Newbie with questions

colossaltitan said:
I think you should use the pumps that you are using regularly and consistently regardless of erection level. The pump will allow angiogenesis to take place, more blood will be able to enter your penis and your erections will improve with time.
And with even more time you will see an increase in penis girth.

I hope your intimate life with your wife improves from PE and I hope you get the results you want.
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Thanks colossaltitan. I am using them again tonight along with a ring to keep the size up for a while. I appreciate your feedback.
 
Go for SRT
 
DD85 said:
Thanks a lot 7o9. My wife and I have talked about all of these issues. I did mention to her kindly that she didn't feel the same either. I will check out the other tools as well.

In regards to kegel, I saw something about doing reverse kegels. I think that might actually be what I need as I sit all day for my job and I am usually tensed up from my anxiety.
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I’m going to stick to the recommendation of Kegels as a priority. Not to beat it down your throat, but I think the forum might find a longer explanation interesting.

I may be new to P.E., but prior life experience has given me a really good understanding of the relationship between the general core/pelvis/lower back (and sacrum)(muscles and bone movement). Sitting all day will lead to something called Lower Cross Syndrome. This will sound familiar to anyone who sits at a desk. Tight lower back, hamstrings and hip flexors accompanied by weaker abs and glute muscles.

You end up spending a lot of time in a position of anterior pelvic tilt (APT). An increased arch in the lumbar area, hip bones shifted back (posterior) and down and the sacrum shifts back and up (think wedgie). The pelvic floor is going to be weak here too. In a way you are spending the day in a state of reverse kegel. As far as P.E. is concerned, it’s a great tool for relaxing and stretching while doing length work.

Try a simple test. Do a reverse kegel and pay close attention to the muscle groups mentioned above. You should notice, depending on your muscle control, a stretching of the abs and glutes as well as the tendency to increase the arch in the lower back and a slight tension in the hams and hip flexors. That’s APT. Doing a regular kegel should elicit the opposite reaction. Tension in the abs and glutes, as well as the urge to flatten the lower back. The sacrum shifts down and forward (think front wedgie). This is Posterior Pelvic Tilt (PPT).

Most of us fight weak abs, glutes and pelvic floor muscles, as well as tight lower backs, hamstrings and hip flexors and it causes havoc down there. It’s surprising anyone can get a boner after sitting at a desk for 20 years. Strengthen what needs to be strengthened and stretch what needs to be stretched. Do your kegels!

As a side note, APT and PPT are in relation to a neutral position which is of course preferable when in a bilateral position. Squatting, standing, etc… The trick is to be able to move form APT to PPT and vis verse in a smooth and comfortable manner.
 
DD85 said:
I guess I'm not sure what going hard is. Was using it for about 10-15 min per day for a while. Had it pumped up pretty high, just before it would be uncomfortable. Maybe I would miss a day or 2. I still think the mental part has the most effect.
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SRT implementation are essential for fast growth, and to get rid of any plateaus.
 
Good Morning @DD85,

Thank you for sharing.

Here are suggestions that may help you. Please bear in mind the importance of the word "bio-individuality" which means that God has created us all unique so what works for one person may not work for you. This is your journey so mileage may vary.

  1. For anxiety, have you considered mastering breathing techniques? I would recommend Dr. Andrew Hubermann's Psychological Sigh. Here is the WHY and here is the HOW.
  2. I had struggled with erections being in my 50's. The pumping helped tremendously to increase my erections. I also use supplements to target circulation like NOW Foods hawthorn. Since you are sitting all day (I can relate because I work as a truck driver), you can take nattokinase which can break up blood clots. In addition, I take borax with magnesium. Borax is a fairly amazing substance.
  3. Speaking of sitting, did you know sitting is as bad as smoking? You can set a loop timer on your phone to go off every 16m 40 s and get up to stretch or walk around.
Regarding your wife, what is she doing to improve her sexual health? She stated she doesn't feel anything...this makes me think of pelvic floor issues possibility. Dr. Bri is an expert on pelvic floor and she may find value from her YouTube channel.

Lastly, I HIGHLY recommend reading or listening to the audiobook "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski. Now the book is geared for women however you will learn a lot about how we all have been taught about sex wrongly. She may be interested in reading or listening to it too.
 
So many great things here! I don't know what to add! One thing to start, don't feel that ED might be an issue unless a doctor has measured you before and after being 39, your natural body may have changed and that is life, no worries, the above comments and below will get you being the new biggest and strongest lion ever that will live with you now for the rest of your life! I'm 43 and never had this strong EQ in my life even in my prime of early 20's.

