Troubling emotions, could use some help.

Alright, here is a little background information and it is relevant, I promise. I am 18 years old, never had a girlfriend or a passionate kiss, I guess we will it that. I moved to a small town in Missouri from the huge city of Phoenix, Arizona. Moved here last July and I started college in August. So, me and this girl became friends early September. She is 25 and has a 3 year old child; so, I wasn't expecting a relationship. I was helping her with math and she would cook me dinner and shit. We would hang out all the time. There was always a little thing between us knowing we want to get in a relationship but knew it was a bad idea.

Months have passed and we keep hanging out more. Well about a week ago at school. This older women (around 40) was saying she thought we were married and all this junk. She kept saying we need to get in a relationship. I hadn't thought about that in awhile and now she brought those feelings back up. I told this girl that I couldn't hang out with her anymore because I couldn't fight the feelings anymore, she started crying. Well, I drove away crying like a bitch, I got like a block away then turned around back to her house. I went back inside and one thing led to another and I kissed her. I pulled out from the kiss midway but she was going to keep going.

Now for my dilemma. She is literally my only friend I see outside of school. She says she isn't ready but I know it's a lie. She is just scared of losing me because I am her best friend too. The same thing is going on with me. I really don't want to lose her as a friend. I know I should go with my heart and it says go for it but I have never been in a relationship yet and I am not sure if I really want to get with a girl 7 years older than me that has a kid. I really just have one questions for you guys. Have you ever been in this same situation and went for it? If you did end up breaking up, did you stay friends?

Feels weird putting this on a Penis Enlargement forum, haha.

Hey Apparitions, here's my 2 cents.

I personally haven't been in your situation however my brother has and currently is in your situation, okay he's a little older than yourself being 22 but I think there's a 7 or 8 year difference between them and she has more than one child. They tend to keep themselves to each other so in that respect are a little similar to yourself again. Now the thing to consider is that your still young, if It helps I'm 24 and It wasn't long ago I was your age. I was in a relationship for 6 years at your age and If I could turn back time I don't regret it.

Okay so back to my brother, well basically he met this lady out of school but she is one of his first proper girl friends so to speak. He's in love with her now and appears to be getting along well, the thing that he mentions to me is that he has had pretty much take the role of a parent for her children are you prepared to do that at some point? Although this won't come straight away but now they have been together for nearly 2 years it's kind of just happened. He now quite likes the role of helping out and stuff, this doesnt mean by any means that your going to be a new 'father' just the 3 yr old child will start to look upto you

I would suggest in my opinion if she's not ready do not rush her as of yet, use this time now to head out and make some friends and mix with people your own age too including girls. Now this might not always be easy to do agreed but ways to get to know people is through activities likes sports or hobbies, or just ask some people out for a chilled drink or two, get the ball rolling. After you start meeting friends both girls and guys, ask yourself do you still feel the same? if so go for it.

Having an older partner has both pros and cons, for instance she will have probably be more caring and mature especially as girls tend to be a little rocky through teenage years with regards to feelings etc, so in that respect she'll be a little more stable. The downside maybe that you might find your interested and care about different things, because of the age difference like you may want to go out party, she may have passed that era in her life.

If you decide just to be friends expect maybe it to hurt a little and things could be a little sour if both of you don't feel exactly the same deep down, YOU can become friends if both of you really want to, remember the best way to get over someone is to go out and meet other girls...

However if you do decide yes, take it easy my friend and don't rush because at the end of the day it isn't a race but an experience.

Regards, Puzzle.

I'm a big proponent of getting things out in the open. Discuss these issues with her; Hell, if you're gonna swap bodily fluids you may as well swap honest feelings and opinions.

Why don't the both of you agree right up front that no matter what happens you won't allow your genitals to make decisions before your brains do.
Personally, I see nothing wrong at all with a temporary relationship, as long as you both go into it with open eyes.
Enjoy each other to the fullest, that's one of the blessings of youth.

There's something sexy about discussing sex, too.

Just wrap that wrascal, make a lotta love-notta lotta babies!

Apparitions;542399 said:

Alright, here is a little background information and it is relevant, I promise. I am 18 years old, never had a girlfriend or a passionate kiss, I guess we will it that. I moved to a small town in Missouri from the huge city of Phoenix, Arizona. Moved here last July and I started college in August. So, me and this girl became friends early September. She is 25 and has a 3 year old child; so, I wasn't expecting a relationship. I was helping her with math and she would cook me dinner and shit. We would hang out all the time. There was always a little thing between us knowing we want to get in a relationship but knew it was a bad idea.

Months have passed and we keep hanging out more. Well about a week ago at school. This older women (around 40) was saying she thought we were married and all this junk. She kept saying we need to get in a relationship. I hadn't thought about that in awhile and now she brought those feelings back up. I told this girl that I couldn't hang out with her anymore because I couldn't fight the feelings anymore, she started crying. Well, I drove away crying like a bitch, I got like a block away then turned around back to her house. I went back inside and one thing led to another and I kissed her. I pulled out from the kiss midway but she was going to keep going.

Now for my dilemma. She is literally my only friend I see outside of school. She says she isn't ready but I know it's a lie. She is just scared of losing me because I am her best friend too. The same thing is going on with me. I really don't want to lose her as a friend. I know I should go with my heart and it says go for it but I have never been in a relationship yet and I am not sure if I really want to get with a girl 7 years older than me that has a kid. I really just have one questions for you guys. Have you ever been in this same situation and went for it? If you did end up breaking up, did you stay friends?

Feels weird putting this on a Penis Enlargement forum, haha.

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either the reasons why you were not together in first place are valid or not. if not be with her.

it is best to keep all things in the relationship in the light. ..whenever there's something hidden because the separation between the two people. If you choose to go about a relationship for their secret I think you're asking for trouble. For me is always been back to tell the truth be open and completely honest with whoever a min relationship with. In my own experience people that is hidden things from me when I find out I become very angry feel very betrayed. I think it best just to be open honest this way they know you for who you are and you know them for who they are.

We had a talk about it and she is just not ready. She just recently got out of a relationship. She can just tell me when she is ready or is giving me the signs. I am not going to wait for her though. If I see another opportunity, I will be going for it.

maybe she doesn't want a relationship but a sexual partner, with due time it might become serious, u never know.

Hey gals need to get their ashes hauled just like a guy does. Talk it over, in "the guessing game" people frequently guess wrong.

Apparitions;542587 said:

We had a talk about it and she is just not ready. She just recently got out of a relationship. She can just tell me when she is ready or is giving me the signs. I am not going to wait for her though. If I see another opportunity, I will be going for it.

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All2Real;542608 said:

maybe she doesn't want a relationship but a sexual partner, with due time it might become serious, u never know.

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That could be the case so the question would be is a relationship desired and would a one night fling be worth it?

That could be the case so the question would be is a relationship desired and would a one night fling be worth it?

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Exactly

Honestly, you might call me a girl for this but I care more about relationships then sex. I don't think you should have sex with anyone you are not in a relationship with and care about them.

Hey, I've had some incredible relationships that were only a day or two long.
As long as this is what both, or all, folks agree to and support, then nobody's feelings get hurt and you can/we have throw yourselves at enjoying yourselves with complete abandon.

Walk away as fully satisfied friends and keeping lots of long, loving memories.
That's just another reason I'm such a big fan of clearly communicating.

Besides, what you say, when you say and how you say it can be pretty damn erotic too,

Apparitions;543137 said:

Honestly, you might call me a girl for this but I care more about relationships then sex. I don't think you should have sex with anyone you are not in a relationship with and care about them.

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I don't have anything against anybody that feels otherwise. It is just the way I am.