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[hangh]

So I'm not all into this Seduction stuff. I have a few questions tho.. Lemme start by telling what kind of position I am in.

I live in a really small town with about 15 000 inhabitants, It's a place where everyone knows everybody and hitting on girls is really hard because everyone has an opinion about you or some shit like that.

I mean I myself don't think I look like shit or anything like that. I'm about 5'9, work out regularly, play the guitar etc But I just don't have the energy to go to these crappy parties (and they really aren't even fun) around here. That's about it. What would you guys do if you were in the same situation?

Cheers

 

[Super]

Damn I thought this was gonna be about the Series on TV, I Can talk all day about that.

 

[Girthius]

I come from a small town! There is little you can do about your situation, as everyone knows one another! You are either the town stud or you have already been cast to the side, as an average Joe!I had limited success when I lived in a small town, mostly because like you, I didn't care too much about the parties, and the boring people there! It was only when I started hanging out in the bigger towns/cities, that I started to really score big time!

Forget the small minded women of the small town, there are so many more interesting, and willing women out there! Do not be confined to your small pond! Leave it behind, and jump into the sea of life, where there are countless mermaids that are waiting to play your pipe!!

Search for greener pastures, the harvest will be bountiful!!!

 

[hangh]

I come from a small town! There is little you can do about your situation, as everyone knows one another! You are either the town stud or you have already been cast to the side, as an average Joe!I had limited success when I lived in a small town, mostly because like you, I didn't care too much about the parties, and the boring people there! It was only when I started hanging out in the bigger towns/cities, that I started to really score big time!

Forget the small minded women of the small town, there are so many more interesting, and willing women out there! Do not be confined to your small pond! Leave it behind, and jump into the sea of life, where there are countless mermaids that are waiting to play your pipe!!

Search for greener pastures, the harvest will be bountiful!!!

Excellent advice I'm going to uni in a year in a bigger city. And I hear there are fine women at unis?

 

[Girthius]

Excellent advice I'm going to uni in a year in a bigger city. And I hear there are fine women at unis?

You lucky dog!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Your in!!!!!

 

[stillwantmore]

Excellent advice I'm going to uni in a year in a bigger city. And I hear there are fine women at unis?

That's what I've heard. Sounds like moving is your best bet.

 

[hangh]

That's what I've heard. Sounds like moving is your best bet.

Yupyup, That's what i'll do soon. I have 1 year on me to chisel my dick. Going to uni with a 7x5.5 or maybe even a 7.5x6 (optimistic ) would be cool.

Cheers

 

[ctmwm]

I'd start hitting the Adult Friend finder, match.com and yahoo groups for the area you are going to be in. See if you can start before you even get there. Who knows you could have a little blackbook before you even hit town!

 

[levista]

Man, I am in a similar situation, so here's my two cents.

You gotta learn your skills Check out the thread here about the ebook "double your dating" and start reading www.fastseduction.com

Most of the stuff there will be about being a player and nailing dozens of chicks, but it all applies also to generating interest from woman, making yourself stand out from the crowd (in a good way) and learning how to keep a woman interested.

Nine tenths of it is all about mindset, knowing what you want and not giving a damn what people think of you.

If nothing else, practice these skills now before you get to the big city.

 

[bigbutnottoo]

I think its your attitude, dude!

You have already resigned yourself to be an undesirable castoff and others have reinforced your negative thoughts and feelings in this thread. Not being the town stud does not mean you are in the reject file. It might even help you to be less known. I mean, really, does everyone in town really know everyone and has everyone already rejected you?

Your town is small, but it isnt that small. I mean my graduating class had about 100 people, and in the last 7 years I have probably not seen 80-90 of those people even once. And I have basically lived in the adjacent college town since then and have never lived more than 2 hours away.

Sure, ingrained impressions can hurt you. But believe me, things can change. Personally I went from no one noticing me to chicks approaching me almost overnight. People I had been around for years, too.
Stop resigning yourself.

 

[levista]

Sure, ingrained impressions can hurt you. But believe me, things can change. Personally I went from no one noticing me to chicks approaching me almost overnight. People I had been around for years, too.
Stop resigning yourself.

Dude, how? I suffer from ingrained crap myself and a lot of negative inner self talk. What snapped you out of it?

 

[Texan]

I don't know about you but when I was young all I wanted to hit was the head cheerleader and shit like that. Need less to say I didn't get laid alot. Just have fun and tag what's available. There are always chicks available. Even if you don't like the parties or the ppl at the parties, if that's where the pussy is, go for a while, show up late when they're drunk. Whatever. These are just things I just wish I'd done.

Another thing, try to be assertive, if you act like you're the shit, ppl will believe it because they don't know what the shit is; they're just faking it too.
Have fun man.

 

[bigbutnottoo]

Dude, how? I suffer from ingrained crap myself and a lot of negative inner self talk. What snapped you out of it?

Well, to be honest a lot of it was that I aged well and got a lot better looking. A lot of thats just nature I cant control and some is taking care of myself and getting better everyday.

Then of course, when people all of sudden think you look better that certainly helps with confidence.

On the mental side, I have had depression my whole life. I learned about Cognitive Therapy from studying on my own, my ex who was a (psycho) psychologist, being treated etc. Our mind controls our reality. I dont get disparaged anymore. I also have social phobia. I used to not even be able to speak to people. Now I not only can but have no problem being very assertive.

