Chest Pains

[AxeMaster911]

My girlfriend and I have dated going on 2 years and for the first 5 months of our relationship we had alot of sex since she said I was the first good sex she had. We did it ALOT then about 5 months into it she had chest pains and we couldn't do it for 17 days then she said when we started doing it again it hurt her chest to cum. Her chest had gotten worse and worse and now she hurts so much she has panic attacks before sex. She has astHydromaxa and not the best lungs but nothing like this now 1 yr 7 months later her chest is much worse. We have fought ALOT about this issue over and over about the lack of sex or how she hasn't tried to help her chest issue. She has had problems with DRs. in the past that I know of and she does not want to go back and is worried they will tell her she has a bad disease, any suggestions to what we can do or what you think it maybe I would be so grateful

We do have sex pretty much everyday but not for very long, she cums once and her chest is gone and giving breaks she said wouldn't help it

 

[Alpha Effusion]

I was going to say she could be possibly making it up to avoid sex; but seeing as you are fucking once a day I would doubt that. Stop making her cum I guess.

Seriously though, it sounds like she pulled something in her chest; which can take a very long time to heal. If it isn't too painful she should try stretching her chest muscles. Look up some exercises for that, I can't describe them very well. Also she should start doing dips to strengthen the muscles and avoid another injury.

 

[AxeMaster911]

I was thinking the same thing about the exercise and she does sound like she pulled something but I wonder how having sex. I don't feel right not making a girl cum , I know the importance of exercise since I work out a lot at the gym and know it helps dramatically but she thinks it will be pointless. We have broken up over her not wanting to help herself in the past

 

[MAXAMEYES]

I was thinking the same thing about the exercise and she does sound like she pulled something but I wonder how having sex. I don't feel right not making a girl cum , I know the importance of exercise since I work out a lot at the gym and know it helps dramatically but she thinks it will be pointless. We have broken up over her not wanting to help herself in the past

Just about the most thankless, useless, frustrating endeavour in the world is trying to save someone from themselves. Perhaps it's time for you to issue an ultimatum.

You can't make yourself responsible for someone else, in replacement of their own responsibility to themselves, especially if your best efforts are going to be actively thwarted by your girlfriend at every opportunity.

If she can't take, or refuses to take, responsibility for herself- and even worse, diligently escapes from reality and facing facts, then maybe it's time to move on.

Think about it...what type of commitment does this show? To herself, to you, to your relationship, or even your future or perhaps your children in the future?
( Let's be real; kids are quite often the result of daily sex, after all.)

Maybe it's time for you to take a critical look around and reassess your life and "couplehood".

 

[longstretch]

+1 to what MaxamEyes said. I'm really into working out and I had a gf who was lazy and afraid of going to the doctors too. I loved her so we stayed together but she gained about 10-15 lbs throughout our 3 years together, but what I realized is that was just an outward display of what was going on in the inside. She turned out to be a clingy manipulative girl. I can only imagine how many times we would be divorced by now if we had gotten married and its only been a year and a half ago since I broke up with her.

I think you should talk to her about seeing a doctor, being afraid of getting a bad report is understandable, but not at the expense of possible treating a curable problem and causing a lack of intimacy in your relationship. If she is still unwilling to help herself like Maxam said I think you should give some thought on what it really means and how this will affect you and her in the future. After all that is the purpose of a serious committed relationship is to get married.

You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. And if the horse doesn't drink and gets dehydrated than you can't ride it long, and will have to get a new horse.

 

[DLD]

You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. And if the horse doesn't drink and gets dehydrated than you can't ride it long, and will have to get a new horse.

I find that if I beat my horse and jam it's head in the water he will drink

 

[MAXAMEYES]

I find that if I beat my horse and jam it's head in the water he will drink

Kinda reminds me of my EX-wife : "You can lead a whore-to-culture, but you can't make her think!"

 

[DLD]

Kinda reminds me of my EX-wife : "You can lead a whore-to-culture, but you can't make her think!"

Nice, does she have a date?

 

[AxeMaster911]

thank you for your help I have talked to her in the past all she says is well if we did it less she would be ok then now she says doing it once a month would hurt way too much so we still do it but it hurts her. I think she will probably just end it because she won't get any tests done but its wasting my time

 

[longstretch]

Ok I'm calling an intervention. Leave her, it will be 10,000x more satisfying in the long run to actually find a girl who cares enough about herself to take care of herself and enjoys having sex with you. Think about why she only has chest pains during sex. Once a month is definitely not enough man, your suffering, end it.

 

[longstretch]

I find that if I beat my horse and jam it's head in the water he will drink

Hahaha

 

[DLD]

Once a month is definitely not enough man, your suffering, end it.

*Wonders how much someone would suffer that only has sex once per year

 

[vtek]

Her chest hurt when she cums? Whoa. What kind of problem is that? I find it really weird when a man cares more about a woman's health than she does for herself. That goes against conventional wisdom. She definitely needs to go see a specialist. There's no excuse for it.

