The reality we create ( How this affects our lives in a positive or negative way..)

Lately I have been thinking why the mind gets leaned to the negative,weaker side..

I have realized that my efforts,seem meaningless.My mind even physically I feel defeated, and that's wrong.. I have accomplished all of the credits needed to get an arts degree..Four +long years flew by.. There's still a bunch of procedures and paperwork ahead...(6 months more maybe less maybe more)But what I have realized is that getting a degree is ok .. But what matters the most is who you know and who is going to buy what I create.. Sounds almost unreal but yeah thinking positively can gives better results.. Right who's tried that? Definitely mike might be one of them otherwise he wouldn't created what he's done..Same with many guys here...I think we all know what keep us from achieve our goals...Whether is money, knowledge, discipline.. I think I'm going to continue adding more to this.. That's all for today.. Hope you guys understand this..and write something down..
 
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Hm. Let's bring various perspectives throughout our walks in life so far. Since Mike is older in terms of age, he has a middle-leg up based on more experience and wisdom in life than I, or most of us. But where I am now, I can truly turn back and share my knowledge and wisdom with the brothers.

The reason why we started the coined term "PE journey" was because PE is actually a journey. It's a journey from where you started the consideration of the enhancement to the day you actually stop, which is when you're dead. In the PE journey, we always discussed that the entire process contains discipline, the journey itself must be a slow and steady-paced marathon, and we need to be aware of all conditions that exist within the journey to safeguard ourselves while we gain the benefits along the way. So, where am I going with all of this rambling?

We create our own life journeys. For some, their families and societal influences dictate their life journeys for them. For most of us, we selected our choices and stuck by them. In your case, you chose the path, stayed the course, paid the prices, and will be obtaining the benefit of a credential you've worked hard for. That is the discipline you've created for yourself. That's the observable and measurable strength you've recorded for the past 4 years. For those who pursued the professional career path through educational institutions, around 25% of them did not make it to the very end. Just like PE, most started, but not all will sustain the daily drive and discipline until the very end of the first year, which we know will generate proper results. This is the first leg of the reality we create for ourselves.

But don't just think that reality travels in a linear fashion. Reality is a crazy web of complexity in an observable 3D space, but it goes as far as 4D, 5D, or even 6D intradimensional spaces. If you want to go further into this, we can. But we've got to put a plug on this craziness about reality. Along the way, the reality we created may "deviate". In your case, your arts degree may open new venues to other things closely related to the arts. Think about those without an arts degree, who are artistic in nature, and have opened businesses with stylish art products. Those who have arts degrees tend to oversee the production, the quality control, and even perform promotional activities through designed platforms. So, if you're thinking you'll be creating something with your own hands, you're not too far from your original reality. It may have just branched off. Just like PE, we have our base routines, based expectations, base exercises, but things tend to branch off from person to person. It's never the same.

For me, where I started and where I am now, I'm completely way off course. My paths for my reality criss-crossed at so many intervals that I believe I'm looking back at an intricated mesh of complexity. At every node of my journey, be personal or professional life, things changed rapidly. Don't think that your educational career path was the only hard path. Going forward, your professional and personal life will intertwine, and the complexity will be even harder. You're still single, my brother. When you have that woman behind you, with kids among the mix, your life will be even more mysterious to handle than you can ever imagine.

So, what are the valuable points for me to offer to the younger brothers? Here are some things from the older ones that have constantly gone through hell, hitting so many walls, backlashes, negativities, and limits:
  • Stay positive. What you encounter is merely a bump on the road at high speed. If you freak out, you will spiral out of control very fast.
  • Recall what happened, use the outcome as a reference, and stay far away from the past decisions that got you into the predicament.
  • Know that you are not alone. It can be your family, friends, or even strangers who will offer a helping hand. It may not be financial, it may not be physical assistance, but the spiritual, emotional, and psychological elements are always there. Just like the brothers here in the community.
  • Stay away from the toxic zone. Unless you're into S&M, yeah, don't repeat the incident that led you into those toxic zones.
  • Express your voices. This is where the prideful ones fall. They bottle things up for years, and *BOOM*! There they go, right into the news. There are social media warriors that bitch about everything, but there are those who seriously reach out to find resolutions. This is a community for it. There are many walks of life here, and they can offer their perspectives. The more popular platforms tend to have track-minded responses, where flamewars and inconsiderate outbursts are used to defend their egos every time they're bruised. Just be mindful of where you're posting.
  • Strengthen your resolve with determination. Once you know you're in an unfavorable condition, time to find a way out. Pull out the proverbial power shovel, and DIG!! Do not let societal influences, comments, or the negative part of life bury you under an avalanche of nonsense. Keep digging until you see daylight, and walk away from the disaster zone.
  • Keep your head up, walk forward, and never look back at the lost luggage. What you lost, it's lost. Why work harder and waste more time and money to get back what you've lost when you can move forward, work harder, and gain back two or more times what you've lost? Most of the older ones in the community can probably testify to this. The more you feel regret at what you lost, the baggage continues to linger at the back of your head, sours your moods, and taints your life in dark, negative emotions. You will continue to lose. Shed off that baggage and move on. BUT NEVER FORGET the losses!! That is your wisdom you must build on so you don't make the same mistakes.

