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bluetard117

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I think I started created a lie to myself. I had once told myself, that with the girl I was seeing about two weeks ago, that jealousy was not a problem. Granted, she was really clingy, and not entirely physically attractive to me, but I dismissed these outer looks as just part of the person. Since I wasnt as attracted to her, maybe jealousy wouldnt kick in? Anyway, that girl took it in the ass from her ex so I left that crap behind. So I'm kinda with this other girl now. This girl, is sharp as a tack, very pretty, and kinda a flirt. Her version of talking to another guy is flirting to most people, and her version of flirting is rape to others.(This is just the metaphor she used.)

I'm going to finish this later because I don't want to think about it.
 
newbie09;376933 said:
Somehow I don't get the sense of this.

Seems like someone got the better looking girl and some thoughts are going on...
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Yeah, I am kind of lost on this. Please elaborate so we can help.

Mike
 
Jealousy is rooted in insecurity and lack of trust. I found that getting to know a girl really well before even asking her out helps. I try to observe how she interacts with myself and other guys first. Also just getting familiar with her personality traits and who she really is. You should know if she's naturally flirty and if you can deal with it before getting involved with her. Guys can be weird though, sometimes bordering on stupid when it comes to girls they like. If a guy is really insecure, he will often mistake his girl's outgoingness with flirting. If he knows she's a flirt but knows and trusts her it helps to quell feelings of jealousy. A lot of the time people just rush into a relationship and find they can't handle these things when they come up.
 
test the waters, feel it out, she may be acting this way out of her own insecurities. I say have a sit down and really explore why she is being like this, you may solve the problem. Put it all on the table and if things still look fucked up kick her to the curb.
 
Ok, so like I mentioned earlier, this girl that I like, has kind of a flirty, or outgoing personality, however, her thoughts on cheating or being cheated on are the same as mine, you just don't do it. Anyway, I introduced her to a friend of mine, and they started talking. We had all had a bit to drink, and my friend had had a bit more, so whenever he gets drunk, he gets horny and flirty. She was being her usual self, but then they got to the topic of penis size again, something that I've been concerned about for a long time. My friend asked her if she was a size queen, to which her response was "eh". Then jokingly the topic of my size was brought up, and she was jokingly saying it was very small by holding up to fingers and pressing them together. I realize I was somewhat inebriated, and all of us were, and that I shouldn't have taken it so seriously, but I did.

I can't really remember all of the details but thats the gist of it, and once again, it boils down to me being insecure and jealous. Apparently I've been lying to myself about not being a jealous person.
 
Your not a jelous or insecure person. It would be normal for anyone to feel down when a girl they liked said something about them which wasnt positive to a freind, its taking the piss outta someone over here in the UK. I think she sounds okay and I've met girls like her and in fact worked with one who was a good freind till she moved. She was very bubbly and happy person but flirted with all the men and hence got a bad name with the female staff, most probably jelous of her CONFIDENCE to do that so freely. She didnt do it in a slutty manner as such either, just natural with her.

This girl might not have known she offended you about the dick size thing and take a positive from this ... if she was doing big gestures, saying you were hung like a stallion than it would look like she was a dirty little slut, like many women around atm but she didn't ... she played it down and didnt answer that guy direct on size queens either.

I don't really know what to type here at nearly midnight BST as my brain is kinda fucked, gotta be up at early tommorow. I will advise you now to stop telling yourself about being jealous and insecure ... tel yourself that you are not this and start to be more positive. Its all in the mind at the end of the day. Why would you feel like you were jealous and insecure? has someone said something?

Sometimes jealousy is far too often mixed for being caring and sensitive to your surroundings and you sound like a sensitive guy, which is good but like me I had to learn HARD lessons from being such a creature, so start to build your armour now, than you wont get hurt as much or even worry, upset.
 
I guess it doesn't help your thoughts on your size when your first girl thought ten inches was a reasonable size.

