My Dick Just Died

[hangh]

I met this hot chick who now is my gf. We tried having sex and I went about 8-10 minutes before my dick just went limp. Then we just lay in bed playing around and my dick was hard but never 100% and whenever I was going to put a condom on it went limp.

Now 2 days afterwards I can't even get my dick hard myself. wtf? This has never happened, i'm kind of freaking out (which is bad).

My lifestyle is very healthy, i'm in good shape and i'm 21.

What should I do about this?

 

[Pandora]

I met this hot chick who now is my gf. We tried having sex and I went about 8-10 minutes before my dick just went limp. Then we just lay in bed playing around and my dick was hard but never 100% and whenever I was going to put a condom on it went limp.

Now 2 days afterwards I can't even get my dick hard myself. wtf? This has never happened, i'm kind of freaking out (which is bad).

My lifestyle is very healthy, i'm in good shape and i'm 21.

What should I do about this?

It could be performance anxiety, try getting some viagra and then cutting it into 4 quarters 25 mg, and then take one before you next think your gonna have sex.

Then once you have done this once or twice you won't need the Viagra again.

 

[hangh]

An update on my situation. Hung out with my girl today. We watched a movie and she was horny it seemed.

I suggested we head to the bedroom and that I couldn't promise anything.

In the end everything worked out great and she left a very happy girl

The lesson I learned here is that.. if possible, go without a condom. Because then you can just fool around, fuck her a bit and if it goes down no problem. Just play around and when you're hard, go at it again and repeat.

That's what I did, fortunately for me it never went down once I got it up.

 

[JohnNilsen]

Good seemed you handled yourself like a real pro and didn't let your girl down.
You the man!!!

 

[hangh]

Okay, a small update. It seems I still have some problems keeping it up.

Today I fucked her in the shower which went fine, my boner was probably 70%.

Then I did her on the couch but after about 20 minutes my dick went limp and I wasn't able to get it up for the rest of the night.

I don't know why this is. I've been watching a lot of adult entertainment since meeting this girl, up to 5-6 days a week. From what I've read that desensetizes the dick and causes things like this?

So i've deleted all my adult entertainment and everything like that and bought some horny goat weed and l-arginine supplements.

Any tips?

 

[Golf]

I doubt I could keep it up for very long either. Or I'd probably think about it and fuck it up haha. I wonder if it's an unrealistic expectation or if the majority of guys can stay hard for a long-ass time?

 

[Big Al]

Okay, a small update. It seems I still have some problems keeping it up.

Today I fucked her in the shower which went fine, my boner was probably 70%.

Then I did her on the couch but after about 20 minutes my dick went limp and I wasn't able to get it up for the rest of the night.

I don't know why this is. I've been watching a lot of adult entertainment since meeting this girl, up to 5-6 days a week. From what I've read that desensetizes the dick and causes things like this?

So i've deleted all my adult entertainment and everything like that and bought some horny goat weed and l-arginine supplements.

Any tips?

I have to agree with Pandora. It's very likely that you're suffering from performance anxiety.

Don't make each sexual encounter into something that you have to conquer- sex should be fun! If you look at it as a test, you're setting yourself up for failure.

My advice: Reserve yourself for your GF- try not watching any adult entertainment (without her) and abstain from masturbating. If you're old enough, try having a drink or two to loosen things up. Engage in lots of foreplay and leave actual intercourse for last. That way, you'll be so turned on that losing an erection shouldn't be likely.

 

[hangh]

Hey Big Al,

Yeah I am 21. It's weird because when we're just fooling around I am super hard but after awhile my erection subsides, it's like I get used to the stimulation or also that I psyche myself out like "oh yeah, boner, nice, don't go down".

I have cut out all adult entertainment and masturbation now. I've had sex with this girl 5 times now.

But in general you recommend to ride it out and relax? I'm usually pretty panicked about the smallest things, I mean I know it is unnecessary but my emotions still go wild even though I am aware of it.

Thanks a lot!

 

[Big Al]

But in general you recommend to ride it out and relax?

Yes. By your own admission, your penis works fine until you start thinking about it. Your penis WANTS to get hard but YOU aren't letting it! It's classic performance anxiety- just relax and you'll be fine.

 

[yung4evr]

Hey Big Al,

Yeah I am 21. It's weird because when we're just fooling around I am super hard but after awhile my erection subsides, it's like I get used to the stimulation or also that I psyche myself out like "oh yeah, boner, nice, don't go down".

I have cut out all adult entertainment and masturbation now. I've had sex with this girl 5 times now.

But in general you recommend to ride it out and relax? I'm usually pretty panicked about the smallest things, I mean I know it is unnecessary but my emotions still go wild even though I am aware of it.

Thanks a lot!

If you haven't already, start doing some moderate jelqing and kegals at least 4 -5 days a week. Also, try to drink at least 2 liters of water every day in addition to your supplements. Make sure you're getting enough protein as well in addition to a variety of fruits and vegetables. Furthermore, and this is important, lmit your ejaculations to to know more than 2x per week for your age, and ideally 1x per week (this will take a little bit of self control, but if practiced routinely, you will become accustomed to it). This doesn't mean you can't have sex, the more the better, just focus on pleasing your woman. When men ejaculate, they lose precious hormones. This can cause serious ED, especially as men age, if overdone.

Good luck -

 

[Big Al]

When men ejaculate, they lose precious hormones. This can cause serious ED, especially as men age, if overdone.

What is your source for this information?

 

[NJGuy]

get your hormones checked and buy some DHEA...take 50mgs a day and you will see good things happen....i had my hormones checked wheni was having problems like you over a year ago and i will tell you, the dhea keeps my dick as hard as a baseball bat....My results from my hormones being checked that i had a low testosterone level for my age...i am only 36....so i started taking DHEA and my dick has been great ever since