I also have studied other people and the way their minds work and I know a lot about how to project myself into people, manipulate them ,etc. I am very ethical, so I never try to manipulate people or take advantage of them. I did learn from a master though.

So I would say if there is anything you can do to improve yourself as an individual, do it. And if you improve your thinking as well, the 2 go hand in hand.

 

[levista]

thanks BigButnottoo, appreciate you taking the time to write that

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

I mean my graduating class had about 100 people

Mine had 72, and only 60 something graduated.
Now thats a small town.

But I just don't have the energy to go to these crappy parties

What else is there to do in a small town? They can be as fun as you make them.

 

[ctmwm]

On the mental side, I have had depression my whole life. I learned about Cognitive Therapy from studying on my own, my ex who was a (psycho) psychologist, being treated etc. Our mind controls our reality. I dont get disparaged anymore. I also have social phobia. I used to not even be able to speak to people. Now I not only can but have no problem being very assertive.

I also have studied other people and the way their minds work and I know a lot about how to project myself into people, manipulate them ,etc. I am very ethical, so I never try to manipulate people or take advantage of them. I did learn from a master though.

So I would say if there is anything you can do to improve yourself as an individual, do it. And if you improve your thinking as well, the 2 go hand in hand.

bigbutnottoo, can you point me in a direction to learn about this. I'd really be greatful!

 

[Lightning]

Throw a Big Concert for the Town and Be the Lead Guitar Player/singer. Then you will have all the Chicks on your Dick and their Moms too.

 

[jonniehiem]

Damn I thought this was gonna be about the Series on TV, I Can talk all day about that.

roflmao....yo i love that show too!!.i thought it was gonna be about the series as well.

 

[hangh]

I think its your attitude, dude!

You have already resigned yourself to be an undesirable castoff and others have reinforced your negative thoughts and feelings in this thread. Not being the town stud does not mean you are in the reject file. It might even help you to be less known. I mean, really, does everyone in town really know everyone and has everyone already rejected you?

Your town is small, but it isnt that small. I mean my graduating class had about 100 people, and in the last 7 years I have probably not seen 80-90 of those people even once. And I have basically lived in the adjacent college town since then and have never lived more than 2 hours away.

Sure, ingrained impressions can hurt you. But believe me, things can change. Personally I went from no one noticing me to chicks approaching me almost overnight. People I had been around for years, too.
Stop resigning yourself.

You're probably right. One thing I do is I have a very positive inner monologue with myself. And I do think I am the shit I have been given comments that I was funny too. But overall I'm a really silent type of guy, for example i'm not a guy who goes around yelling and getting attention. I just do my shit, talk with friends etc and then i'm done

I'm glad we have a forum with experts on Dating/Seducing, I've just read half the Double Your Dating book and it seems nice so far, but I don't really know what to talk about with girls? I mean, you go forward and sit in the couch next to them or something similiar and say "hi, how's it going?".. I don't really have any opening lines. One thing I promised myself tho is that when I get to uni i'll try to make an ass of myself (approaching women quickly with the 3s rule and then just see what happens and learn from that), the chicks will probably think i'm goofing around anyway

One other thing I noticed here in Sweden(in my town)! We don't really have those chicks that are overly arrogant, there's basically a group of chicks that are pretty hot that hang out together and then there's the ugly group, You know? Most of the chicks on the parties are around 17-18 years old. I would assume you should approach these girls in another way? Because they probably won't be playing games with you(as much)? Just be a bit cocky, funny and don't show that you're interested, and ofcourse never do what they tell you to do (directly)

But in this town I dunno? So I think about myself in a good way, Am confident and have some humor but talking is not my good side

Cheers

 

[Godsize]

I thought it would be a lot easier to get laid if you lived in a small, boring town. What else is there to do except get drunk and fool around?

And correct me if I'm wrong, but in Sweden, isn't the ugliest girl still a "10"??

I know what you mean though, man. I HATE parties... especially "sausage parties" (the kind where the guys vastly outnumber the girls). Just get drunk and go... hopefully you'll be smellin' your fingers on the way home!!

 

[kdogg101]

I'm from a small town of 30,000 people the life there is like what someone in this thread said, "everyone knows you as the stud or the outsider". I was the outsider but on the other hand like someone said I got better looking and noticed that life was much different in cities. My grad class was 142 and had all the typical groups( but in my town there wasn't cheerleaders and I guess in Canada its not a big thing) I believe that my "small ville" experience is a big part of how I think about myself. (which is bad if you have read my previous posts) The parties here were the pit parties where all the sluts and "cool people" hung out but usually like someone said these parties were "sausage fests." Also it seems that racism runs rampant in my town (as I am east Indian while most people here were white or native) I am going to move to a big city for uni so I hope everything will be better in the sense of girls,friends.
(I repeated this from my newbie introduction)

 

[Kal-el]

Originally posted by Supra:

Damn I thought this was gonna be about the Series on TV, I Can talk all day about that.

I know what ya mean Supra! I love that show!
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[freakazoid]

i grew up in a rural area with only 400 people at my high school and 1000 down the road at the other school. the parties were for jocks, sluts and anything inbetween. since my family were imagrants i was cast aside and was a loner throughout my schooling. it wasn't until i started studying in the city that i started getting laid so i know how all us "small villians" feel/felt.(sorry about my english

 

[against_odds21]

Mine had 72, and only 60 something graduated.
Now thats a small town.

No. There were only 20 some in my graduating class.

Talk about slim pickings girl wise. :s