X-Girlfriend shit

[Ironkettle]

I know this isn't dating help, oh well, here goes! My ex and I still talk. I want to get back together with her, she wants me to too, but the thing is she constantly talks about her ex-boyfriends.
There is this guy named Kyle and she constantly talks about him, good and bad, and the stupid shit about this is he moved away to TN, they broke up, I dated her and broke up. Now, that son of a bitch is moving back! He will get in the way! I know she will go for him because she keeps talking about him. Right now, it is bad stuff but once he gets here she will go for him! I am stressed the fuck out! This woman is amazing. I don't want to lose her. We can still be friends but I want the gold man the gold. She says "There is a big opportunity to but doesn't mean we will get back together." That is like saying yeah we are right in my face! Sadly, she is my first Girlfriend, but she is so awesome! She even says I am a lot like Kyle too I am like...then go for me! I am already here and I am not as "Doom and gloom" as she describes him! I just dunno. I am seeing her Saturday for her B-Day. I feel like a little pussy that can't get over a woman but these feelings. I need emotional support lol!

 

[Threak]

IronKettle ... Let It Go!!!!!!

I had the same issue...had a great Girlfriend for 2.5 years and were best friends 5 years prior to becoming BF/GF. Then an old flame comes back in her life . She goes see him talk about him to me and stuff. No problem ...correct? WRONG! She dumps me for this OLD FLAME of hers within 1 month. For me that wasn't the problem, it was she didn't call/return my calls for over a week to let me know her intentions. She sends a Dear-John email instead after a week of not hearing form her ...Fn' OUCH!. Great woman but a whack way of ending a relationship. In life you will have people come in & out throughout for a reason. Some stay longer than others, some you seem to never get rid of and some you wish would stay longer. Everyone deserves to be happy and able to persue it on their own terms. Part of life is to Let Go, freeing yourself for the new opportunities in your future.

It took me 7 months to finally let go of her. She was a great woman and we had a great relationship together. She got caught in the mix and handled her situation the best she knew how at the time. Turn this around for yourself and make it a positive thing. Learn from this and take it into the next relationship and create a better relationship with each new one you encounter.

You wouldn't want to be caged up, held against your will to make some other person happy...would you? So don't deny her happiness and let her go. Especially, don't deny your own happiness and let go. No one in this world can make you happy, thats something you have to do from within yourself. Everyone else can only enhance it... she is not enhancing it right now. The best thing I ever did was let go of that old GF. I now have a new GF who is a total freak in bed and can't seem to do enough for me to enhance my happiness 20 times over now. The only thing is I have to do all the cooking ... small price for a great woman in my life.

Emotionally you will go back to your feelings for her... understandable. Take a date Saturday to her B-day. That should get to her real good. Reason I said that the OLD GF we still talk afterwards and she ask about me dating anyone and hows it going.. I would tell her yeah..."I'm seeing 3 different women now", which was true at the time. Her voice would change to almost to a sad/disappointing tone. She admitts and regrets going back to the OLD Flame over me. But I could never go back, she's not gonna enhance my happines anymore only place uncertainty and fear she will disappear suddenly again.

 

[Ironkettle]

Well, by golly! that puts a lot into perspective! I suppose I just need a new woman! I just have a hard time getting them (if you seen my "Overall Confidence" thread). The only weird thing about this is she leaves it open ended for me... like there is a chance, but there isn't at the same time and I get so stressed! I think I should venture out and find women. I am not even remotely close to having "playa" skills, I might as well try. Should I just say screw a relationships right now and mess around? I dunno what to do even.. not even sure if I want a relationship. All the women at work are old and/or ugly...where are some women hot zones?

 

[Threak]

Well, by golly! that puts a lot into perspective! I suppose I just need a new woman! I just have a hard time getting them (if you seen my "Overall Confidence" thread). The only weird thing about this is she leaves it open ended for me... like there is a chance, but there isn't at the same time and I get so stressed! I think I should venture out and find women. I am not even remotely close to having "playa" skills, I might as well try. Should I just say screw a relationships right now and mess around? I dunno what to do even.. not even sure if I want a relationship. All the women at work are old and/or ugly...where are some women hot zones?

You should just play the field and learn/hone your playa skills.
NEVER ...NEVER ..NEVER date someone at your place of work. Unless you are dating before ever working at the same place. I don't how many times I wanted to date a women where I work, but I totally refrained until they left the company. Then it was open game for me.

The Gurl is playing you, she likes the control/power and once you stop giving in to it she will really want you or simply drop you.

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[aeroth]

You know what's funny about this situation. Kyle seems so great because he's not even been around to fuck it up. You on the other hand have been around and although you're not hurting yourself it leaves the door open for him. If she has said some very bad things you find unredeeming just let it roll. And you know the best part about Threak's advice if she sees that you DO have other options she'll want to lock you down. Then you will be given the choice rather than the hopeless stressful situation you have now. Either way you're young and if she's the one it'll turn out how it should. Have faith in yourself just like you do in Penis Enlargement!

 

[Threak]

...And you know the best part about Threak's advice if she sees that you DO have other options she'll want to lock you down. Then you will be given the choice rather than the hopeless stressful situation you have now.

Exactly...don't make yourself so available for her. I used that tactic and its made the woman want me more.

You always want what you can't have at the moment.

 

[Ironkettle]

This is true! Some girl answered the phone when I was plastered and passing out on the phone with my ex. I told her that girl wanted to get into my pants! She now constantly asks about her and asks if I got laid by anyone yet! I just said no... lol I'll start talking about other women and stuff cause I am going clubbing on Saturday after I drop off a gift for her birthday. So, I want to make her jealous? If so, Will do!

 

[Threak]

So, I want to make her jealous?

This is not about making her jealous... it's about you not being available and go running at her beckon call ! Don't be cynical about it, just move on and enjoy your life with or without her.