will i be a bitter ex if i play my ace card

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hello all,
I'm in two minds about what to do in my situation so would appreciate all advice.

Basically i was seeing a girl for nearly 2 months, we separated but it became clear she was seeing a guy (that she is in a relationship with now) behind my back and was definitely leading me on. i called her up on it on NYE and messaged her NYD being quite blunt about my thoughts on our 'relationship', if you can call it that. she didn't respond because she knows I've figured her out and blocked me on certain social media. A friend said to me he would tell the guy, that she was seeing me while she was seeing him and reveal to him her reputation. i know we were only dating a little while but its the principal of it, especially after i admitted i was messed around before.

a part of me really wants to get revenge on her, especially after she said i ruined things between us, but i don't want to appear like a bitter and jealous ex and therefore the bad guy (which i'm not)

what do i do fellas? let it go and let it bottle up or do i risk ruining my reputation.

look forward to your advice brothers :)
 
Channel all of those negative feelings into positive energy that will fuel your self-improvement. She's already shown the type of person that she is and you'd only be stooping to her level if you engage in any respect. By not impulsively acting/reacting, you're taking another step to personal maturity and emotional growth...rise above the trash. By doing nothing and/or ignoring her/them, you will be conducting yourself in the exact opposite manner in which she's become accustom...this will set you apart from all the other idiots she's 'played' in the past and you'll probably be 'in her mind' for being different.

Remember, living well is the best revenge!
 
i like your thinking, that's mainly the reasons why i'm back here doing p.e. tbh. we do go to the same gym however and the other day she practically walked past me...i could see the guilt in her eyes aha. what should i do next time tho, smile politely and walk past her?
 
Stripeee;721291 said:
what should i do next time?
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Get your mind in a place where you can be as relaxed as possible, (anxiety can be seen/felt) and go about your business. The thing that's so messed-up about women is that they will pursue a guy with strong male-traits, and then go-about trying to 'test' those strengths. The messed-up thing about guys, is that once they've gotten the girl, they no longer exhibit those male-strengths and the girl has a puppy instead of the lion. Men are too afraid to 'upset' the girl, but that is exactly what she needs, (and oftentimes doesn't even realize it).

Just be The Lion that you are and you'll have all the women you want
 
Op I've seen your story before, this video should be your guide
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Stripeee;721287 said:
hello all,
I'm in two minds about what to do in my situation so would appreciate all advice.

Basically i was seeing a girl for nearly 2 months, we separated but it became clear she was seeing a guy (that she is in a relationship with now) behind my back and was definitely leading me on. i called her up on it on NYE and messaged her NYD being quite blunt about my thoughts on our 'relationship', if you can call it that. she didn't respond because she knows I've figured her out and blocked me on certain social media. A friend said to me he would tell the guy, that she was seeing me while she was seeing him and reveal to him her reputation. i know we were only dating a little while but its the principal of it, especially after i admitted i was messed around before.

a part of me really wants to get revenge on her, especially after she said i ruined things between us, but i don't want to appear like a bitter and jealous ex and therefore the bad guy (which i'm not)

what do i do fellas? let it go and let it bottle up or do i risk ruining my reputation.

look forward to your advice brothers :)
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Let the brother know but don't get revenge.
 
The only concern is that if I was going to message this guy I should have done it straight away not 2 weeks later, otherwise it looks like I'm still being clinger and jealous....any thoughts? &#129300;
 
kyomoto;721313 said:
Let the brother know but don't get revenge.
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Bitch move Kay why youre just a sore loser . its time you accept the fact I ran off with your pillow. Youre the type to lick a pillows shoes after she done cast you aside. Uber cuk
 
If I was going to message this guy wouldn't it make sense to do it straight away, not two weeks later coz that just looks kinda desperate don't you think?
 
Messaging anyone at anytime IS desperate...maintain your dignity and ignore those fools. There's is zero satisfaction in contacting him...I'd laugh if I was receiving some text from a jilted dude about a girl I was laying pipe.
 
words of wisdom aha, she blocked me on twitter because I put a sly post up so messaging him would only cause more problems and make me look like the bad guy and her a victim, even though it's the opposite!
 
Swan is like the devil, he's not wise for being the devil but for being ancient
 
You "saw" her for two months. You weren't married, she's not your baby mama (right?). Quit acting like you own her and move on. She messed around on you. Big deal, get over it. There's other women out there. Bottom line, you're acting like you were afraid of acting. Leave her alone, work on yourself, let her cheat on this guy next, enjoy life.
 
True I was only seeing her for a couple of months but I find it hard getting to know a girl because I was messed around before and she did the exact same thing only worse, but I genuinely really thought she would be the right one. I have been getting over it slowly and p.e is helping to a point. Just need to make those gains now!
 
there's a phenomenon regarding getting the exact results that you expect...as mentioned above, it's time to look deeply at yourself and take full-action on improving and re-wiring your mental road-map. You're in a self-fulfilling prophecy cycle that MUST be broken or it will be repeated over and over.

we're here to help, sometimes brutally...but know that many of us have been there and are speaking from experience, ('cept for Kyo, lol)
 
Remember once when this dude i knew told me he had...fucked the bitch i was messing whit, even when he told me that years later, that shit still drills my psyche toughlol:Orofl
 
So in essence I must change my mind set by learning from this experience?, to avoid it repeating itself therefore breaking the cycle. I think if I met someone else fairly soon who is decent then that would really help, but a) I don't know how to, and b) most nice girls are 'off the market' lol.
 
If, 'a) I don't know how to', were true you would still be a virgin and never would have had the experience of that girl in the 1st place...and if 'b) most nice girls are 'off the market' is more of an excuse not to try. Changing your mindset will not happen like a light-switch, but exploring why you act/react is a good start. Remember, you have a choice in how you feel and you have a choice in how you react...don't give others that power.
 
Yeah op you sound like someone who gets the short end for being beta
 
i think the reason why i have this mindset is probably just because i need more social occasions to meet girls/people in general and simply because i dont have enough confidence/belief in my experiences and 'ability'

im going to visit friends at uni soon so any advice or tips on how to approach girls would be great :)
 
I like to hone my bullying skills ripping on people in random chats, sometimes theres cute girls there blazing and shit justnwaitng for someone to talk to them. I'll moisten them if I can they really like it when you sweet talk. Who knows you might find your one and only
 
The more you're in social situations, the more comfortable you become. Don't put too much emphasis on 'trying' to meet a girl, just relax and be yourself (but the best part of yourself). Better to ask a girl about herself and don't nervously respond at the end of her every word...girls will ramble-on about stupid stuff, just like we do...never resist the temptation to just shut-up. Eliminate the mindset that you're either not good enough or she's too pretty/whatever, get in-touch with your inner-alpha
 
nice i see what you mean. I don't think i'm alone on this but i just struggle 'breaking the ice' once i get going i think i do OK....any approaches or lines to try?
 
lines are lame, be genuinely interested in her and all will flow...just ask her what her name is and where she's from, keep it simple. Remember, she's probably there for the same reasons that you are
 
Better give that a try then! &#128522; I guess my problem is that I over think everything, even when I'm drinking my mind is still aware of everything around me and I think myself out of acting. Practice will help I'm sure though
 
Never repay and evil with an evil, bless her and move on to the greater good the future holds for you.
 
doublelongdaddy;721535 said:
Never repay and evil with an evil, bless her and move on to the greater good the future holds for you.
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Sometimes you need to fight fire with fire but in this case you needn't fight only be glad you rid yourself of those niggles
 
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