Thanks Red, I really appreciate your insight on this. And thank you everyone else, for helping me get my thoughts out of a hole. Sometimes I manage to think myself into a deep funk, and it doesnt help when you dont have someone to talk to at all during the day on days like that.
I spoke to my friend, the one I introduced the girl to, about my thoughts about myself and his comments. I'm really happy I have friends to talk to about this kind of stuff, because, as odd as it may seem for a guy to talk about his penis size to another guy, when its an issue of concern, and when the other guy can understand what you mean about thoughts on your size, its nice to have that kind of chat, because it helps both sides think clearly.

Thanks again guys. I really appreciate it.
 
I think he may mean One night stand? don't know he doesn't speak English. Dont do that though, just get your mind more positive. I'm going to post on the forums later on Exclusive 4 part audio MP3 session from Dr Wayne Dyer on ''Manifesting your desires through meditation'' and is an easy daily 20 minute meditation to manifest ANYTHING in your life ... it works mate. All that Law of attraction is the same principle as well but this is more interesting and can be taken into a meditation for you to do. I'll post it up in the Law of attraction section later, one part at a time to keep folk coming back.
 
REDZULU2003;377220 said:
I think he may mean One night stand? don't know he doesn't speak English. Dont do that though, just get your mind more positive. I'm going to post on the forums later on Exclusive 4 part audio MP3 session from Dr Wayne Dyer on ''Manifesting your desires through meditation'' and is an easy daily 20 minute meditation to manifest ANYTHING in your life ... it works mate. All that Law of attraction is the same principle as well but this is more interesting and can be taken into a meditation for you to do. I'll post it up in the Law of attraction section later, one part at a time to keep folk coming back.
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Can't wait
 
Guys, so far, I think I'm doing better with the jealousy deal. I'm currently in a relationship with this girl I mentioned earlier, and it seems like shes pretty much smitten, because she keeps A, rubbing up against me, B, wanting to take my hand wheneever we go anywhere, and C, if we're sitting together or just doing nothing together, she likes to occasionally either reach over and grab my ass or just have some sort of physical contact.

I am quite happy, needless to say.
 
Me too man :) I teared up when I first read your responses to this post, and to see how much you guys all care. It's really quite amazing, and in my opinion, [words=http://www.mattersofsize.com/join-now.html]MoS[/words] is my favorite site period, for everything. I can't say enough good things about the people here.
 
bluetard117;379002 said:
Me too man :) I teared up when I first read your responses to this post, and to see how much you guys all care. It's really quite amazing, and in my opinion, [words=http://www.mattersofsize.com/join-now.html]MoS[/words] is my favorite site period, for everything. I can't say enough good things about the people here.
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:)
 
Oddly enough DLD, you remind me of a teacher I had back home. Both of you go out of your way to find new paths of doing fantastic things, and you both seem to have the same typing habits, so it struck me as odd, and comforting at the same time.
 
bluetard117;379073 said:
Oddly enough DLD, you remind me of a teacher I had back home. Both of you go out of your way to find new paths of doing fantastic things, and you both seem to have the same typing habits, so it struck me as odd, and comforting at the same time.
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Thank you! I am glad I am bringing you comfort:)
 
Ok, so this is off topic, but its about the girl.
So I made a bet yesterday, and from what I had heard later that day, the bet was designed for me to lose. Loser had to dye his/her hair red, and since the girl I'm with and everyone else things I look like Ron Weasley, she especially wanted that. She pulls my shirt off, and starts kissing me all over my chest, slowly working her way downward, where she undoes the jeans, pulls them off, and then kisses the inside of my thigh, leaving me there with a massive erection going on, and totally running out of the room with my jeans yelling "I won the bet! I won the bet!"

So guys, I look like Ron Weasley at the moment.
But I think the better thing was, that she had had a realllly shitty day that day, starting in the morning with a phonecall from her mom saying her childhood friend had been killed in a car accident, on top of throwing up until 4 am yesterday due to food poisoning, so I took it by the constant giggling and smiling when she was dying her hair that she was having a significantly better day.
Am I pussywhipped, or am I just a good guy? Hahaha :)
 
The bet was, the first one to lose their pants has to dye their hair Weasley red. So she sat on top of me like she was about to blow me, and as soon as she got the jeans undone, she pulled them off and ran out the door cheering.
 
