help with girl

[hopefull]

hey guys, just was wondering if i could get some advice off you more experienced members.

well i met this girl last night at a club, we talked all night and she seemed to like me. she sounded like a real nice girl, going to university and just gave me the impression shes got goals in life.

long story short she slept at my house, we diddnt do amything besides make out a bit last night and this morning. said our good bye's and she gave me her number.

when should i ring her ? i dont wanna seem over eager. but i want her to know i dig her.

should i ask her to go out with me somewhere or shouild i just ring and chat to her ?

any advice is welcomed

 

[hopefull]

no one ?

 

[Riven650]

If you like her (and it sounds like you do) I think you should give her a signal pretty soon, ie. 'phone her up and ask her if she'd like to go on another date with you. I make it sound easy, yeah? Well, if it was me in your shoes I'd probably be as nervous as your are. Just try to take the advice that I have been trying to give myself for a long time in these matters: What's the worst that can happen? She turns you down? Okay, so that would feel like shit, so the sooner you find out the better; then you can put it behind you and go out and have a good time. Or.... maybe she'll say "yes" and you'll be pleased you moved quickly before some other guy takes her out on the town.

Let us know how how it goes.

 

[hopefull]

im not really nervous, but i just want to make sure i handle it smooth as possible. its now tuesday morning where i live, i met her saturday night/sunday morning and i will ring her tonight. i know she likes me, she woke me up sunday kissing/rubbing me and then when i got her number i said ill give you a call, she says "yeah, you better" so it should be cool, just diddnt wanna ring her straight away.

any ideas about what i should say, ask her out etc...

 

[sikdogg]

im not really nervous, but i just want to make sure i handle it smooth as possible. its now tuesday morning where i live, i met her saturday night/sunday morning and i will ring her tonight. i know she likes me, she woke me up sunday kissing/rubbing me and then when i got her number i said ill give you a call, she says "yeah, you better" so it should be cool, just diddnt wanna ring her straight away.

any ideas about what i should say, ask her out etc...

For future reference... when a chick shows her interest like that, you should have set something up with her when she said "yeah, you better". That way, you let her know you are interested and you would have avoided the problem of when to call her.

I don't really believe that there is a set time to wait before you call someone back... it's all about the delivery. You could have called her at noon on Sunday and tell her you are calling to make sure she got home safe. Then you could have proceeded to chat her up and let her know that you're prolly going to be home Tuesday night and you want to call her then.

 

[Riven650]

I agree with sikdogg. I guess you're worried about frightening her away by seeming too eager. To be honest I don't think its a good idea to be trying too hard to play it cool. It's bound to come across as false. Far better to let her see the real you rather than an act. She'll let you know if you're moving too fast.

 

[penguinsfan]

Sounds like she's pretty into you, from what you described. I can understand you not wanting to seem desperate, but I think you shouldn't wait very long to move on this one.

 

[hopefull]

thanks guys, im gonna ring her tonight, ill post how it goes

 

[Riven650]

Good luck.

 

[hopefull]

well i rang her, we spoke about nothing really for half hour or so, i asked her if she wanted to meet up on weekend she said yes, so i told her ill give her call during the week and organise something. problly dinner/movie or similiar unless she got better ideas.

she asked for my number too, problly a good sign

 

[Riven650]

I'd call that a good sign indeed. Now get some exercise and sleep. That's the best way to keep anxiety at bay.

 

[penguinsfan]

well i rang her, we spoke about nothing really for half hour or so, i asked her if she wanted to meet up on weekend she said yes, so i told her ill give her call during the week and organise something. problly dinner/movie or similiar unless she got better ideas.

she asked for my number too, problly a good sign

Do make sure you call her when you said you would. It's a chick thing, but they get offended when you don't call...even if they're not all that interested it still pisses them off.

 

[hopefull]

yeah point taken ill call her tonight.

 

[hopefull]

ok guys update time.

we went out, everything was great, just good connection. we kissed and said our goodbye's and that was it. so a few days later where messaging each other just talking about nothing and she sends me one saying 'i want sex' so im excited and and start telling her ill come around and then she starts making excuses why we cant see each other for about a week now, the teaser

so i wanna know, what game is she playing with me ? i know she giving me some kind of test but im just not sure what ? any pointers on what to do now ?

 

[Riven650]

I think it's nice that you want to share this with us, but I do think you must try to trust your own instincts a bit more. After all, it was you who spoke to her last (not us) and heard her tone of voice, and it was you (not us) who was with her recently. So you saw the body language signals, and heard the way she spoke on the phone. That puts you at a massive advantage. My advice is to try not to be paranoid: Be straight with her, and assume she's being straight with you. Anything else will repel a girl who is being straight with you.

