Lost erection during sex; not the first time.

[bonerballs]

I'm a relatively young guy so I'm not sure why this is affecting me but it's bugging me. Just a few moments ago my girlfriend and I had sex. She's a virgin and this is the second time we attempted sex. The first time I had a solid hard-on but she was too tight and she said it hurt her too much. Tonight we tried again and I did penetrate, but I felt so turned off by the fact she was in pain and how she wouldn't loosen her legs for deeper penetration.

After a few thrusts I noticed my condom was coming off and my penis was at maybe 65% erection strength at best. After pulling out and fingering her for a while I noticed I couldn't get my rock hard erection. I tried getting her to play with it for a while to maybe get it back but she keeps moving her hand away.

I'm thinking all of these things are affecting my mentallity and erection strength. Anyone here ever have this problem?

 

[goal8*6nick]

of course man.of course.it is pretty common happened to me many times and i am healthy as hell!!!!

 

[bonerballs]

Was it a pyschological problem?

I've also noticed also that sex isn't as pleasurable as masturbation to me. Any recommendations for great condoms that increase MY pleasure or alternate safe birth control methods?

 

[10inchadvantage]

Ya dude sex takes some time getting used to. The more the both of you relax the better it will be.

 

[DJ66]

Hey i wouldn't worry about it, seems like your saying that at the moment your both having trouble with sex as an exciting experience and i guess thats why your being turned off. Its kinda sweet in a way that your so concerned with your girl friend being in pain that you loose it. I guess you both have to just relax and see get into it gently, you should both get used to it and then you won't have to worry about everything. Personally though i find that condoms don't help (not that i would have sex without them), but i tend to find the minute i put them on i get abit turned off possibly due to restricted blood flow i dunno, i guess thats something i have to get used to.

 

[wohoo19m]

It's all psychological dude. I mean, what's so hot about you causing pain to your woman, right? She'll get used to it, and the pain will go away. The beginning is always rough for a while. It was for my previous girlfriend for a couple of months in fact.

I had a similar problem, be with me it used to be that my woman, after she had came, wasn't interested in sex anymore, and I knew this. So when she was trying to stimulate me to orgasm manually, in my head, I was just " she's not liking this, I better hurry and come. " and this had the opposite effect. Result, my ex never succeeded in making me come in other ways than intercourse. I thought it was just me, but my current girlfriend proved me wrong rofl