For the married men.....

[thewife]

Have you ever had a threesome w/ your wife and another woman?

Have you ever had a threesome w/ your wife and another man?

Was it someone you knew...or a stranger/escort/etc?

How was it?

Who's idea was it?

Would you do it again?

Did it cause any weird jealousy issues or anything?

 

[thewife]

No feaks out there???????????????????????????????????

Huh!

 

[Chi]

The real question is

Are YOU sure you'd do it and not regret it?

 

[IXL]

Hey thewife, have you?

 

[gellar]

Wife are you male?

 

[penguinsfan]

I think most marriages would have some real long-term trouble with this one. I can't recommend it.

 

[prince Albert]

A very close couple we no have suggested it to us on several occasions girl girl,boy boy girl and foursome,as a fantasy it seems like it could be fun but i no in reality i couldn't handle it,i'm way to jealous and who knows what problems it could cause in the relationship later on.

 

[stillwantmore]

I thought this guy was leaving.

 

[bIgjOe]

Did I miss something, I've never seen thewife be anything but respectful and eloquent whether he/she is really a woman or not.

 

[gellar]

I thought this guy was leaving.

Ditto.

 

[thewife]

I guess there is only one way to find out. No time soon, of course. But something to think about.......

The real question is

Are YOU sure you'd do it and not regret it?

 

[thewife]

Nope, never. Have had a lot of discussion about it...but we are to chicken

Hey thewife, have you?

 

[thewife]

That is my fear.....

as a fantasy it seems like it could be fun but i no in reality i couldn't handle it,i'm way to jealous and who knows what problems it could cause in the relationship later on.

 

[thewife]

So stillwantmore: what is it about this post that makes you think I am a guy? You have replied on several of my other posts and not made this accusation. I'm not trying to start anythign with you - just curious.....

What do I need to do to prove that I am someone's wife, so that I can get answers to my posts instead of having to "prove" myself or my gender all the time???

And BTW - what is the big deal if I WAS a guy posting this stuf? What if he was to ashamed to ask the stuff on his own, and posed as his wife?? Trust me, that is not the case here, but I don't see the big deal if it was.

Honesty is a big deal to me, so I understand how one would feel mislead if this happened...but lets face it.....how big of a role does misconception play when your talking about the WWW????

Anyone could be anyone....I just don't see the reason for all the accusatory attitudes. If you don't think I'm a woman....don't read my posts, and I'll try to remember not to reply or even look at any of yours. Deal??

I thought this guy was leaving.

 

[thewife]

((Heavy sigh)) - I would post a pic of my tits if I thought it would prove anything.....but then you would just claim they weren't MY tits......geez!

Wife are you male?

 

[against_odds21]

Write thewife on them. lol

 

[penguinsfan]

A very close couple we no have suggested it to us on several occasions girl girl,boy boy girl and foursome,as a fantasy it seems like it could be fun but i no in reality i couldn't handle it,i'm way to jealous and who knows what problems it could cause in the relationship later on.

I think that is the case 95% of the time. Of course, the problems arise when a couple is convinced they can handle it and later find out they cannot. Most relationships don't survive bringing others into the relationship.

 

[penguinsfan]

Write thewife on them. lol

That might work.

 

[thewife]

ya'll just wanna see my tits......lol!

I'll think about it.........

That might work.

 

[goinfor11x7]

The Mrs. would never agree to it. This is usually a man's fantasy--not always--but usually. I know I would be jealous as hell to see some other guy, or gal, with the Mrs.--too jealous to be turned on, I would think.

Regarding the other "issue," you could write "the" on one breast, and "wife" on the other--or maybe just take a pic of one breast. I dunno.

:s

 

[penguinsfan]

ya'll just wanna see my tits

Well, you are talking about a community of men...who think that a woman with an interest in Penis Enlargement topics is absolutely cool as hell.

 

[bIgjOe]

Well, you are talking about a community of men...who think that a woman with an interest in Penis Enlargement topics is absolutely cool as hell.

Yeah, thats why I don't get all the hate?

 

[thewife]

Yea, if it's so cool....why are people mean to me???? I've never done or said ANYTHING in bad taste on this board. I'm also pretty loyal in the way I post (ie. don't just post questions, try to answer other's questions, If I can).

What's the deal?? Maybe some of the guys on here jsut aren't as trusting as the others. But then again, what is there to NOT trust....you don't even really "know" the people that post here, so why am I so different????

