and explore some, but if restaurant ordering experiences are anything similar, more often than not when I try something new I'm pissed and want my old thing back. Also, I haven't met a girl cooler than her personality wise. About a month and a half ago I had a chance to slam some hot Persian girl who I had just picked up at a party, but because of several factors (was a horrible kisser, she was a dumbass, had nothing interesting) I was totally turned off and ended up just leaving without her, even though she was running after me trying to get my number (she had already put hers in my phone for me). Sure, I could've slammed that nice ass, but what would I have gotten out of it? Probably a whole lot of emotional entanglements, etc. I mean, shit, I haven't even known the girl for a week and I'm supposed to be fucking her brains out? What if she's crazy?

I think sex without any kind of love would be very hard if not impossible for me to do. Fooling around, yeah I can do that, but actual sex, doubt it. At least I probably wouldn't enjoy it, although the girl might.

 

[alwaystrying]

Stridge, 10inch is only confirming my advice, as I have been where he is.....and your comment came after mine so I thought u were addressing me.

10inch, I been there man, and all I can say is that comfort level with someone else won't just happen, that's understood. You sound like a good guy, not wanting to just fuck a chick if you're not into them. At the same time, don't feel obligated to fall in love with every woman u almost have sex with or even have sex with. Experiences like the one with you and the Persian chick (if you had sex with her or not) are priceless in my opinion.

As stated, u are king of your own ship, do as you feel fit. Also, just keep in mind women are very tricky in these type of situations. People (men and women) can be so awesome, and so conniving as I am sure you're aware of, and my buddy who is going through something similar (diff situation but doing the on and off again hook up with an ex) yeah well she is a total -------, lets just say she's on the conniving side.

 

[ithiel]

personally, if you can stick your fist up there or arm , whatever, that shits TOO loose.

 

[alwaystrying]

I'm with Ithiel on this one.....either she's too loose, or maybe you just have really small hands man?

 

[penguinsfan]

I know I'm not in a relationship, but I don't have much incentive to truly get with new women because I have one that jives so well with me now. I know it's tempting to go and explore some, but if restaurant ordering experiences are anything similar, more often than not when I try something new I'm pissed and want my old thing back. Also, I haven't met a girl cooler than her personality wise.

Don't do anything that could lose your girl now. You've got a dream lover, with the fisting and anal. Hell, if she ever takes the notion to give you a rimjob...propose to her on the spot. rofl

 

[longstretch]

The pussy stretches for a baby but it repairs itself back to the way it was after a couple of weeks. But think about it if your doing this on continuosly it will loosen her up and my opinion is that she has done this before but has been too embarrassed to tell you. The anal is a gold-mine but fisting is a shit-hole.

 

[longstretch]

Oh and I'm going through the same thing as you, I just broke up with my ex (obviously) and I've never really chased women before but at this moment I'm more than willing to learn. I think its a great skill, even if your in a relationship because it means you know a little more about women and after all thats what most of us want. All we need to do is be a little more confident and meet new people. Me and my ex are having sex too, we're even going to start trying anal with my dick soon, but she is starting to try to meet other people and go to parties so I'm going to do the same and I think I should regardless. But I don't think you want a girl who wants a fist, realistically thats over the top, freaky is fine but Goddamn.

 

[alwaystrying]

Yeah Longstretch, good post....we've all been there man with "the ex". And you're right, it is a skill going after and getting women, it's fuckin weird but it totally is. Practice makes perfect. And just know u won't get everyone, but the better you get the better you'll feel.

Oh, and good luck with the anal u lucky bastard lmao

 

[aeroth]

I'll give you the best advice you'll ever get right now on the spot.


Pussy is pussy. If you don't have a connection. It'll simply be just Sex. And although I'm sure most will say "that's great" it's really not as wonderful as it seems. When you truly find someone who you LOVE and you have sex it's a whole other level of pleasure. Also it's a psychological thing (just like with restaurants) when you know what you like and you have it getting something else doesn't seem so great. I like the buffet at this little mexican place it's simple a taco, enchilla, burrito, beans and rice with red sauce. I mean sure it's not the most extravagant thing to order, but I like it and know that I've not found anything on the menu I've liked more.

