i don't know penguin, but i read one of his posts that made me laugh, somewhere
i am sorry to hear that you consider yourself a loser in the romance department, perhaps i can be of some assistance, i am a notorious fiend with the ladies
one tip, and it may sound strange, but try it
pick out a girl, then imagine in your mind, "what kind of a guy would this chick like", this is important, "what kind of character attracts her"
then, become this character, go into role playing, use popular stereotypes from various movies, and never break character
when confronted with a question, answer evasively, never give a direct answer, leave them intrigued and wanting more, this way their curiousity rises and their thoughts are focused on you
after a while they will ask you the same question you as before, or bring the topic of conversation back to whatever it is they want to know about you
then you have them hooked like a fish, continue to be evasive and remain in character, until you're ready to land them
if you are in a public place, such as a bar, use deception to lure them out, make it apparent that you have some place more important to be, like a party or social gathering, invite them along politely, don't be pushy if they refuse, make it appear like it is no big deal, and they are the one missing out
they will be tempted to step into the unknown with you, most women are generally unsatisfied, no matter how much they have, they will view you as something new and fascinating, and want to step into your world, just to see what it's like
from here, you can bring them into your quarters, if they are hesitant, reassure them by saying you must wait for an important call, or have some business that needs attention, offer them a drink and relax, don't go for the old snatch grab right away, if you did not answer their earlier question(something like "what kind of work do you do ?"), they will probably bring it up again, then you may proceed into physical activity
the whole principle of this mental seduction, is deception, you are arousing ones curiousity, and then pulling them along gently until you get what you want
whoever said guys can't play head games