black chicks, white guys

bIgjOe · Sep 21, 2006

Yeah man, I semi-dated a black girl for a little while not long ago. I've been with girls almost every color of the rainbow, but the college I'm at seems to have a concentration of the finest black girls I've ever seen.
I'm a pretty good looking, muscular white guy. I have no problems talking to women, but the one black girl I was with just sort of happened. She was like a friend of a friend. So I was hoping some of the guys (like Crazyed) could offer some advice that have been dating interrracially for a number of years.
It's not my intention to stir any controversy or anything, I'm just finding myself very attracted (even moreso right now) to black girls in general, and wanted a little heads up. Just stuff like: Whats the best way to approach them, is it the same as white girls? Because they seem a little more straight forward. Also, does anyone know how to tell if she is even into white guys (things to look for)?

Hope I get some responses, thanks in advance.

tearrhapsody · Sep 21, 2006

stop looking at black girls through a cultural lens, that'd be my advice to you.

people are people, approach her as you would any other girl.

MAXAMEYES · Sep 21, 2006

Just be yourself Joe. Any traits that you have that would attract a woman to you are yours and yours alone. Don't try to be "something", just be you. Treat a lady like a lady, with compassion, respect and honesty...until you get 'er in bed:
then bang the living shit out of her !

Gramps told me long ago, "Treat a whore like a princess, and a princess like a whore" and gawdamm if he ain't been right all these years.
I've had a lotta fun following that advice.

The only caution I'd trot out comes from a just a personal preference of mine; Please, please, please don't try to act "black" just to fit in. Only a few white guys on the planet can pull it off properly...the rest just look freakish and/or pathetic.

I've dated all kindsa girls from all over the world in my day and with my offbeat (some say perverse) sense of humor and unique (some say whacked) outlook on life, all the gals all said that it was the fact that I didn't act or speak like anybody else they'd ever met that intrigued them.

So just be yourself, and any differences between you two can be an opportunity for some really fun exploration. I had a black chick teach me...well, TRY to teach me how to dance. She still giggles about that to this very day. Had a Korean gal teach me a coupla old Korean drinking games, a Toni Braxton look alike in Colombia, ( God DAMN that woman was beautiful, what she saw in me I'll never know, but I sure as Hell appreciate whatever it was) try to teach me a song in my piss poor Spanish. And ALL of these gals taught me how to cook at least one damn good meal.
Believe me, women LOVE a guy that can cook and it's a shitload of fun learnin'.

If you can make a damn good meal for her AND fix the brakes on her car, you are soooo gonna get laid!

And in the end, like I said; just be yourself.

scabbott · Sep 21, 2006

tearrhapsody said:
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people are people, approach her as you would any other girl.

Not withstanding the quality advice above, it would be good to add the following general exception. (though probably shouldn't be part of you approach and which of course has exceptions) Typically it is ill advised to refer to a black girls rear as skinny and to refer to a white girls rear as fat, though exceptable and even a compliment to do the converse. Although white girls are becoming increasingly sensitive to the word skinny when refering to their rear.

bIgjOe · Sep 21, 2006

tearrhapsody said:
stop looking at black girls through a cultural lens, that'd be my advice to you.

people are people, approach her as you would any other girl.

Thats cool, I mean I don't look at them like another species or anything, I just want to know how big of a cultural gap has to be filled to date them.

bIgjOe · Sep 21, 2006

MAXAMEYES said:
Just be yourself Joe. Any traits that you have that would attract a woman to you are yours and yours alone. Don't try to be "something", just be you. Treat a lady like a lady, with compassion, respect and honesty...until you get 'er in bed:
then bang the living shit out of her !

Gramps told me long ago, "Treat a whore like a princess, and a princess like a whore" and gawdamm if he ain't been right all these years.
I've had a lotta fun following that advice.

The only caution I'd trot out comes from a just a personal preference of mine; Please, please, please don't try to act "black" just to fit in. Only a few white guys on the planet can pull it off properly...the rest just look freakish and/or pathetic.

I've dated all kindsa girls from all over the world in my day and with my offbeat (some say perverse) sense of humor and unique (some say whacked) outlook on life, all the gals all said that it was the fact that I didn't act or speak like anybody else they'd ever met that intrigued them.

So just be yourself, and any differences between you two can be an opportunity for some really fun exploration. I had a black chick teach me...well, TRY to teach me how to dance. She still giggles about that to this very day. Had a Korean gal teach me a coupla old Korean drinking games, a Toni Braxton look alike in Colombia, ( God DAMN that woman was beautiful, what she saw in me I'll never know, but I sure as Hell appreciate whatever it was) try to teach me a song in my piss poor Spanish. And ALL of these gals taught me how to cook at least one damn good meal.
Believe me, women LOVE a guy that can cook and it's a shitload of fun learnin'.

If you can make a damn good meal for her AND fix the brakes on her car, you are soooo gonna get laid!

