Why am I feeling like this?

peruano99

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I cannot stop thinking about my friend. She and I have been friends for such a long time now, plus she told me she liked me a while back. I just ignored what she said and changed the subject. She still isn't in a relationship, and I will tell her how I feel tomorrow. I also got her a Christmas present of the thing she likes the most. I tried dating other girls, but I just can't get this girl out of my mind. She is just kind, beautiful, has a great body, and we are very compatible. Any advice?
 
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It would be great if she also felt as strongly as you do. But be prepared for her not to, just so you aren't crushed.
You shouldn't automatically expect your passion returned to you in full no matter how much you desire it; we are all different individuals.
Even her.
 
MAXAMEYES;521570 said:
It would be great if she also felt as strongly as you do. But be prepared for her not to, just so you aren't crushed.
You shouldn't automatically expect your passion returned to you in full no matter how much you desire it; we are all different individuals.
Even her.

Oh I know she likes me dude. I am not gonna give my 100% in case we end up together. I am just going to give her the best sex she ever had.
 
peruano99;521581 said:
Oh I know she likes me dude. I am not gonna give my 100% in case we end up together. I am just going to give her the best sex she ever had.

Sounds great and she's mentioned some feelings so good luck.
 
peruano99;521581 said:
Oh I know she likes me dude. I am not gonna give my 100% in case we end up together. I am just going to give her the best sex she ever had.

Good attitude!
 
"Give" 100%...you just might get 100% back.
Just remember though; no matter how much you give, or how intensely you feel she is not obligated to return to you as much as you might think she should.

Great desire on your part does not necessarily mean great desire on her part.
Human chemistry is kinda messy that way sometimes.

If you want to hear "YES" you've also got to expect to hear "NO" as well.
peruano99;521581 said:
Oh I know she likes me dude. I am not gonna give my 100% in case we end up together. I am just going to give her the best sex she ever had.
 
I've been there. Its natural to nay some point have feelings for a female friend. I will just let you know. It it doesn't work out being friends afterwards is tough.
 
Two things.
1. Give it a shot!
2. It's not about sex for girls. It's about closeness. She thinks you're hot because she likes who you are.
 
basically relationships progress in three stages and they all overlap at different strengths: the crush, the connection, the consumation.
crush: physical attraction, flirting, joking, light touching of non erogenous areas
connect: deep emotional connection, secrets, long conversations, non sexual embraces
consumation: her emotion overpowers her logic, the crush means she wants you, the connection means she trusts you enough to put out.

you need to back off the connection and ease back into (or strengthen) the crush phase, but gradually or you gonna be obvious and crash and burn. so start touching her more on areas such as the shoulder, upper arm, mid back. increase the number of times you touch her as opposed to touching her in more sexual areas incl hands, lower back, neck (just picture where u wouldnt touch your mom tenderly and still feel comfortable). definitely start joking and flirting more, getting a bit more sexual in nature playfully. everything gradually though. now you building the attraction again. the connection has already obviously been made so just build on the crush until you get a sign from her to go in for a kiss. look at her mouth and see how she reacts, her body language will tell you if she wants you to kiss her or not.

i friendzoned myself recently with a girl i started crushing on and got effed up when she started liking someone else so i read up on this stuff and i saw where i went wrong. she has liked you in the past so it should be easy get again if you are patient. who knows maybe she's dying for you to tell her you like her and by tomorrow u balls deep in your "friend", i would rather be safe and gradually get to it, you'll save face from a confession going very wrong.
 
peruano99;521528 said:
I cannot stop thinking about my friend. She and I have been friends for such a long time now, plus she told me she liked me a while back. I just ignored what she said and changed the subject. She still isn't in a relationship, and I will tell her how I feel tomorrow. I also got her a Christmas present of the thing she likes the most. I tried dating other girls, but I just can't get this girl out of my mind. She is just kind, beautiful, has a great body, and we are very compatible. Any advice?

It's good to feel that way about a chick your close to. I know there were a lot of chicks I wanted to fuck growing up, but I didn't I was very arrogant and felt like I only wanted the hottest chicks around. I got the hottest chicks around and even fought over a few. Yea a word of thought if you really care about her make sure you don't just love her for the sex. What i'm saying is sometimes couples get together because of the sex is great, but they are two totally different people once they end up living together, so that alone can be a huge step. If you want her to just be a sex thing then hit it up, but if you guys fall for each other take it very slowly, because there are plenty of fish in the sea dude and every babe loves to ride a wave. you'll be all good just be yourself and if she doesn't like what you have to say.....screw it at least you tried no sense in not taking a chance
 
I think she also feel as like you.And that's he accept your Christmas present. I think you ask her for a date.and surly he didn't refuse you....
 
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