Told wife about my PE and now she is diagusted with me

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The title says it all really. I'm a honest guy and my wife was away with her family for 4 months and came back home recently. During that time I got into PE and it's improved my mental healthy and made me respect my unit a lot more. The problem is she can't handle me doing PE. Thinks it's pointless and now after going into the bathroom like she told me to do after an argument one day she is mad and now pissed off after I did a pump session. I guess some of the lube got on the handle as I came out of the bathroom to wash my mityvac cylinder and to wash my hands up. I didn't notice the lube on the door handle and she was disinfecting everything in the house because she suffers from severe mental problems related to OCD triggered by too many things to mention. Anyways after she asking what that was on the door I sat there for minute drawing blanks and then told her it must be from the lube I used.

Now she doesn't want to live with me and wants to move back yo her parents. Her illness has escalated since Covid19 and when her grandma passed early 2020 it made it worse. We have health care and she can seek mental health but she comes up with excuses as to why it won't work or why it's a waste of time. While I have to bow down to every single order she commands of me otherwise she will go into a 3-6 day deep depression where she will ignore me and act like I don't exist. It's difficult because even when I get emotionally overloaded she discounts it as nothing and I need to feel bad because I'm the one responsible for setting her tics off where she goes in a cleaning frenzy.

Sorry, I know this forum isn't really the place but as a fellow man I'm just at my wits end and I don't know how much verbal abuse I can take from her sickness that ruins the beautiful wife I know outside of her sickness.
 
This can be put in any form and it would still be the proper place, everybody should see this and read this and advise you on this. I can relate to you 100%, my last girlfriend left me for the same reasons. I’m gonna say something about myself and her and this does not mean it applies to you and your wife I’m just giving you my experience. She was toxic, sick, unstable and completely irrational. The best thing I ever did was kick her the out.

in your situation I’m not sure of all the details but my advice for you would go out like this. If you love her and she’s happy with the size you have then I would just not do PE to save the relationship. But if it goes beyond this and it gets into deeper issues I highly recommend seeing a therapist for couples. And if that doesn’t work you’ve exhausted every avenue it may be time to take a break and see if this helps.

but above all things in this the most important thing to do is to pray to God for direction and for strength. I will be praying for you and I’m sure many of the other brothers will be doing the same that you’re able to find with the best possible solution for you and your wife is.
 
her sickness is your sickness and, unfortunately, you've co-opted her feelings/emotions (it's a very 'male trait' as we're her to fix things). I'm guessing she sensed that you've become more in-tune and respectful of yourself while she was away for that length of time...you've essentially disrupted her 'status-quo' and her OCD only exacerbates the (mis)behavior. At some point you'll have to come to the conclusion that it's either her happiness (which you will NEVER be able to provide) or yours, (which you have utter control over)...once you've made the inevitable choice, it's time to live with the consequences.
Best of luck...this is a tough one
 
Big Schwanz Acht said:
her sickness is your sickness and, unfortunately, you've co-opted her feelings/emotions (it's a very 'male trait' as we're her to fix things). I'm guessing she sensed that you've become more in-tune and respectful of yourself while she was away for that length of time...you've essentially disrupted her 'status-quo' and her OCD only exacerbates the (mis)behavior. At some point you'll have to come to the conclusion that it's either her happiness (which you will NEVER be able to provide) or yours, (which you have utter control over)...once you've made the inevitable choice, it's time to live with the consequences.
Best of luck...this is a tough one
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Great advice. I hope he comes back and lets us know if we were able to help him
 
LONGERDICK7+ said:
How many times Good men,Good women have to deal with people that's only giving them a hard time ?.
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Sometimes things are best kept in the brotherhood. I think it’s a dangerous thing to involve your wife in your PE. It destroyed my relationship and I know many other people who have had their relationships destroyed because of it.
 
My wife doesn't like me doing PE either. She is worried that I will hurt her. It's a fine line on too much. Going into this I set what I think are reasonable goals. Appx 3/4 - 1 inch length and girth after recovering what I lost over the years with age. . My second goal was to get rid of the turtling as much as possible. I wish my Erect L would catch up to my Flaccid stretched L.
 