Sounds like a couple to me. I mean, she wasn't toying with your friend 'Mr. tool'. No offense, I'm sort of a tool myself. It seems like she likes your character. A babe like that could change a man.
 
Oh BTW, I heard girls show more interest towards your friends, because they're closest to you. The better the friend the weirder. Possibly knowing that will help quell the negative emotions that might ever arise from seeing friendliness with a GF and best buds. In theory I'm thinking it will help a relationship, for us to know the difference.
 
bluetard117;376927 said:
I think I started created a lie to myself. I had once told myself, that with the girl I was seeing about two weeks ago, that jealousy was not a problem. Granted, she was really clingy, and not entirely physically attractive to me, but I dismissed these outer looks as just part of the person. Since I wasnt as attracted to her, maybe jealousy wouldnt kick in? Anyway, that girl took it in the ass from her ex so I left that crap behind. So I'm kinda with this other girl now. This girl, is sharp as a tack, very pretty, and kinda a flirt. Her version of talking to another guy is flirting to most people, and her version of flirting is rape to others.(This is just the metaphor she used.)

I'm going to finish this later because I don't want to think about it.
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Would consider very seriously,breaking up with a jealous partner.They're selfish,domineering,self oppiniated,unreasonable and intolerant of any views,except thier own..
People are selfish. When they have something they don't want to share. Depending on what they are jealous about it might be a good enough reason.
 
Jealousy is the biggest form of flattery it is just seeing it this way that makes the difference. I remember being jealous of Jen's past and when I think about it now it was only because I was insecure about myself that it bothered me...I would not change anything about her as I realize now I admire her.
 
I admire my girl for her properties, physically and personalitywise, but these few little quirks thrown in are just strange to me. I realize I may have to take some time to adjust to them and realize that this is also her sense of humor kicking in sometimes, just for kicks, but I think I'm getting used to it now. Whenever we're hanging out together, she'll do these little things, like grab my arm and lean up against me, or kiss me on the cheek, or nibble my ear, even while chatting to some other guy, whoever. So far, I think she's very much attached, and I'd like to keep it like that. :)
 
bluetard117;376927 said:
I had once told myself, that with the girl I was seeing about two weeks ago ... So I'm kinda with this other girl now.
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bluetard117;378934 said:
I'm currently in a relationship with this girl I mentioned earlier
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I don't want to come across as a prick or anything but we're looking at very, very quick turn around times. So, bluetard, maybe you need to take some time between relationships to get over them properly instead of taking the jealousy baggage from one relationship to the next?

I'm glad to hear you're happy now.
 
pest;379413 said:
I don't want to come across as a prick or anything but we're looking at very, very quick turn around times. So, bluetard, maybe you need to take some time between relationships to get over them properly instead of taking the jealousy baggage from one relationship to the next?

I'm glad to hear you're happy now.
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I was never really attracted to the girl previously mentioned. We had hooked up, and then she started considering me to be her boyfriend, and since Ive never had to break it off with someone, I kinda went with it. When her drunk ex convinced her to let him come over, and then convinced her to have anal sex with him, while we were still "together", all while she was totally SOBER, that kind of pissed me off, so I figured I didnt want to deal with that, and that it also gave me an out. Plus, Girl 1 isnt the sharpest knife in the drawer, and Girl 2, the current one, is the fucking diamond cutter :)
 
bluetard117;379421 said:
I was never really attracted to the girl previously mentioned. We had hooked up, and then she started considering me to be her boyfriend, and since Ive never had to break it off with someone, I kinda went with it. When her drunk ex convinced her to let him come over, and then convinced her to have anal sex with him, while we were still "together", all while she was totally SOBER, that kind of pissed me off, so I figured I didnt want to deal with that, and that it also gave me an out. Plus, Girl 1 isnt the sharpest knife in the drawer, and Girl 2, the current one, is the fucking diamond cutter :)
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So it is all good.
 
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