So, where's your reality at now? Down in the dump? Buried? Drowned? Trapped in a tightly wrapped web ball of confusion?

Where do you want to be at? Set the first foundational step where all your life's weight will heavily rely on as the first step forward. Once you can stand on that first strong foundational step, you can move forward with confidence. Nothing else matters. Every time an avalanche comes crashing through, build the next foundation step that you can rely on, step onto it, stand steadfast, and get that shovel handy. I lost count of how many solid steps I have to rely on during my life's journey so far. But I always dig through, unravel, and move forward without hesitation. This is the common reality. If you can't adopt the new branches of reality, you will fail. If you can't adapt to your new branches of reality, your future paths fail. Notice how MoS PE routines take on so much of the mentioned ideology?
 
Yep I can feel your honesty while reading this. I have "understood" that I have the right to create my future in spite of many things that can get on my way . I'm at a ground zero moment in many ways now..

I look around everything apparently looks the same...inside things can't stay the same.. Thanks again. Thank you for sharing.
 
Prayers for your foot in the door. Any job starts at the grunt level to build experience, but more importantly, network connections. My jobs started out as grunt work, even with professional and university-level pieces of paper that I spent tons of money on to get. It all ended up with who you know, what you know, and your experiences.
 
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Prayers for your foot in the door. Any job starts at the grunt level to build experience, but more importantly, network connections. My jobs started out as grunt work, even with professional and university-level pieces of paper that I spent tons of money on to get. It all ended up with who you know, what you know, and your experiences.
That's true 👍 I'm at ground zero no friends,no connections, all those diplomas are meaningless after all.. I really don't know what is going to happen...
 
That's true 👍 I'm at ground zero no friends,no connections, all those diplomas are meaningless after all.. I really don't know what is going to happen...

The biggest mindset you have to put yourself into is, "If I must move to a new location for that job opportunity, I have nothing holding me down." Think positive. You really have nothing holding you down. You are free to roam. When you see that glint in the distance, that could be that blessed chance you need to run to. It's harder when you have a partner, and even tougher when you have a family. You are the lucky few who don't have such a burden at the moment.
 
The biggest mindset you have to put yourself into is, "If I must move to a new location for that job opportunity, I have nothing holding me down." Think positive. You really have nothing holding you down. You are free to roam. When you see that glint in the distance, that could be that blessed chance you need to run to. It's harder when you have a partner, and even tougher when you have a family. You are the lucky few who don't have such a burden at the moment.
Well I don't see it happening at least for now. Getting a decent job opportunity requires skills, experience, knowledge and knowing the right ones..I still have to gain experience working starting out as grunt work in order to move to a more wider market where I can really sell and make money.. But yeah the real way to learn is out there. Actually School isn't the reason why people gets successful whatever that is... Keep asking the All mighty he takes me only to the right places where I can get the best of everything.. Blessings
 
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Well I don't see it happening at least for now. Getting a decent job opportunity requires skills, experience, knowledge and knowing the right ones..I still have to gain experience working starting out as grunt work in order to move to a more wider market where I can really sell and make money.. But yeah the real way to learn is out there. Actually School isn't the reason why people gets successful whatever that is... Keep asking the All mighty he takes me only to the right places where I can get the best of everything.. Blessings
Nothing wrong with starting with grunt.Work, just do your best and you will move up quickly. God here is a you and we'll give you what you have asked him. Just be patient and keep taking it moment by moment. Never ceasing in prayer.
God bless you my brother
 
Thanks mike. I know you're talking to God every day..He knows our needs,our pain and worries and our joy because of him.