1. C-Rings, try the large C-ring over cock and ball after a water pump. I have gotten wifey to tell me she doesn't even feel it, and I get that girth. That is the most comfortable with longevity and girth. But keep buying more C-rings and see which works. Don't get any of the ones that add clit stimulation for now. Focus on what get's you that thick cock.
2. Water pumping for me is the only way to go and increased my EQ from 85% to 99% the hardest EQ ever in my life.
3. Be a multi-orgasmic man (search google for the book) to get that great stamina and give wifey that D many more times a week
4. Try this vitamin combo, you should feel a lot more cum which will get you feeling like a Lion in the sack, my Wife loves the extra cum. Your wife sounds like she will love it too!

Start with 1 & 2 (3 if needed) then add 4 and then 5 a few weeks and weeks after and see what combo works for you. #5 is tricky with some saying it helps, some not, and some depending on dosage, hurts the stomach when taken.

(1) Zinc, 20-50mg Strength, Taken 1 time daily = 20-50mg (with food) (some vets recommend 20 mg strength depending on your diet, many have tried 50mg with success, it depends on your diet and how much Zinc you are getting)
(2) Lecithin, 1200mg Strength, Taken 1 time daily = 1200mg (with food)
(3) Bromelain, 500mg, Taken 1 time daily =500mg (This is for men who are unsure if they taste good. This is Wifey approved and verified, she is shocked that I don’t taste like anything or that it is no longer salty. (with or without food) (not a substitute for eating junk or not working out- only after you are on your A-game but nothing else works)

(4) L-Arginine, 1000mg Strength, Taken 1 time daily = 1000mg (no food)
(5) Pygeum & Saw Palmetto, 160/50 mg Strength, Taken 2 times daily = 200mg (I could not take Pygeum in large doses, my stomach would hurt, so I am doing the mix of these with food) (some vets say this does not work for them, others love it- you must test on your self)
 
Haursen said:
Good Morning @DD85,

Thank you for sharing.

Here are suggestions that may help you. Please bear in mind the importance of the word "bio-individuality" which means that God has created us all unique so what works for one person may not work for you. This is your journey so mileage may vary.

  1. For anxiety, have you considered mastering breathing techniques? I would recommend Dr. Andrew Hubermann's Psychological Sigh. Here is the WHY and here is the HOW.
  2. I had struggled with erections being in my 50's. The pumping helped tremendously to increase my erections. I also use supplements to target circulation like NOW Foods hawthorn. Since you are sitting all day (I can relate because I work as a truck driver), you can take nattokinase which can break up blood clots. In addition, I take borax with magnesium. Borax is a fairly amazing substance.
  3. Speaking of sitting, did you know sitting is as bad as smoking? You can set a loop timer on your phone to go off every 16m 40 s and get up to stretch or walk around.
Regarding your wife, what is she doing to improve her sexual health? She stated she doesn't feel anything...this makes me think of pelvic floor issues possibility. Dr. Bri is an expert on pelvic floor and she may find value from her YouTube channel.

Lastly, I HIGHLY recommend reading or listening to the audiobook "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski. Now the book is geared for women however you will learn a lot about how we all have been taught about sex wrongly. She may be interested in reading or listening to it too.
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Wow! Thank you for this reply.

My new allergist has me doing breath work. I wouldn't say ive mastered it, but it is part of my daily routine. I've been learning a lot and trying to implement as much as possible.

I too am a truck driver. I do local Work, so I'm in and out of the truck all day, but still obviously sit a lot.

Regarding my wife, we did almost a year of couples therapy which is when I learned she wasnt getting what she wanted out of sex. I had always thought I had the higher drive and would always ask her what I can do for her, but she was always hesitant to tell me. She finally opened up about what she wanted and now I always take care of her first! However she also deals with a lot of work stress and everyday stress which hurts her libido. She was on birth control and an anti anxiety.ed herself for a while which didn't help. She has since gotten off of all of those and is back to working out and doing well I must say! Her biggest thing is she doesn't like to talk about sex and I do. That creates a lot of anxiety in me as there are other things I want to do with her but she's sometimes not willing to give me time to talk.

I did buy her a kegel machine thing which she used for a while but hasn't now in a couple months. She currently states her needs are now being met which I guess is good, but her fire kind of died off a little again.

Communication has been our biggest downfall as a couple. We also were not taught about sex in the correct way and are learning our way through it more. Things are definitely better than they used to be, but there are still struggles.
 
bemorethanbig said:
So many great things here! I don't know what to add! One thing to start, don't feel that ED might be an issue unless a doctor has measured you before and after being 39, your natural body may have changed and that is life, no worries, the above comments and below will get you being the new biggest and strongest lion ever that will live with you now for the rest of your life! I'm 43 and never had this strong EQ in my life even in my prime of early 20's.

