Can't say it's sexual immorality if your sexual partner is already a lifelong partner. Hope the misunderstanding got straightened out at this point.
Of course, sexual immorality occurs before marriage. Even having sex during the courting stages still considered as sexual immortality. This is why there are many factions in the churches discussed about this topic of what can fall within the two sides of the coin called sexual sin.
This is life long partner, not your temporary girlfriend you want to get a kink with. Of course, that's each person's perspectives on the matter and how they decipher the Words of God. No one can judge anyone but God Himself. We can only discuss and encourage one another along the way.
Definitely. We hear things loud and clear. However, let's leave this as is before things spiral out of control. We can only be accountable for ourselves, and warn each other about PIED. Not a good thing to have once it kicks in. Its worst as getting out of drug's addicti