I hate that days are passing by but I have to be patient but I have to work in order to see the tangible things..I just ask God for clarity, patience and strength to continue.
Blessings Mike
Nothing wrong with starting with grunt.Work, just do your best and you will move up quickly. God here is a you and we'll give you what you have asked him. Just be patient and keep taking it moment by moment. Never ceasing in prayer.
God bless you my brother
 
Thanks mike. I know you're talking to God every day..He knows our needs,our pain and worries and our joy because of him.

I hate that days are passing by but I have to be patient but I have to work in order to see the tangible things..I just ask God for clarity, patience and strength to continue.
Blessings Mike
That's not all you can ask him for you can ask him to find you a girlfriend and lean on him with patience. Where are the places you are going to try to find a girl? I'll continue to pray for you my brother knowing this new issue.
 

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😑 Its been a mental chaos the last two weeks. But its better now got another phone. Lost the old one, luckily i was able to recover the gmail accounts and stuff i had, mos exercises there too. I was able to recover them too. (Hope the man who stole my phone would never get big even if he gets to see the exercises.)


That's not all you can ask him for you can ask him to find you a girlfriend and lean on him with patience. Where are the places you are going to try to find a girl? I'll continue to pray for you my brother knowing this new issue.
As far as getting a woman. I want to reorganize,rearrange everything whitin my reaching, before i get into a relationship. It would take a few months. I have the PE routines in mind. Having a decent financial situation. And learn to live in a more peaceful state of mind. Among other things.
 
😑 Its been a mental chaos the last two weeks. But its better now got another phone. Lost the old one, luckily i was able to recover the gmail accounts and stuff i had, mos exercises there too. I was able to recover them too. (Hope the man who stole my phone would never get big even if he gets to see the exercises.)

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As far as getting a woman. I want to reorganize,rearrange everything whitin my reaching, before i get into a relationship. It would take a few months. I have the PE routines in mind. Having a decent financial situation. And learn to live in a more peaceful state of mind. Among other things.

Slow down and take a bit of time to provide emotional and mental rest. The opposite is true as well. New love drowns the old toxic one. but make sure your mental and emotional strengths are prepped before heading into the next relational battlefield.
 
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Slow down and take a bit of time to provide emotional and mental rest. The opposite is true as well. New love drowns the old toxic one. but make sure your mental and emotional strengths are prepped before heading into the next relational battlefield.

Well gains arent for everybody.. We all know that even when the info is available ..lol

Yep The post above written by Mike asking me where i could look for a girl, woman etc opened my mind and made me feel like i can start a relationship… I cant be a pessimistic thinking that a relationship wont work out because of the way i think etc…Yep i have to make sure my emotional and mental strenghts are powerful and safe. I dont think it makes sense to be in a constant relational battlefield.

How could i improve my mental and emotional strenghts anyway..
 
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How could i improve my mental and emotional strenghts anyway..

Two simple methods: separation of functions and separation of life.

Separation of functions:

Some called it "compartmentalizing". Some called it "don't bring the garbage with you". Whatever the phrase is, you separate your emotions from your mental side. Emotion will heavily influence your mentality, as your emotional side will cause you to have an outburst, resulting in a mental meltdown. Most of us can't separate the two. They go hand-in-hand. It takes a bit of practice and resolve to keep the two apart. Use emotions to motivate yourself to complete your task, but in your mental state, you need to acknowledge that logical thinking must be at the forefront of your decision-making. Here's an example.

Your heart is hurt by the last relationship. Your mind is reeling. Your emotional pain is causing your brain to spiral out of control. You can't think. You can't process anything without the screams for, "I want to beat up that f**king bitch!!" Your emotional state desires love, and you want to be comforted. Your emotions became so strong that your mental/mind became influenced by your emotions. But that's perfectly fine. Allow yourself to feel this way. This is the protective side that will prevent you from heading into another bad relationship.

You have to separate that emotional ticking time bomb from your mental processing. Acknowledged you had a bad relationship. Your life is starting anew with tasks you have to complete to get your financial and professional life back in order. Every time you feel like you want to blow up because of the built-up tension from your fluctuating emotional state, acknowledge the issues, and either go run 5 miles, swim 10 laps at the Olympic pool, or just take a nice long walk around the city blocks. Clear your mind, clear your emotions, and reset your mindset. Until you can master the reset of your mindset into a calmer state at will, you're not going to get past this situation. Your logical mindset will not kick in to assist you in finding a professional position, talking normally, presenting yourself properly, and networking accordingly. You'll have this shit-eating-aura that hangs around like a bad odor.