Also why is she your "ex" anyway if you get along so well?...and if she's not to controlling or worried over how many partner's you've been with maybe exploration isn't a bad thing....but some girls don't dig it when you look around and change how they look at you...something else to consider.

 

[10inchadvantage]

Don't do anything that could lose your girl now. You've got a dream lover, with the fisting and anal. Hell, if she ever takes the notion to give you a rimjob...propose to her on the spot. rofl

Already done all that shit bro. rofl

 

[10inchadvantage]

Oh and I'm going through the same thing as you, I just broke up with my ex (obviously) and I've never really chased women before but at this moment I'm more than willing to learn. I think its a great skill, even if your in a relationship because it means you know a little more about women and after all thats what most of us want. All we need to do is be a little more confident and meet new people. Me and my ex are having sex too, we're even going to start trying anal with my dick soon, but she is starting to try to meet other people and go to parties so I'm going to do the same and I think I should regardless. But I don't think you want a girl who wants a fist, realistically thats over the top, freaky is fine but Goddamn.

My ex is VERY experimental. It's like she'll try anything once, except scat. This was her first time being fisted. She was quite turned on before hand, I haven't seen her that turned on in months.

Also, I'd say I'm a lousy lover. I don't like foreplay, and this time I did long foreplay on her and she was so hot, so I think I'm going to have to do foreplay more often. And no I didn't stick my whole hand in there, just up to the four-finger knuckles, with my thumb in there of course. Five fingers up to the knuckles pretty much. She didn't like it when I got that far in because of my finger nails. However, I couldn't believe she was taking so much girth. I was thinking, "Damn, she could take Biggy Mac, my hand cupped around the knuckles is about 9" thick." That's where it hurt my ego.

 

[penguinsfan]

Already done all that shit bro. rofl

Again dude, if she has licked your ass, marry her.

 

[10inchadvantage]

Again dude, if she has licked your ass, marry her.

I'm definitely not going to throw her to the wayside.

 

[wolfkeeper]

And no I didn't stick my whole hand in there, just up to the four-finger knuckles, with my thumb in there of course. Five fingers up to the knuckles pretty much. She didn't like it when I got that far in because of my finger nails. However, I couldn't believe she was taking so much girth. I was thinking, "Damn, she could take Biggy Mac, my hand cupped around the knuckles is about 9" thick." That's where it hurt my ego.

Thing is I think women are wider near the surface, and then they narrow down inside; so she's probably not really doing 9".

The other thing is that women don't necessarily primarily like girth; it's more the way your dick massages the walls of her; often women when they're on top they tend to do more backward and forwards hip movements. The thing is you can do that as well when you're on top; move up and down as well as in and out; and many other strokes (spiral, stabbing all kinds of weird stuff, whatever works for her). Of course girth helps with the stimulation as well.

The other thing is your stats are pretty long, so I don't think she's likely to ever consider you small, even if you're fisting her, not even if you're double fisting her

 

[10inchadvantage]

Thing is I think women are wider near the surface, and then they narrow down inside; so she's probably not really doing 9".

The other thing is that women don't necessarily primarily like girth; it's more the way your dick massages the walls of her; often women when they're on top they tend to do more backward and forwards hip movements. The thing is you can do that as well when you're on top; move up and down as well as in and out; and many other strokes (spiral, stabbing all kinds of weird stuff, whatever works for her). Of course girth helps with the stimulation as well.

The other thing is your stats are pretty long, so I don't think she's likely to ever consider you small, even if you're fisting her, not even if you're double fisting her

I think if some girl were to ever call my length short and be totally serious I'd call up her ex, hire him to do some adult entertainment, and make some mad $$$ as his agent and producer. Talk about making the best out of a potentially ego-shattering situation rofl