Losing Major Love Sucks

Big time, especially when it's your personal problems due to your upbringing that make you unable to be the guy you know you are and give the girl you love the kind of treatment you so desperately want to give her. It also sucks when other people poison somebody towards you and influence them in manipulative ways that person doesn't realize. It was in many ways doomed from the start or more accurately the odds were against us and it was "us against the world" but what sucks the most is knowing that it's possible that her love for me just died and that it can't be rekindled after a certain amount of time no matter how much I change. I know part of this is because of the way she sees me and the way she sees how I treated her (I've never been a bad guy or done bad guy things, to clarify. It's just love and all of that is so foreign to me due to my upbringing, and I had never been in a real relationship of any kind, romantic or otherwise) and how she sees other guys and how they treat her in comparison to that, and the people poisoning her mind and influencing her.

I'm just venting here, but I figure maybe some other guys can tell me their tales of love and loss so I can feel like I'm not so alone.

Girls and the guys that love them,thats a disadvantage specially when a man needs and want someone by their side,women are beautiful creatures but i have learned not to get obsessed whit them,realtionships they just dont work for me for many reasons,evenso i have to admit it who wouldnt want a beautiful girl to hang out whit?

Of course you are not alone in this.
This is one of the most challenging things to accept. But there was never any other road than improving yourself as a man. I'm experiencing similar to you and I also came into PE to make my relationship possible.. we did not start out... physically compatible. There was also a much larger endowed fuck buddy involved at the time.

I have to thank Mike aka DLD (doublelongdaddy for those new to the forums and to PE), and the people he has gathered around him that have added to the endeavour, for having these forums up and for his work in documenting and testing all that he has, and recognising the contributions of others great and not so great.

My life would have been very different without it.

As I recently told short. There's only moving forward. It can be maddening and rob you of your focus to know there are other guys hawking around your woman or ex-woman, but ultimately the only way she's going to feel attracted to you is if you are becoming more attractive. Re-read aimforthetops recent posts he covers these mindsets well. Stick to your masculinity, be rigid and don't give a damn and add some sparkle by being fun and loving when it's time to be, or when it would most pack a punch.

If you do this, and find the passions that bring the best out of you, then you should find that not only your ex, but other women are drawn to you. Let your cock enlarge. Do it for yourself.
( Though I can talk: I did it to keep my girl, but because I did really need to do something about it, not to outdo some abnormally huge other guy ).

Never allow yourself to be brought to talking shit about other people. Always be fair in what you say, even if other's aren't. Let them show up that they need to overcompensate for their insecurities of what a threat or obstacle you may pose to them or their 'story' of how things were, are and will be.
You know deep down the more quality you are as a guy the more quality people you will draw to you.

When the world seems to be making your life black is when you most need to focus on yourself and take that blackness and compress it and set it alight to reveal a chunk of diamond.

Honestly I've never had trouble getting the attention of females. The thing is though, this girl was the love of my life. That's real. That's something more than all of the meaningless sex I could have. I know now that I have a lot of life I need to experience before I can be serious like that again, and I don't mean sex when I say that. It just sucks that I had met this amazing person and never really even got to be with her the way I wanted to. Literally everything that could have gone wrong did. What bothers me the most is just feeling like the girl I fell in love with might not even exist anymore.

I know that feeling, bro, I really do. It takes a lot to move on but the sooner you can come to terms with the fact that things are over, the sooner you can get on with that life you want to live. The girl you loved will be out there somewhere, just maybe not where you thought she was, so don't waste time along the way.