I need to jsut get over it, or just leave.....but I LIKE it here

Yeah, thats why I don't get all the hate?

 

[penguinsfan]

I don't know. I haven't read through all your posts/threads and I don't know where what you're talking about stems from.

 

[thewife]

Well, nothing really nasty has been said or anything. Just basically several posters don't beleive that I'm a woman, and don't want me posting on this forum. Since day one, several folks questioned my gender, and couldn't beleive my story. Don't know why?

In the end it doesn't really matter...it's a free world wide web, and I'll post if I want to....regardless of what people say or think. It would jsut be nice to be part of the camaraderie that exsists and also get the respect that I've seen other women get.

Like I said, I'll prove it one of these days........ Until then - haters, hate on!!!

I don't know. I haven't read through all your posts/threads and I don't know where what you're talking about stems from.

 

[Chi]

What's the deal?? Maybe some of the guys on here jsut aren't as trusting as the others.

Simple as that. I think it's normal, just like in the "real" world. Don't sweat it girl.

 

[sikdogg]

Have you ever had a threesome w/ your wife and another woman?

Yes...

Have you ever had a threesome w/ your wife and another man?

Yes...

Was it someone you knew...or a stranger/escort/etc?

The first 3-some with a woman (FMF) was with my wife's best friend. We've never had a 3-some with another man (MFM) that was a close friend, always a stranger or someone we don't know very well.

How was it?

It was great...

Who's idea was it?

I don't recall... we had talked about different fantasies over the years and one day we decided to explore it further. We first went to different swing clubs to see what types of people go and one day we just jumped in.

Would you do it again?

We did and we still do... just not as often.

Did it cause any weird jealousy issues or anything?

Not really, as i said before we talked about it for a long time before actually doing anything. We also talked to alot of swingers to get their take in the whole jealousy issue. It's not for everyone... if you both can't separate sex from love then you're doomed to fail and eventually break-up.

 

[IXL]

In the end it doesn't really matter...it's a free world wide web, and I'll post if I want to....regardless of what people say or think. It would jsut be nice to be part of the camaraderie that exsists and also get the respect that I've seen other women get.

Like I said, I'll prove it one of these days........ Until then - haters, hate on!!!

Right on thewife. I enjoy reading your post and I hope you continue to do so.

ya'll just wanna see my tits......lol!

I'll think about it.........

I'll be looking forward to it. By the way, what size are your tits?

 

[AlreadyPackin']

Interesting lil' discussion. I for one couldn't sit there and watch some other(smaller ) dude jabbin' my wife. Much of the time it causes many more problems than some people think it's going to solve for them. If something as petty as the time you left the milk out or forgot to pay the cable bill come up in a spat, this is definitely going to.
As far as separating sex from love goes, I realize people have different views, but that pretty much goes against the ide of being married. Sex is the ultimate expression of love, and it's not one I'm willing to share with another woman, regardless of whether my wife is involved or not.

 

[sikdogg]

It's definitely not for everyone... and if a couple tries it to fix their declining relationship, it will surely accelerate their demise.

As far as sex being to ultimate expression of love, i don't agree... the ultimate expression of love is expressed everyday in all of our mundane lives. It is expressed by how we care and treat each other long before and long after the sex part is over. It's easy to say you love someone as you're fucking them hard, it's much harder to express love during aguments and during times where you two aren't seeing eye-to-eye. That is the test of love, not sex.

 

[thewife]

If you don't mind me asking AlreadyPackin' - how long have you been married?

I don't think my hubby could watch another guy with me either. Especially if I was enjoying it.....and then what would be the point

I however honestly think I could see him with another woman and it wouldn't bother me, just because I would enjoy "her" too. He wouldn't touch another man w/ a ten foot pole...so its not like he'd really get anything out of it, other than see some OTHER man pleasure his wife. Not going to happen.

He would definatly go for a FMF and our relationship would be fine. MFM or even MMFF...wouldn't work for us, now that I really visualize it.

We don't fight about petty shit. Haven't for years, and especially since we had our baby. We used to in HS....but that was nearly 9 years ago. We value our time together now, and don't waste it nit picking. We've learned to overlook so much that if we DO fight, we end up just finishing each other sentances and calling it a truce. Make up sex is always better than regular sex...IMO!

Thanks for the diverse replies.....just what I was asking for!

