Losing erection?

[Stoffel17]

Hey guys
Have any of you guys had the experience of being really hard during foreplay..but then when it comes time to have sex you loose your erection? I had this happen to me a couple of times and it really makes me worry. I know worrying about it is the worst thing to do, but I just want to know if this has happened, or is happening to anyone and how you dealt with it? I know its all psychological...but yeah...
Cheers

 

[DLD]

Stoffel, you guessed it right when you said it was psychological. You also hit it on the nose with the worrying about it will make it worse. When you start to lose the erection I bet you are thinking about not losing the erection. Iff you are getting rock hard erections during foreplay than this is a mental obstacle. If it happens again try stopping intercourse and switch back to foreplay. Believe me she is in no hurry and will appreciate foreplay just as much as intercourse. After you clear your mind and you shit is rocking again give it another go.

DLD

 

[samzman]

Originally posted by doublelongdaddy
Stoffel, you guessed it right when you said it was psychological. You also hit it on the nose with the worrying about it will make it worse. When you start to lose the erection I bet you are thinking about not losing the erection. Iff you are getting rock hard erections during foreplay than this is a mental obstacle. If it happens again try stopping intercourse and switch back to foreplay. Believe me she is in no hurry and will appreciate foreplay just as much as intercourse. After you clear your mind and you shit is rocking again give it another go.

DLD

yeah i used to go through the same thing with me and my girl. i would get all nice and hard but when time came to put on the condom i would have lost some hardness and struggle like a bastard to put it on. it's a great idea to switch back to foreplay and get back into the mood. if you're goig to use a condom then you should be all set. if you're not then you're more than all set. (though unless she's on the pill you can become a father sooner than you want and if you're already a father better start preparing another baby room)

 

[Stoffel17]

Thanks for your replies. I've had the same experience that Samzans was talking about. All througout foreplay I was rock hard and then my girl friend said "Go and get the condom" and I had to get to my wallet across the room and open it and whatnot, and while this was going on I got juuuust a little bit softer (all that concentration trying to open the damn condom). So, naturally, I thought, "Oh fuck, I'm losing my erection when I need it most!" and that really didn't help b/c then it shot down even faster. lol But here is the thing that really didn't help. My girlfriends reaction! It wasn't negative...but I think she said something to the effect of, "Why aren't you hard anymore" type thing. THEN I started freaking the hell out. Ug. Ladies need to understand that erections are unpredictable little buggers! Oh well. Lets just hope all goes well in the future! Cheers

 

[bobbdobbs]

My f'ing wife is like that. I've kept telling her to knock it off because she'll give me performance anxiety. But she just shoots her mouth off.

Fortunately I don't freak out. I know it'll come back given some mechanical stimulation, and it always does.

She is so thoughtless sometimes. It pisses me off.

 

[Stoffel17]

Bobbdobbs

What exactly does your wife say? And how does she react when you tell her to knock it off?

 

[samzman]

Originally posted by bobbdobbs
My f'ing wife is like that. I've kept telling her to knock it off because she'll give me performance anxiety. But she just shoots her mouth off.

Fortunately I don't freak out. I know it'll come back given some mechanical stimulation, and it always does.

She is so thoughtless sometimes. It pisses me off.

dude that sucks. next time she does that get her all nice and horny by eating her out or somethin then if your man aint standing at attention enough for the condom and she shoots off her mouth, then just leave her there and walk out of the room. have her beggin for it