Cheating

Ok well there is this girl i know and she has liked me for awhile but i only recently made a move on her (making out, messing around). the thing is she has a boyfriend (i dont really know much about him/never met him). and yeah she says she is sexually attracted to me and she isnt going to tell her bf about what happened or about what will happen in the future well anyway if anyone else has had this experience does the girl usually leave there bf if they like you enough? or does anyone think this is wrong? obvouisly it is her choice. and no shes not a slut her bf is her first that she has ever had sex with, but she has liked me for so long that i guess she just cant resist?

btw im 19 first experience of a girl cheating on someone else.

JesterX said:

Ok well there is this girl i know and she has liked me for awhile but i only recently made a move on her (making out, messing around). the thing is she has a boyfriend (i dont really know much about him/never met him). and yeah she says she is sexually attracted to me and she isnt going to tell her bf about what happened or about what will happen in the future well anyway if anyone else has had this experience does the girl usually leave there bf if they like you enough? or does anyone think this is wrong? obvouisly it is her choice. and no shes not a slut her bf is her first that she has ever had sex with, but she has liked me for so long that i guess she just cant resist?

btw im 19 first experience of a girl cheating on someone else.

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How old is he dude? Sounds like she might be kinda immature. Just remember whatever you do, she has cheated once, it might be ok in her mind for awhile if she gets away with it. That could be bad down the road for you if you date her.
One thing I would do if you really think this girl cares about you, see if she is willing to do what it takes to be yours. Do not do anything else with her, no matter how much you want to until she tells her boyfriend that she has met someone else, and wants to be with him(you). Tell her you want your relationship to be genuine and respectable, or you want no relationship at all. Trust me you have to be firm, and direct with younger girls because if you give them room to dance around it indecisively they more than likely will for as long as they can. So give an ultimatum, breaking up is hard to do, but if you guys are meant to be than it will be worth it.

Of course if you don't actually want a relationship then just keep messing around/fucking her, just be prepared if her boyfriend finds out to throw down...

I am sure this seems fun and feels fun as well. But maybe you should evaluate what you're doing. Step into the man's shoes and try to replicate how bad he might feel if he, say, found out his gf is messing around with some other dude? I, myself, have been cheated on before and have cheated on someone. Good times did not ensue from any of those mishaps. There is something about getting cheated on that will dig into the cheated's heart for a long time. This is speaking, of course, as if the man really does love her. And to agree with another post. If she is willing to cheat with you to have a little bit of fun, what makes you think she'll be totally trustworthy when or if you date her?

Definately wrong, and I am in the same situation myself... I have that friend "with advantages" that I hang out with. She has a bf since 4 month, her first also, but he's been too shy to make out with her. They've done everything except penetration... and always find a diff excuse, ranging from testicule problem, to " there's not enough stimulation". Anywyas, I find myself in a situation where the girl doesn't know what to do to get her man into bed seriously, so here I come I know this seems wrong, but in a way, there some positive in it.

if he finds out he'll kill you. lord knows i would

samzman said:

if he finds out he'll kill you. lord knows i would

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One way to look at it or you would know the girl you are with isn't the one that deserves you. Finding out sooner than later would almost be a plus if its going to happen.

Why would you want to be with the girl in I assume a relationship? Her morals are definately out of whack and or she seems is immature. If she gets with you would you be pissed if she cheated? Whould she think that you wouldn't cheat? How could you have any trust?

I could not have any trust, that's true. She is the one who made the first move though, so in this manner, she is responsible at first, for having the idea of letting me know about her wanting to have sex with me.

I guess i will just wait and see how it pans out if she leaves her bf good but if not i might have to end it. the thing is she has wanted me for 4 years or so, i think thats the only reason why she cheated. i would doubt she would do anything with someone she had just met or only known for a little while. and if she did love her bf wouldnt she have regrets the next day? cause she is still flirting with me.

I say she definitely has to end it with him before you pursue it any further.

I agree with penguinsfan.

Also, you are kiding yourself by saying that she would only do it with someone that she's liked or known for ages. That makes it no better. Cheating is cheating.

How would you feel if you were in her boyfriends shoes?

You haven't actually had sex yet, right? Your initially post said making out and shit. I don't want to defend the actions against the uninformed boyfriend, but at least it is not nearly as bad as if you had sex.

What I meant by my post yesterday is there may be some hope for a relationship or something if she ends it now with her boyfriend, but if she strings him along and continues her fling with you then she is exposing some real character flaws. So, if you're at all serious about furthering things with her then tell her it will have to be either him or you.

Its over she said she couldnt bare to not be with her bf, but she is attracted to me so eh i guess if she ever leaves him im next in line. I dont know if thats a good thing or a bad thing though lol

JesterX said:

Its over she said she couldnt bare to not be with her bf, but she is attracted to me so eh i guess if she ever leaves him im next in line. I dont know if thats a good thing or a bad thing though lol

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Your no puppy waiting for a treat. Definitely don't hold your breath for this.

Any girl that cheats on her BF is only good for bootycalls. She's a ho and should be treated as nothing more... Don't ever make the mistake of thinking that she won't do the same to you when things start to get dull or slow down.

If all you want is a piece of ass, then go for it but if you have any ideas of making her your GF, i say forget it. Otherwise, in a few months you'll be posting something about how your GF may be cheating on you and what should you do...

I'd say get her if you can, leave her before she does... That's called a f*ck friend

this situation always makes me laugh, its really shit for her current bf but then again it will prob happen to all of us. i seriously wouldnt hold your breath to be next in line. she has probably taken a step back, evaluated the situation and decided it was best to stay with her bf.
if you really like this girl - im sure you could persue her in a relaxed "friendly" environment, of course she will be cautious.
my best mate has recently been in this situation TWICE!! and both times he got the girl. he simply talked to her friends, invited them round, went over hers and simply showed her that he was a really nice guy - possibly a better catch that the bf that she is currently bored of. the first girl decided she wasnt goin to finish with her bf (even though my friend NEVER even mentioned him) but they got drunk and fooled around. she then finished with him and started seeing my mate. At this point he meets this other girl at a fashion show (who is extremely good looking). guess what? she also had a bf!!
so he blows off the origional girl and starts to persue this one (as a friend ). we are in university so this girl only saw her bf on weekends - the rest of the time my friend was being "friendly" with her. again, with the help of his best friend alcohol - my mate started to fool around with this girl, only kissing this time. a couple of weeks later she felt guilty about what she was doing and decided she didnt want to cheat on her bf anymore so she "let him go". he has been seeing her since then (this was only about a month ago )

*clears throat and looks down at my feet sheepishly*...um...*cough*...yeahh i found out yesterday that my girls gf has a bf..and so ummm...yeah we're kindda the "other people". soooo...yeahh...it's wrong but goddamn is it hott. lol

so i feel the pain of the original post. it's a bitch, tough moral question. argh

sikdogg said:

Any girl that cheats on her BF is only good for bootycalls. She's a ho and should be treated as nothing more... Don't ever make the mistake of thinking that she won't do the same to you when things start to get dull or slow down.

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samzman said:

so i feel the pain of the original post. it's a bitch, tough moral question. argh

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yeah its a tough moral question but wheres the harm when your young right? right anybody? agree please agree... lol