1. C-Rings, try the large C-ring over cock and ball after a water pump. I have gotten wifey to tell me she doesn't even feel it, and I get that girth. That is the most comfortable with longevity and girth. But keep buying more C-rings and see which works. Don't get any of the ones that add clit stimulation for now. Focus on what get's you that thick cock.
2. Water pumping for me is the only way to go and increased my EQ from 85% to 99% the hardest EQ ever in my life.
3. Be a multi-orgasmic man (search google for the book) to get that great stamina and give wifey that D many more times a week
4. Try this vitamin combo, you should feel a lot more cum which will get you feeling like a Lion in the sack, my Wife loves the extra cum. Your wife sounds like she will love it too!

Start with 1 & 2 (3 if needed) then add 4 and then 5 a few weeks and weeks after and see what combo works for you. #5 is tricky with some saying it helps, some not, and some depending on dosage, hurts the stomach when taken.

(1) Zinc, 20-50mg Strength, Taken 1 time daily = 20-50mg (with food) (some vets recommend 20 mg strength depending on your diet, many have tried 50mg with success, it depends on your diet and how much Zinc you are getting)
(2) Lecithin, 1200mg Strength, Taken 1 time daily = 1200mg (with food)
(3) Bromelain, 500mg, Taken 1 time daily =500mg (This is for men who are unsure if they taste good. This is Wifey approved and verified, she is shocked that I don’t taste like anything or that it is no longer salty. (with or without food) (not a substitute for eating junk or not working out- only after you are on your A-game but nothing else works)

(4) L-Arginine, 1000mg Strength, Taken 1 time daily = 1000mg (no food)
(5) Pygeum & Saw Palmetto, 160/50 mg Strength, Taken 2 times daily = 200mg (I could not take Pygeum in large doses, my stomach would hurt, so I am doing the mix of these with food) (some vets say this does not work for them, others love it- you must test on your self)
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This is all great info! I am currently taking a men's multivitamin from seeking health. I'll have to see if any of these ingredients are in it already so I don't over do anything. I know it has ashwaganda in it which helps desire. I also can have vitamins upset my stomach so I'll do what I can to incorporate your suggestions.

I will also invest into some more rings as I've noticed the ones I have do help. Thanks for all the info!
 
I also forgot to ask, but is water pumping that much better than a regular pump? One thing I dont like about the regular pumps is that the water based lube seems to dry out quick and then my johnson sticks to the inside of the tube.
 
DD85 said:
I also forgot to ask, but is water pumping that much better than a regular pump? One thing I dont like about the regular pumps is that the water based lube seems to dry out quick and then my johnson sticks to the inside of the tube.
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I would like to do water however time and clean-up is a factor. With dry pumping, little to clean up.
 
DD85 said:
Wow! Thank you for this reply.

My new allergist has me doing breath work. I wouldn't say ive mastered it, but it is part of my daily routine. I've been learning a lot and trying to implement as much as possible.

I too am a truck driver. I do local Work, so I'm in and out of the truck all day, but still obviously sit a lot.

Regarding my wife, we did almost a year of couples therapy which is when I learned she wasnt getting what she wanted out of sex. I had always thought I had the higher drive and would always ask her what I can do for her, but she was always hesitant to tell me. She finally opened up about what she wanted and now I always take care of her first! However she also deals with a lot of work stress and everyday stress which hurts her libido. She was on birth control and an anti anxiety.ed herself for a while which didn't help. She has since gotten off of all of those and is back to working out and doing well I must say! Her biggest thing is she doesn't like to talk about sex and I do. That creates a lot of anxiety in me as there are other things I want to do with her but she's sometimes not willing to give me time to talk.

I did buy her a kegel machine thing which she used for a while but hasn't now in a couple months. She currently states her needs are now being met which I guess is good, but her fire kind of died off a little again.

Communication has been our biggest downfall as a couple. We also were not taught about sex in the correct way and are learning our way through it more. Things are definitely better than they used to be, but there are still struggles.
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My pleasure!

She may need to have her hormones tested too. T-test for you may bring insights on your current levels, too.
 
squirt_inducer_man said:
SRT implementation are essential for fast growth, and to get rid of any plateaus.
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The best and endless routine you can use to continue to grow to where you want to be.
 
At 6.5" x 5", you're already a great size, my friend (the average is 5.2" x 4.6"). Also, if you Google "ideal penis size", in a survey done amongst sexually active women - their average ideal penis size was 6.4" x 5". So if your wife says she can't feel you as much, it would seem to be her problem rather than yours 😉.
 
Well I guess like some guys, it looks small to me and smaller from the top down. Plus I'm a grower, so if Im not super turned on, it might be a little less. My wife has said some conflicting things to me in the past, so not sure what her deal is. She used to hate being on top because she said I was poking her and it hurt. That was before 2 kids. Can't win sometimes...lol.
 
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