Letting her know that you're focusing on making your dreams happen (whatever those dreams may be), is like giving a girl cat-nip. She'll be drawn to the fact that you're making YOURSELF the priority instead of her...that's supremely intoxicating.
Do a bit of experimentation out in the world and engage w/as many women as possible, (not with the goal of getting them into bed) and use the confidence gained from your experiences w/the dancer. Be cocky/funny and leave the conversation before they do. Build on this 'new you' until it's innate/natural, then spread your wings
You'll be amazed at who and how many you attract