this sucks !!

[KiNgA dA ThRoNe]

okay bear with me on this story ok..need advice !!

i been goin with this girl for a year....she loves me and i love her ..both equally... well this girl i used to mess around with visited me and i kissed her... < no one knows about this but me ...my girlfriend was mad because she knew i was with her durting the day but she doesnt know anything happened... i dont want to tell her because it will be over..there will be no talk it over or fix it..its done ibetween me and her if i tell her what happened ..but its botherin me sooo bad i feel like shit....but i dont want yo lose her ... what should i do...

 

[9_16]

Don't tell her. Why ruin a good thing? You did something silly and it's over.
Forget the past and plan for the future. Also, if it makes you feel so bad, don't do it again.

 

[KiNgA dA ThRoNe]

yea i feel you..i want to do it so bad..i just feel bad ..its crazy....i just dont know if i can deal with it....mayb over time ill forget it

 

[Shithead]

i have no tollerance for cheaters, you should tell your girlfriend the truth and accept the consequences.

 

[The Artist]

Dude, one thing I've learned is....women find out everything. If you honestly feel bad about it and you're "equally" in love then she'll probably understand. Love hurts sometimes but it only makes relationships stronger. If I were you, I'd tell her. She'll get pissed but in the end she'll respect you for being honest. It WILL be 10 times worse if she finds out on her own...and she probably will. It's not like you had sex with this woman...it was only a kiss...and you felt bad afterwards. If you think that she'll break-up with you for this...then I seriously doubt that yall are in love (IMO). In worse cases, yall will split up for a short time....during this time is when the both of you will find out whether or not you're right for each other. Trust is so very hard to get and so very easy to lose. I feel for you bro, as I'd never do anything like this (if I was in love with a woman). It sucks getting hurt and I never want to go down that road again....no matter how fine or cool the chick is. If the relationship ends atleast I'll know that I didn't lie, cheat, or keep secrets from my girl. Most woman who I've talked to about this said that they'd rather hear the truth ASAP and deal with it from there. Again this is what I would do...regardless, I hope it works out. G'luck man. Artist

 

[KiNgA dA ThRoNe]

shithead ...i think still was right...you always have somethin bad to say...you dont how bad i regret this ..this was the worst mistake i made in my young life so far...so i dont need your comments like that ok..i know what i did and it hurts most because it hurts her ..because i wasnt faithful.ok

 

[GhosT_DoGG]

Tell her, it's best she know. You didn't fuck with eachother, so non big harm done really. If she leave over a kiss, thats not right, love should be stronger than that.
Ya'll going to solve this, you must. It's about forgiving aslo you know.

The thing is, she is going to lose alot of your thrust because of this. Which isn't more then right. Make it up for her, it will take time to heal it, time must decide.

If you were sober, when you did it. Then I believe you do NOT truely love your girl.
If you were drunk, well you don't think as clearly then, so that is acceptable, still not right from your side doe.

The thruth is the best, alot of shit happens otherwise.

 

[KiNgA dA ThRoNe]

but theres somethin else i must of informed you of...this "other" girl is from another state she moved but came down for one day and two dont know each other and will never see each other....?

 

[GhosT_DoGG]

still tell her, if you talk so much about it here, it must weigh a bunch on your conscience... otherwise you wouldn't had told us either.

 

[KiNgA dA ThRoNe]

yea i told you's here to get a response on what yous would do...but i hear that alot of people say to tell her....ill make a decision soon

 

[bigeasy]

Hang on a second here. Personally, I wouldn't be stressing as much as you are about all this. I've been seriously dating this girl for over a year and have kissed two other girls during this time. Both of which totally casual, one being my previous girlfriend (on her birthday) another just a good friend (leaving the country, saying goodbye).
Nothing to stress about... even my aunts feel the need to plant a good one on me when they see me. (which is weird but anyways)
Point is, my girlfriend and I are very secure about how we feel about each other, both know that if she or I kiss someone else it's not something that we need to have a sit down about. Therefore, I don't need to bother her with such trivial things.

With that being said, if I was to get busy, have sex, fool around, whatever, with someone else then we'd have problems. We both have that understanding.

Now I'm just giving you my perspective. I don't bother troubling my girl with something if it's something totally insignificant.
My advice to you is, if you deem this event to be significant and you can't live with yourself - tell her. If you feel this was really nothing - don't stress her out over nothing.

 

[Shithead]

shithead ...i think still was right...you always have somethin bad to say...you dont how bad i regret this ..this was the worst mistake i made in my young life so far...so i dont need your comments like that ok..i know what i did and it hurts most because it hurts her ..because i wasnt faithful.ok

why did you have to twist my opinion in to thinking i was attacking you?

forget it, im sure it was misinterpretation or whatever ever. my opinion is simply, you made a mistake, you seem very attached to this girl and she seems very attached to you, so i think you owe it to her to tell her.

 

[kong1971]

No, shithead, your comment was fine. You're just a blunt guy. I happen to agree...BUT maybe you can tell her and put a positive spin on it, kinga. Make sure she really knows you feel bad because you love her, and love her more than you ever knew. She will be pissed, but if you reassure her that you love her and won't do it again it might not be so bad. I know I would want to know if my wife slipped, even if it was just a kiss. If I found out on my own, I would be devastated.