Separation of life:

This is the garbage that needs to drop and be left dropped in the dumpster called "the past". We all have our past. My past is like a massive garbage dump that I take all my mistakes, acknowledge them, make good memos of the craps I've done wrong, the mistakes I should have avoided, and toss them into the garbage dump I called my past. DO NOT bring the garbage back with you. DO NOT use that garbage going forward besides using the reference of failures/mistakes to prevent yourself from falling into it again. What happened in the past MUST remain in the past. Bringing that garbage with you is like asking for ghosts to hang around with you for the rest of your days. Talk about the mistakes. Talk about the failures. Talk about the craps you should know to stay away from. Discuss them all at length. Get them out of your system. Then dump them like rotten garbage. I can tell you that no one can do this without practice. Took me a good 2 years to train myself to do it on command. As you get older, it's much easier to do so. When you're younger, you tend to hold onto the garbage so you can use the excuse of "holding a grudge". You're not. You're holding onto a nuclear ticking time bomb that can blow up without you having any control over it.
 
Two simple methods: separation of functions and separation of life.

Separation of functions:

Some called it "compartmentalizing". Some called it "don't bring the garbage with you". Whatever the phrase is, you separate your emotions from your mental side. Emotion will heavily influence your mentality, as your emotional side will cause you to have an outburst, resulting in a mental meltdown. Most of us can't separate the two. They go hand-in-hand. It takes a bit of practice and resolve to keep the two apart. Use emotions to motivate yourself to complete your task, but in your mental state, you need to acknowledge that logical thinking must be at the forefront of your decision-making. Here's an example.

Your heart is hurt by the last relationship. Your mind is reeling. Your emotional pain is causing your brain to spiral out of control. You can't think. You can't process anything without the screams for, "I want to beat up that f**king bitch!!" Your emotional state desires love, and you want to be comforted. Your emotions became so strong that your mental/mind became influenced by your emotions. But that's perfectly fine. Allow yourself to feel this way. This is the protective side that will prevent you from heading into another bad relationship.

You have to separate that emotional ticking time bomb from your mental processing. Acknowledged you had a bad relationship. Your life is starting anew with tasks you have to complete to get your financial and professional life back in order. Every time you feel like you want to blow up because of the built-up tension from your fluctuating emotional state, acknowledge the issues, and either go run 5 miles, swim 10 laps at the Olympic pool, or just take a nice long walk around the city blocks. Clear your mind, clear your emotions, and reset your mindset. Until you can master the reset of your mindset into a calmer state at will, you're not going to get past this situation. Your logical mindset will not kick in to assist you in finding a professional position, talking normally, presenting yourself properly, and networking accordingly. You'll have this shit-eating-aura that hangs around like a bad odor.

Separation of life:

This is the garbage that needs to drop and be left dropped in the dumpster called "the past". We all have our past. My past is like a massive garbage dump that I take all my mistakes, acknowledge them, make good memos of the craps I've done wrong, the mistakes I should have avoided, and toss them into the garbage dump I called my past. DO NOT bring the garbage back with you. DO NOT use that garbage going forward besides using the reference of failures/mistakes to prevent yourself from falling into it again. What happened in the past MUST remain in the past. Bringing that garbage with you is like asking for ghosts to hang around with you for the rest of your days. Talk about the mistakes. Talk about the failures. Talk about the craps you should know to stay away from. Discuss them all at length. Get them out of your system. Then dump them like rotten garbage. I can tell you that no one can do this without practice. Took me a good 2 years to train myself to do it on command. As you get older, it's much easier to do so. When you're younger, you tend to hold onto the garbage so you can use the excuse of "holding a grudge". You're not. You're holding onto a nuclear ticking time bomb that can blow up without you having any control over it.

I know it takes time and practice.. But i have to live my life better. Having a completely mindset everyday is key too. This wont be as simple as i imagine. But i will enjoy it as i learn how to improve many aspects of my life. Bring back the spark of life is a beautiful thing. Yep i will not bring the garbage with me. Now that im This journey. Thanks after reading This I feel better. See you all tomorrow❤️
 
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