Interesting lil' discussion. I for one couldn't sit there and watch some other(smaller ) dude jabbin' my wife. Much of the time it causes many more problems than some people think it's going to solve for them. If something as petty as the time you left the milk out or forgot to pay the cable bill come up in a spat, this is definitely going to.
As far as separating sex from love goes, I realize people have different views, but that pretty much goes against the ide of being married. Sex is the ultimate expression of love, and it's not one I'm willing to share with another woman, regardless of whether my wife is involved or not.

 

[thewife]

Thank you for your reply sikdogg - exactly what I wanted to know.

BTW - how long have you been married, and how old are you. If you don't want to divulge that much info....it's okay. Just wanted to know for comparison. We are fairly young in our marriage, and life in general....so someone older and more expeirenced might handle it better.....

Yes...


Yes...


The first 3-some with a woman (FMF) was with my wife's best friend. We've never had a 3-some with another man (MFM) that was a close friend, always a stranger or someone we don't know very well.


It was great...


I don't recall... we had talked about different fantasies over the years and one day we decided to explore it further. We first went to different swing clubs to see what types of people go and one day we just jumped in.


We did and we still do... just not as often.


Not really, as i said before we talked about it for a long time before actually doing anything. We also talked to alot of swingers to get their take in the whole jealousy issue. It's not for everyone... if you both can't separate sex from love then you're doomed to fail and eventually break-up.

 

[thewife]

You know what? That is so true. I remember right after we got married, we were out partying with a bunch of older friends. They thought we were the "cutest newly weds, etc. etc." It was like 3am in the morn and everyone was jacked up....and someone asked us - "Okay, newlyweds, what do you think the defintion of love is?". Without missing a beat, I said "It's when you irritate the shit out of each other all day long, but still can't wait to lie beside each other at night". They all agreed that was so true, and told us that we would probably be married for a long time.

I feel like sex is more of an art for us. It's a way to express ourselves in the most intimate way possible. You get to literally let your guard down, and "unleash" that inner alter ego. Having the same man share that with me night after night is AWESOME. He knows my body, he knows my mind, he knows my heart. However, I'm a firm beleiver that change is good...wheater it be your work, life, marriage or whatever. I'm not saying I would want to constatnly be inviting somone in bed with us. But if the time was right, and we both agreed.....why the heck not??

I don't know.....whatever floats your boat I guess. We would probably never be brave enough anyway.....so it will probably just be a fantacy

It's definitely not for everyone... and if a couple tries it to fix their declining relationship, it will surely accelerate their demise.

As far as sex being to ultimate expression of love, i don't agree... the ultimate expression of love is expressed everyday in all of our mundane lives. It is expressed by how we care and treat each other long before and long after the sex part is over. It's easy to say you love someone as you're fucking them hard, it's much harder to express love during aguments and during times where you two aren't seeing eye-to-eye. That is the test of love, not sex.

 

[thewife]

Right on thewife. I enjoy reading your post and I hope you continue to do so.



I'll be looking forward to it. By the way, what size are your tits?

Sorry IXL - I'm 38 C - however I nursed my baby for almost a year. The girlz aint' what they used to be.....but I've seen worse Hubby has no complaints! I will probably get a lift later on in life...but for now, the wonder bra....well.....does wonders - haha!

 

[sikdogg]

Thank you for your reply sikdogg - exactly what I wanted to know.

BTW - how long have you been married, and how old are you. If you don't want to divulge that much info....it's okay. Just wanted to know for comparison. We are fairly young in our marriage, and life in general....so someone older and more expeirenced might handle it better.....

I'm turning 40 next month and we've been married for 17 years...

 

[sikdogg]

...I don't think my hubby could watch another guy with me either. Especially if I was enjoying it.....and then what would be the point

It's always interesting that guys have no problems with an FMF but object to a MFM... They want their cake but deprive their spouse of a similar experience. We feel that the whole experience is about both people enjoying the pleasures of sex, not just one...

I however honestly think I could see him with another woman and it wouldn't bother me, just because I would enjoy "her" too. He wouldn't touch another man w/ a ten foot pole...so its not like he'd really get anything out of it, other than see some OTHER man pleasure his wife. Not going to happen.

You are like most women and are more open and have less hang-ups than most guys.

He would definatly go for a FMF and our relationship would be fine. MFM or even MMFF...wouldn't work for us, now that I really visualize it...

MMFF wouldn't work for most guys, but MFMF or MFFM does. Putting the two "M's" together suggests that the men will be interacting with each other.

 

[thewife]

So your not going to answer my question about how long married??

