Used to in the ancient days, but not there yet once again.
Next time while being intimate, just show your concerns that she's being in pain due to tightness. You can ask her if you can do anything for her, and tell her what you read articles on how to relax the vaginal muscles and labia with a bit either foreplay, gentle alcohol (I believe she's on meds that cannot be consumed with alcohols), massages, or even muscle relaxants to allow her to rest and relax while being consumed with pleasure.