DISCOVERY CHANNEL:hyper sex drive stems from bad parenting?

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Last night channel surfing after watching my colts in the pre-season game I stopped at the discovery channel. The name of the show was "hypersexual behavior."

There was a chick dating a hockey player and she wanted to have sex at least 3 times a day. She felt like nothing was wrong with that :). But she went to a therapist who asked "when you where a child did you fell like you missed out on attention from your parents" she said "yes, I knew the love was there. They just did a bad job at showing it". He said "almost ALL sex addict were missing the showing of love in there childhood"

I watch that and was like "I fell like this dude is talking to me." Im a addict to sex and I fell like loving sex and having it alot is not a problem. Its just the felling of "I have to have it or I will go crazy" mindset I hate that I have sometimes.

I will admit me and my dad are like brothers almost. We understand each other like twins. Him and my mom split when I was like 7 and I felt like my world would end without my pops. I visit him all the time and Im still hurt that I didnt have him in my life ALL the time as if he was living with me. I grew up with my mom and stepdad and I really didnt care for my stepdad cause he is a grumpy fart. But I know my mom loved me she just didnt show it all it seemed when I was growing up.

At a young age I fell in love with adult entertainment and it consumed my life than I got hooked on sex. I felt there is truth in the therapist statement. I would fell like I have to watch adult entertainment everyday or my anger would be at a all time high. Today I still fell that I have to watch adult entertainment or have sex alot but this is a problem Im working on.

Hope you enjoy the thread just thought I would tell my story.
 
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well, it could match on me, but i got a small problem. early i've had some better chick than any most ones will ever have. yes, i talk about looks, because the character of women is the biggest fake ever. what is said there matches to my situation. i probably would be addicted, but the "optical archievements" of the past provide me with a small problem. i only can do it with a girl i consider attractive and that's not easy to find.
 
This is just me putting in my two cents, but i see this in a completely different light.

There are those with hyper sex drives that say it's a problem when they're having a shitton of sex. Although to me that's just feeding a hunger. It's no different than being thirsty all the time and drinking a lot of water. The difference? Water is everywhere. I don't see sex everywhere or I'd probably have had tons of girls at this point. I think if you have developed a hunger for sex you should feed the hunger, cuz that's what makes us human. If you're all alone all the time, that could lead to more stressful problems.

But that's just my look.
 
Agreed, but there is a difference between a high sex drive and it being your drug of choice. The couple that has sex as much as possible is completely different than the pornstar who is a emotional wreck. I have a sex drive like the energizer bunny:P but I dont use sex as a way to run away from my emotional issues.

There are so many people that have sex from a high sex drive standpoint. But there are way more people that have sex because they dont fell like they are good enough, loved,etc.

Sit down a group of pornstars and hookers and ask them about the relationship with their parents and 7 out 10 of them might bust into tears and the rest will probably just lie to you but you will see the pain in there face and be able to tell their lying threw their teeth.
 
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The thing to remember here is that each case is unique and that the person/s involved are individuals with different stories & background than the last, so I think its unfair for a 'label' to be applied to all who seem to fit into the carton as having a hyper sex drive being raised by bad parents but in some cases it would warrant that label.

Its like all things in this field dealing with mental health and psychology, its always open to debate and ones word is anothers ammo, is anothers drink, is anothers fuel etc etc but good thread topic by the way.
 
I can see how it would suck to have that hunger yeah. Like if you were a person with a hyper sex drive that never got any sex, that would be bad. Can't say it would be a whole lot better if you just had to have sex all the time just to stay yourself. I'm sure it would take more time and energy than its worth. Plus we can feel safe at a place like [words=http://www.mattersofsize.com/join-now.html]MoS[/words] but outside of here people's ideas of sex come from the media again. So it would probably suck even more if you had insecurities. Both men and women alike.
 
This is totally inaccurate..

Television at it's finest, making up random psychological conditions which don't exist based totally on our instincts..

It's natural to have a healthy sexual desire, animals in the wild can mate up to 20+ times a day, so what's to say humans are any different?

Me being a guy I know I think about sex a lot, if my penis could stand up the my mental drive for sex, I would be having sex all day.. In my opinion, women actually crave sex more then men, they just don't admit it and they don't talk about it
 
Thats not the point Im making. Turn on your TV to any show with out of control chicks and almost all of them either didnt grow up with the father or mother or they had bad ones. I can promise all adult entertainment stars male or female had a hard time in there household cause of parenting.

Im not knocking having a high sex drive. Its the ones who become addicted or depend on it. I can go days without it even though my sex drive is through the roof. But there are people who need it like a drug. There is a big difference.
 
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Thats not the point Im making. Turn on your TV to any show with out of control chicks and almost all of them either didnt grow up with the father or mother or they had bad ones. I can promise all adult entertainment stars male or female had a hard time in there household cause of parenting.

Im not knocking having a high sex drive. Its the ones who become addicted or depend on it. I can go days without it even though my sex drive is through the roof. But there are people who need it like a drug. There is a big difference.
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Well parenting has a lot to do with the mental development of people, ir really depends on the individual and their intelligence, this is what directly effects their behavior, in most cases, chicks who fuck for mental reasons usually have a very low IQ, or they seek some type or gratification and respect, love etc from the person they're fucking, in a way, yeah they never got enough love as a child so they seek it in a sexual way, thus becomming addicted to the sex or the feelings they get from sex
 
Want_that_gain;364088 said:
Well parenting has a lot to do with the mental development of people, ir really depends on the individual and their intelligence, this is what directly effects their behavior, in most cases, chicks who fuck for mental reasons usually have a very low IQ, or they seek some type or gratification and respect, love etc from the person they're fucking, in a way, yeah they never got enough love as a child so they seek it in a sexual way, thus becomming addicted to the sex or the feelings they get from sex
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Think that is the point he's tryin to make :)

I Totally agree too. While biologically we're wired to have sex often to spread the seed and all that crap, as a 'civilized' species its generally accepted that we're above the instinctual urges that come to us sometimes... in other words we should know better than to be running around having rampant sex. Psychologists and sociologists would look at her and think 'yes she might just have a high sex drive, but WHY does she have a higher sex drive than what is deemed acceptable by society?'. And more often than not, it has something to do with a persons sociological surroundings. (ie. family, friends, school, local society etc as they were developing into an adult).

I studied sociology at university, and my mom is a leader in her field of early childhood development, so I've had cases like this drilled into my head for 5 years. It's very interesting.
 
allergix;364093 said:
Think that is the point he's tryin to make :)

I Totally agree too. While biologically we're wired to have sex often to spread the seed and all that crap, as a 'civilized' species its generally accepted that we're above the instinctual urges that come to us sometimes... in other words we should know better than to be running around having rampant sex. Psychologists and sociologists would look at her and think 'yes she might just have a high sex drive, but WHY does she have a higher sex drive than what is deemed acceptable by society?'. And more often than not, it has something to do with a persons sociological surroundings. (ie. family, friends, school, local society etc as they were developing into an adult).

I studied sociology at university, and my mom is a leader in her field of early childhood development, so I've had cases like this drilled into my head for 5 years. It's very interesting.
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Thanks for the reply :)

That what I was saying but anytime someone wants to make a point, there are plenty that will find any way possible to disagree. Thats great to know your knowledge on the topic please keep enlightened us on topics of this nature.
 
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