And in the end, like I said; just be yourself.

Haha excellent advice. Yeah I have heard that being able to cook and dance are huge turn-ons for a chick. Also, being relatively handy doesn't hurt as I 've heard too. Sounds like your gramps was a cool old guy imo.

bIgjOe · Sep 21, 2006

scabbott said:
Not withstanding the quality advice above, it would be good to add the following general exception. (though probably shouldn't be part of you approach and which of course has exceptions) Typically it is ill advised to refer to a black girls rear as skinny and to refer to a white girls rear as fat, though exceptable and even a compliment to do the converse. Although white girls are becoming increasingly sensitive to the word skinny when refering to their rear.

lol I just avoid making specific body remarks altogether these days, girls are too insecure for that. I just tell them they're lookin' good if it's the truth.

scabbott · Sep 21, 2006

bIgjOe said:
lol I just avoid making specific body remarks altogether these days, girls are too insecure for that. I just tell them they're lookin' good if it's the truth.

I was actually responding in a truthful yet dry humor sort of way. I'm with you.

MAXAMEYES · Sep 21, 2006

Speakin' of dry humor...and chicks asses, at the same time, and then throwing a little bit of a compatability test into the mix, here's one of the "cheesy" lines I use to sort out the gals senses of humor, especially when she asks you about her ass first:

"Darlin'; I'd jam my nose so far up that sweet ass o' yers, that you'll be fartin' moustache until next Christmas !"

If she don't run away screaming by then, she's a keeper.

bIgjOe · Sep 22, 2006

MoPipe · Sep 24, 2006

I think just ignoring culture is stupid. Fact is, you ARE from different cultures and your discomfort approaching her proves it. Dont play dumb there and pretend it doesnt exist. She sure as hell knows. She might even find it exciting. But its nothing to get freaked out about. If you freak, you will just come across as immature and she will back off.

Case in point: I have had a great relationship with a black girl at work. The cultural difference is part of the fun of the relationship, including some jokes.

She even came onto me. she is HOT but I cant cheat. I have had a hard time not thinking about her ever since. But ya, I can identify with your hots for black girls - I share the feeling.

bIgjOe · Sep 24, 2006

MoPipe said:
I think just ignoring culture is stupid. Fact is, you ARE from different cultures and your discomfort approaching her proves it. Dont play dumb there and pretend it doesnt exist. She sure as hell knows. She might even find it exciting. But its nothing to get freaked out about. If you freak, you will just come across as immature and she will back off.

Case in point: I have had a great relationship with a black girl at work. The cultural difference is part of the fun of the relationship, including some jokes.

She even came onto me. she is HOT but I cant cheat. I have had a hard time not thinking about her ever since. But ya, I can identify with your hots for black girls - I share the feeling.

Thats what I thought too which is why I was inquiring. The girl you describe sounds alot like the way me and the black girl I was with interacted, really different but in a fun way, and always joking about it. I'm just still trying to find a good way to intitiate conversation, and where to do it instead of waiting for chance circumstances. Since our cultures are so different, our paths don't cross near as often as I would like.

velimirovich · Sep 24, 2006

bigjoe i agree with you about black girls

like 3-4 days ago I suddenly found myself sooo attracted to them its CRAZY

I think its cause theres just soooo many hot ones at my school.. its unreal

velimirovich · Sep 24, 2006

bigjoe i agree with you about black girls

like 3-4 days ago I suddenly found myself sooo attracted to them its CRAZY

I think its cause theres just soooo many hot ones at my school.. its unreal

Painful Pleasur · Sep 25, 2006

half black girls are hott.

samzman · Sep 25, 2006

black girls....white girls....they're all pink on the inside

nystrongstroke2 · Sep 25, 2006

a subject i'm very familiar with,i'm blk and latin .Black women are sexy in and out of the bedroom.I would say if she's giving ya rythem(meanin hanging out with u 1 on 1-and makin attempts to do it again)keep doing what ur doing--be urself.I been white women-black women and spanish chicks.Black chicks know how to throw it on ya in a way that will keep u wantin more.

on a physical out look
black chicks have thick lips
thick hips and ass

chilliewillie · Sep 25, 2006

I'm a white guy that has dated several black women over the years. I always just talk to them like any other woman.

In general, I have found the attractive ones more approachable than hot white chicks. They have high booties and naturally more muscular thighs that most white women just don't compare with. I am very athletic and muscular and I like that.

They also seem to be more comfortable and direct about sex. That's just been my experience. They also don't seem to be as tightly wound as some of the white women I have dated.

I will always have a soft-spot for a fine sister.

CONTRACT KILLER · Oct 3, 2006

lick her chocolate ass
while she sucks your vanilla ice cream

CONTRACT KILLER · Oct 3, 2006

in that chocolate spread seek the chocolate moose
OF SHIT! HA HA

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