It's always interesting that guys have no problems with an FMF but object to a MFM... They want their cake but deprive their spouse of a similar experience. We feel that the whole experience is about both people enjoying the pleasures of sex, not just one...

I know, I was thinking that but didn't want to say it



You are like most women and are more open and have less hang-ups than most guys.


MMFF wouldn't work for most guys, but MFMF or MFFM does. Putting the two "M's" together suggests that the men will be interacting with each other.

Oops. MFMF is what I meant......to many MF's for me - ha!

 

[thewife]

Sorry - I didn't see this post until after I posted....

So, at what point in your marriage did you try this? After 10 years, I would BET!

Is that your wife in your avatar? If so, she's hot looking to be 40 (not that it's old...but I'm 24....so.....you know.......that's my Mom's age....her arse doesn't look that good )

I'm turning 40 next month and we've been married for 17 years...

 

[sikdogg]

We didn't try it 'til about 1.5-2 years ago, but talked about it for at least a year before actually doing anything.

Yes, that's her ass on my avatar... She looks real good for her age at 5'5" and 125lbs, people always think we're 10 years younger and have a hard time believing our actual age or that we have a 21 year old child.

We're very picky about the people we would even consider into our bed... We would rather do without then to get into bed with people we don't consider hot. We always require condoms when with other people and there is never an exchange of fluids (with few exceptions). We each have the final say (no questions asked) on whether the other half can have intimate contact with another person. If for any reason my wife doesn't want me to hook-up with a chick, i move on with no question on why. The same rule applies to my wife. This gives us some control over what happens and with who it happens so there are no jealousy issues.

 

[thewife]

Does she know that you Penis Enlargement? How does she handle that?

I have a similar tatoo in the same place as her.

Rock on! You sound like a really neat couple.

My fantacy threesome includes a very hot girl...so I know we would be picky. For me the bigger the boobs the better....my hubby is an ass man, so this chick will have to be damn near perfect

I can't believe you had a threesome w. her best friend. I can't IMAGINE that. My BF and hubby are like sis and bro - so it would be really, really weird to cross that line. Plus, she's a prude - she'd never do it

Thanks again.....

We didn't try it 'til about 1.5-2 years ago, but talked about it for at least a year before actually doing anything.

Yes, that's her ass on my avatar... She looks real good for her age at 5'5" and 125lbs, people always think we're 10 years younger and have a hard time believing our actual age or that we have a 21 year old child.

We're very picky about the people we would even consider into our bed... We would rather do without then to get into bed with people we don't consider hot. We always require condoms when with other people and there is never an exchange of fluids (with few exceptions). We each have the final say (no questions asked) on whether the other half can have intimate contact with another person. If for any reason my wife doesn't want me to hook-up with a chick, i move on with no question on why. The same rule applies to my wife. This gives us some control over what happens and with who it happens so there are no jealousy issues.

 

[sikdogg]

Does she know that you Penis Enlargement? How does she handle that?

Yes she knows... she thinks that i'm big enough and gets worried that it'll hurt too much if i get bigger, but i explained to her how much better it has been for her since i went from 5" girth to 6"... My length is long enough that if i go in hard too soon it's painfull for her. I just ease in with about half and wait 'til she asks for more.

She doesn't really object so i don't think she wants me to stop.

My fantacy threesome includes a very hot girl...so I know we would be picky. For me the bigger the boobs the better....my hubby is an ass man, so this chick will have to be damn near perfect

They're out there though... just make sure he has viagra if you do plan on trying it out. Men just can't go as long as women and with two women... twice to work.

I can't believe you had a threesome w. her best friend. I can't IMAGINE that. My BF and hubby are like sis and bro - so it would be really, really weird to cross that line. Plus, she's a prude - she'd never do it ....

Actually, my wife's best friend is like my girlfriend... they actually discussed her moving in with us in our spare room. She's the only woman that my wife will allow me to have sex with anytime without her knowledge.

 

[IXL]

Does she know that you Penis Enlargement? How does she handle that?
My BF and hubby are like sis and bro - so it would be really, really weird to cross that line. Plus, she's a prude - she'd never do it Thanks again.....

Hey thewife does your husband know about your...Oh, you mean Best Friend (BF) not Boy Friend (also BF). :s

 

[O'RileyColt]

I would with another woman. Men? Mmm, no + if he was bigger than me i'd go frigin nuts.