 

[AxeMaster911]

we have sex almost everyday but it doesn't last long because when she cums the way she breaths it hurts too much and she has panic attacks before we do it cause it hurts her a lot to cum

 

[Big Al]

We have fought ALOT about this issue over and over about the lack of sex or how she hasn't tried to help her chest issue. She has had problems with DRs. in the past that I know of and she does not want to go back and is worried they will tell her she has a bad disease, any suggestions to what we can do or what you think it maybe I would be so grateful

She is either scared of finding out something is wrong (and if there is it's better to find out sooner than later- ignoring it will just make it worse) or she's not telling the truth about something (perhaps she just doesn't want to have sex) and fears that the doc will say there's nothing wrong- which would blow her cover.

 

[Alpha Effusion]

She is either scared of finding out something is wrong (and if there is it's better to find out sooner than later- ignoring it will just make it worse) or she's not telling the truth about something (perhaps she just doesn't want to have sex) and fears that the doc will say there's nothing wrong- which would blow her cover.

Agreed

 

[DLD]

I think you should just put your foot down and bring her to a doctor. If there is something wrong at least she can do something about it.

 

[Alpha Effusion]

Start fucking her in the ass.

 

[8InchMIKE]

Doctor ASAP, for all you know she could be legit on her pains, she REALLY could be affraid to see a doctor. If you just leave her or start thinking she is avoiding you you may regret it later on buddy, be a friend to her and convince her that SHE NEEDS to see a doctor NOW.

This could all sort of things mate, but...one of those things could be bad, i really hope not, but it just could.

Make an appointment for her, just take her in to see the doc, it's her lungs ffs, it's not like she doesn't need them... Get her an MD today.

Whatever is in there, it'l have to be sorted out soon rather than later don't you think?

Peace

Mike

 

[DLD]

Doctor ASAP, for all you know she could be legit on her pains, she REALLY could be affraid to see a doctor. If you just leave her or start thinking she is avoiding you you may regret it later on buddy, be a friend to her and convince her that SHE NEEDS to see a doctor NOW.

This could all sort of things mate, but...one of those things could be bad, i really hope not, but it just could.

Make an appointment for her, just take her in to see the doc, it's her lungs ffs, it's not like she doesn't need them... Get her an MD today.

Whatever is in there, it'l have to be sorted out soon rather than later don't you think?

Peace

Mike

Good to hear from you Mike! Have not seen you in a while. Your advice is the same advice I would give.

 

[AxeMaster911]

thanks for the advice and all my gf says is she has thought that since she was little she was going to die young and doesn't want to be opened up for surgury if they need to do so on her chest since her mom has had surgery her whole life and still hasn't really fixed anything which is understandable but still she doesn't need to die young

 

[MAXAMEYES]

thanks for the advice and all my gf says is she has thought that since she was little she was going to die young and doesn't want to be opened up for surgury if they need to do so on her chest since her mom has had surgery her whole life and still hasn't really fixed anything which is understandable but still she doesn't need to die young

Hmmmmm.......

Sounds a little "multi-generational" to me. Here's a suggestion; do an internet search for, 1) Munchausen (sp?) syndrome, & 2) psychosomatic illness. They might give you a little insight into where she's comin' from.

 

[AxeMaster911]

she still keeps saying I am not going to go to the Dr. for them to do a bunch of tests and maybe find out whats wrong and then have to cut me open when I need my chest/lungs to breath and keeps saying stop my sex drive from wanting sex so much

 

[Big Al]

It doesn't sound as if she's going to listen to anything you have to say on these matters. You're going to have to ask yourself if you love this person enough to put up with that.

 

[DLD]

It doesn't sound as if she's going to listen to anything you have to say on these matters. You're going to have to ask yourself if you love this person enough to put up with that.

^^^ Yup

 

[AxeMaster911]

that is the dilemma go through life with someone who I do care about and love but be angry that she will never help herself and sex won't ever be the same its one I have pondered for quite sometime

 

[AdmiralLongDong]

Kinda reminds me of my EX-wife : "You can lead a whore-to-culture, but you can't make her think!"

Wow, we have a whoretoculturist who does Pe.

Actually I think that quote is funny as shit. Lead a whore to culture... HA HA sounds like my first wife.

 

[AdmiralLongDong]

My girlfriend and I have dated going on 2 years and for the first 5 months of our relationship we had alot of sex since she said I was the first good sex she had. We did it ALOT then about 5 months into it she had chest pains and we couldn't do it for 17 days then she said when we started doing it again it hurt her chest to cum. Her chest had gotten worse and worse and now she hurts so much she has panic attacks before sex. She has astHydromaxa and not the best lungs but nothing like this now 1 yr 7 months later her chest is much worse. We have fought ALOT about this issue over and over about the lack of sex or how she hasn't tried to help her chest issue. She has had problems with DRs. in the past that I know of and she does not want to go back and is worried they will tell her she has a bad disease, any suggestions to what we can do or what you think it maybe I would be so grateful

We do have sex pretty much everyday but not for very long, she cums once and her chest is gone and giving breaks she said wouldn't help it

My ex wife had recurring chest pains. Many women have unexplained chest pain.

A while back I got some massive chest pain. I thought I was dying. It turned out I had torn the cartellige (however it's spelled) in my breast area.

It isn't sex that is hurting her although she is probably noticing it after having you on top of her. You just need to be more careful with her I suppose.

 

[AdmiralLongDong]

Start fucking her in the ass.

LMFAO

 

[DLD]

LMFAO

^^^ LMAO