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Hello MOS Brothers!
Now I truly love my girl and I dont take saying that lighty.
Just some shit that seats on my brain....
Now I got some man to man advice from DLD about this a few weeks back how to approach this. Me and my lady were fighting cause shes lazy in bed. Me saying that to her turned a big cluster fuck of me "in a woman's mind" of me saying she sucks in bed. Now thats not even my issue BUT it will makes sense in a few.
Today, I was called into work super early or earlier than normal. And somehow ����, 3-ways, and dominating sex was the topic early in the morning. Now I work with a freaky girl who really got into talking about sex. I told my girl this (probably a mistake on my part
). She asked " Do you think its wrong for me to talk to guys about sex?" I said "Honestly...I do!" Now she has male friends which is fine by me. But when she said that to me. All I saw was RED > and not the girth monster here lol.
She said she likes a male perspective, again Im not a fan of this but it not a deal breaker. My problem is she doesnt do any postitions other than missionary. I got her to try doggy and other stuff in the bed, that was all she was about before than. Before we did anything, she told me about only having 3 boyfriends before me and only gives BJ'S to BF's. So to be nice, Her BJ's arent that bad but its clear its not something shes great at. Which I guess is better than her being the BJ queen from experience so I can live with it.
Getting that all out the way. She told me she talks about sex alot to males and girls to learn. But with all the info I gave you, its tough for me not to think she isnt just flirting with guys talking about sex cause she doesnt do much during sex and when we talk about it, she assumes Im complaining and gets defensive. So when is all this "advice" going to show up cause seems like shes just talking to be talking.
ANOTHER....THING....
When we first got together, We both agreed that the past was the past. Of course traumatizing shit in the past we discuss and went over. But my girl has a bad habit of bringing the past into our relationship and it grinds my gears. When I say shit like "I LOVE LEBRON JAMES!" just messing with her while im watching a game. She says shit like "one of my X's loved lebron so i hate him" to me statements like that are just awkward and I dont see how that they fit into what going on now.
And thats a pretty mild one. She has said some shit when we get into to heated fights and she will say "I had a X that did that" or "My X was like that". To me, not only is it awkward, I fell like she is living in the past and talking to me like a friend. I purposly have NEVER said anything other than how many partners I've had cause I dont see how it does any good, bringing X's into what were doing now.
And on top of that, She has said to me many times. "My friend has a really good relationship with all his X's and Im jealous. I wish me and my X's could at least have ended on good terms"
Is it just me or is that odd?
Is she talking to me like a friend and doesnt notice it?
Is her way of going about a real relationship wrong or I am making this stuff bigger than I should?
Please give me some advice?
Now I truly love my girl and I dont take saying that lighty.
Just some shit that seats on my brain....
Now I got some man to man advice from DLD about this a few weeks back how to approach this. Me and my lady were fighting cause shes lazy in bed. Me saying that to her turned a big cluster fuck of me "in a woman's mind" of me saying she sucks in bed. Now thats not even my issue BUT it will makes sense in a few.
Today, I was called into work super early or earlier than normal. And somehow ����, 3-ways, and dominating sex was the topic early in the morning. Now I work with a freaky girl who really got into talking about sex. I told my girl this (probably a mistake on my part
). She asked " Do you think its wrong for me to talk to guys about sex?" I said "Honestly...I do!" Now she has male friends which is fine by me. But when she said that to me. All I saw was RED > and not the girth monster here lol. She said she likes a male perspective, again Im not a fan of this but it not a deal breaker. My problem is she doesnt do any postitions other than missionary. I got her to try doggy and other stuff in the bed, that was all she was about before than. Before we did anything, she told me about only having 3 boyfriends before me and only gives BJ'S to BF's. So to be nice, Her BJ's arent that bad but its clear its not something shes great at. Which I guess is better than her being the BJ queen from experience so I can live with it.
Getting that all out the way. She told me she talks about sex alot to males and girls to learn. But with all the info I gave you, its tough for me not to think she isnt just flirting with guys talking about sex cause she doesnt do much during sex and when we talk about it, she assumes Im complaining and gets defensive. So when is all this "advice" going to show up cause seems like shes just talking to be talking.
ANOTHER....THING....
When we first got together, We both agreed that the past was the past. Of course traumatizing shit in the past we discuss and went over. But my girl has a bad habit of bringing the past into our relationship and it grinds my gears. When I say shit like "I LOVE LEBRON JAMES!" just messing with her while im watching a game. She says shit like "one of my X's loved lebron so i hate him" to me statements like that are just awkward and I dont see how that they fit into what going on now.
And thats a pretty mild one. She has said some shit when we get into to heated fights and she will say "I had a X that did that" or "My X was like that". To me, not only is it awkward, I fell like she is living in the past and talking to me like a friend. I purposly have NEVER said anything other than how many partners I've had cause I dont see how it does any good, bringing X's into what were doing now.
And on top of that, She has said to me many times. "My friend has a really good relationship with all his X's and Im jealous. I wish me and my X's could at least have ended on good terms"
Is it just me or is that odd?
Is she talking to me like a friend and doesnt notice it?
Is her way of going about a real relationship wrong or I am making this stuff bigger than I should?
Please give me some advice?
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