 

[REDZULU2003]

Sounds cool to me that this is going OK. My advice now however is DO NOT RUSH INTO SEX ... like Riven says though, trust your own instincts and judgements more on this as we cant be with you although I would love to help more I cant but dont rush the sex ... and when you go into kissing her, tease her mate ... kiss her lips slowly from bottom to top ... mix it up is what I mean and pull away with the kiss and smile ... look away and rub her back gently and slow up and down than her leg ... leave it for like 10-15 mins or longer than kiss her again and pull back ... keep teasing her and giving her little snippets, this makes woman go WILD mate from my experience and than from this do what you need to ... she sounds decent to me from what you said so treat her as such and not like a 1NS i.e. whore .. by that I mean cloths off and cock in ... this could be the woman for you, ya never know ... I have seen them pass me by cos of shitty errors I have made ... dont make them ... goodluck and let us know.

 

[hopefull]

gee fellas, thanks for the reply's i understand what your saying about trust my instincts, i just thought id ask for your oppinion cause i dont wanna stuff it up

truthfully, i like the fact she's makin' us wait, makes me want her even more. all the other girls i been with have basically been ho's and you know how that is.

thanks for the pointers RED ZULU, yeah, im gonna treat her like fine china, real slow and gentle. cant wait.

do you think she's just testin to see if im gonna be some pushy jerk trying to just bang her ?

 

[REDZULU2003]

Could be a test mate ... woman are used to guys being allover them and getting their cocks out and hands into their knickers ... dont be COMMON and PREDICTABLE ... be RARE and EXOTIC .... make her want you more and more ... anyone can do it. Guys with faces like a skunks ring piece can master the art of seduction. Treat her with respect but use humour and keep her interested .. you'll know as your having the encounter. Tease her when you kiss like I said .... take it S L O W and do not rush to the sack, infact I would make a point to delay it very much so ... good things come to those who wait, that IS TRUE mate.

 

[Ninja77]

You're ALWAYS supposed to wait at least 3 days before you call a girl once she gives you her number, it's a rule of thumb. If she made out with you and gave you her number, she likes you, plain and simple. Watch out though, you sound like you pretty damn insecure, and women can see through that like a glass window. Women like guys who have confidence, so you definitely need to work on fixing that aspect of yourself, after that, you'll be good to go. So go out there and work on your confidence. Flirt with girls, etc... until you feel comfortable around women enough to not worry so damn much about whether or not you're going to freak this girl out.

 

[REDZULU2003]

You have a point Ninja but he may just be a really nice guy who wants not to fuck up on this. We can all be insecure at anytime and no one is always 'secure' .. confidence comes with experience and yes I agree with Ninja on going out and flirting with more woman IF you feel you need to go higher in that end ...

 

[penguinsfan]

You're ALWAYS supposed to wait at least 3 days before you call a girl once she gives you her number, it's a rule of thumb. If she made out with you and gave you her number, she likes you, plain and simple. Watch out though, you sound like you pretty damn insecure, and women can see through that like a glass window. Women like guys who have confidence, so you definitely need to work on fixing that aspect of yourself, after that, you'll be good to go. So go out there and work on your confidence. Flirt with girls, etc... until you feel comfortable around women enough to not worry so damn much about whether or not you're going to freak this girl out.

I thought it was 2 days. Next day looks desparate, but I thought even it was permissible when a chick is clearly into you, such as making out with you.

 

[Ninja77]

It can be permissable depending on the girl. To be on the safe side, I would wait 2-3 days anyway. Sometimes, in my experience, when you do things like calling a girl after the first day or going into it strong, they can become VERY attached, which is never a good thing. With women, you need to keep them on their toes and be sure that you don't build to fire too high, too soon (just from my experience) otherwise one or the other will become bored with the relationship after a short period of time. Make sure also, that the girl doesn't become too dependent on you, otherwise she will NEVER want to leave your side and that is breeding grounds for some pretty major fights.

 

[hopefull]

hey guys, update, me and this girl are still kicken it together and its pretty cool, sorta casual with some commitment, its cool

over the last month ive just become so much more confident, or a better word is probably relaxed around girls, its great.

 

[REDZULU2003]

Incredible and nice to hear

 

[Quantum Reality]

Lucky... I'm always at a loss for words near women, and it's my biggest relational weakness.