 

[nobody]

It's always interesting that guys have no problems with an FMF but object to a MFM... They want their cake but deprive their spouse of a similar experience. We feel that the whole experience is about both people enjoying the pleasures of sex, not just one...


You are like most women and are more open and have less hang-ups than most guys.


MMFF wouldn't work for most guys, but MFMF or MFFM does. Putting the two "M's" together suggests that the men will be interacting with each other.

You hit it right on the head with that post. In the sexual side of the relationship men are generally selfish not to mention insecure. They can't imagine another man with their wife/girlfriend because they automatically see the other man as a threat to their own "alpha" status. Turn the equation around as FMF and they just cant wait. Total double standard. If you're a truly secure man you get to lead a dream life like sikdogg.rofl

 

[thewife]

I really don't know if he would go for MFMF...never talked about that. And truthfully I never thought about it either. I always pictured FMF. And that is what we always talked about. I really don't know how comfortable I'd be with some strange man being in my bed. A woman just seems different and more pleasurable to me. I think being with a woman has always been a deep down fantacy for me....so in many ways the woman is more for me than him. He knows that.....and teases me about it all the time. BUT it would have to be one fine ass woman.......so it will probably never happen.

You hit it right on the head with that post. In the sexual side of the relationship men are generally selfish not to mention insecure. They can't imagine another man with their wife/girlfriend because they automatically see the other man as a threat to their own "alpha" status. Turn the equation around as FMF and they just cant wait. Total double standard. If you're a truly secure man you get to lead a dream life like sikdogg.rofl

 

[AlreadyPackin']

If you don't mind me asking AlreadyPackin' - how long have you been married?

I don't think my hubby could watch another guy with me either. Especially if I was enjoying it.....and then what would be the point .

We're still cooling off out of the oven. Just 9 months for us. She definitely wouldn't go for a threesome in either configuration. Nor would I. I am usually the only straight guy in the room who doesn't give a damn about two women making out. I just can't see what the big deal is. I don't like to uphold double standards anyway.

sikdogg--I see what you mean. I should have said supposed to be the ultimate expression of love. From a moral standpoint, you really shouldn't be having sex with someone you don't love, and from a responsibility stance, the same holds true. But having fun usually overrides both. I was very choosy about who I messed around with before I was married, but as I got more jaded and saw how being on the right side didn't necessarily mean squat, I loosened up a bit. I've still only ever had one 1-night stand, though, and I wish I hadn't messed with her. Should have went with the redhead.
I agree with you 1,000% on what you said about love. That's one area where my sticking to my principles helps me out. I don't change my views on being gay just because my uncle is, and I still love my wife even when she's throwing projectiles at me.

 

[Aiming for 8x6]

Hi thewife,

I know this post is a little old, but better late than never

I have had the FMF experience, actually on a much deeper level than the norm...my wife and I had joked (less and less seriously) for years about her having a "sister wife", not just for the sex by any means. As time went by, we realized that we were serious about the prospect, at which point I pointed out that I'd been attracted to her best friend since we met (I met them both around the same time). We talked to our friend, and she was open to dating me. The actual sexual experiences started out wonderfully, easily some of the hottest experiences I've ever had, not just because of the gender configuration (though I can't say I'd be interested in MFM, as, like your hubby, the only thing I'd get from it is watching some other guy with my wife and no "double team" action myself, as opposed to the FMF experience) but because of the emotional connection we had/were developing. Things got more serious, and she moved in with us. We all loved each other very deeply, but eventually it got out to my first wife's family and they put HUGE pressure on her to leave (we are relatively young, all in our 20's)...things got a bit rocky, and now, I am sad to say that I have lost her over all this. < My only consolation is that her best friend and I are still in love and want to stay together now. Though we still love each other and still act as family, we couldn't stay married in the face of the pressures and trust issues that the pressures produced.

Sorry, that went a bit longer than I'd expected. As for the purely sexual side of it, the only time I ever felt jealousy issues was when my first wife seemed to completely forget I was there (she is horrible at multitasking which I think is critical for this sort of encounter so that no one feels left out). Both of them seemed perfectly fine with sharing me, and I can say that I was able to go longer (we're talking typically 3-4 hour sessions w/o much break) with both of them there because seeing them both always roused me for more rofl

If you and your hubby can find a way to realize the fantasy, it can be very worthwhile...just make sure you're clear about the rules of engagement and emotional expectations later. I wish you luck!

(btw, if, after time passes, my first wife would be willing to try again, we'd both welcome her back )