DLD said:
Sometimes things are best kept in the brotherhood. I think it’s a dangerous thing to involve your wife in your PE. It destroyed my relationship and I know many other people who have had their relationships destroyed because of it.
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That's really sad that PE can destroy relationships. 😞

But really good thread I think. It got me to think about the, relationship dynamics between man and woman.

I agree with that things are best kept in the brotherhood. I don't think women are going to understand PE, maybe when they discover how good a bigger penis feels, but not before. But I don't know.

Some women may be positive to PE, and let the man do as he likes. But I think you need to show your full "weirdness" (be you fully) at the start of the relationship, and do what you do. And she gets in cooperated in your life. She accepts you for you, and are secure with you being the leader in the relationship. You two work together to make everything work.

But in a relationship where the woman are the leader and for example, yell at you to do things around the house, I don't think that dynamic is optimal, for a solid and longterm relationship between a man and a woman. The man are not going to like that, it will feel like a prison. When I have seen this controlling and bossy personality with a woman, I have just left her. I don't even have sex with her, I'm this particular of this rule. That is: Do not get involved with a bossy woman.
That may sound hard to you, but I will not be with someone, if I can't be happy and myself in that relationship.

This is also the reason that it's not a good idea, for a man to move into a women's place. The risk for her to boss you around is to great. But that may or may not be the case. But I think you will not be the master of your kingdom (your place).
I like a feminine woman, not a woman that behave with dominance and/or narcissistic tendencies. That's not for me. If they think possessions are the most important things in life, that's not for me either.

I meet a girl that I felt immediately, was this kind of bossy woman. She cleaned the floors to much. She even made me almost destroy the engine off my car, for her to get on a train on time. She didn't respect me. She didn't knew what time was. She cleaned the floors so that, she almost missed the train. If I hadn't broken the speed limit, she would have missed the train.
I was a simp back then.

She would not have tolerated me doing PE in the living room. Because she was not tolerating me. Maybe if you got a big house and your own "man cave" you can keep it a secret? Maybe that's the solution? A man cave where you are the only one with access to it. She can't even clean in there. No access whatsoever.

Not to be negative or anything (I don't like to be negative). But I don't see myself getting into a relationship before accomplish my main PE goals, which are: BPEL: 8"; EG: 6".
I don't understand how you could possibly keep PE a secret, maybe if you liver in different homes, but if you live in the same home? I don't understand how you possibly could keep it a secret? I think the only choice are a man cave.

- But maybe this means that's hard to combine a relationship with PE? 🤔

I imagine myself getting into a relationship with a woman, we sleep in the same bed the first night. And in the morning at, 04:30 am, I start my hairdryer with earmuffs on my head, and start doing bundled stretches for warm-ups, with my broomstick, and she wakes up and sees all that.

I wonder what she may think? 😂
I think she would love that. If not, I show her where the door are... that's it.
I'm not desperate for a relationship.
I think if you are that, you will find yourself in relationships you are not happy in.
But at the same way, relationships mean you need to make compromises to each other, to make it work.
So this kind of questions/topics are hard to figure out.

There is not a correct solution to this. But to have a bossy woman can't be the answer.

I wonder what happened to @Qonrad did his relationship last? I hope he is at least happy with himself today.
 
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squirt_inducer_man said:
That's really sad that PE can destroy relationships. 😞

But really good thread I think. It got me to think about the, relationship dynamics between man and woman.

I agree with that things are best kept in the brotherhood. I don't think women are going to understand PE, maybe when they discover how good a bigger penis feels, but not before. But I don't know.

Some women may be positive to PE, and let the man do as he likes. But I think you need to show your full "weirdness" (be you fully) at the start of the relationship, and do what you do. And she gets in cooperated in your life. She accepts you for you, and are secure with you being the leader in the relationship. You two work together to make everything work.

But in a relationship where the woman are the leader and for example, yell at you to do things around the house, I don't think that dynamic is optimal, for a solid and longterm relationship between a man and a woman. The man are not going to like that, it will feel like a prison. When I have seen this controlling and bossy personality with a woman, I have just left her. I don't even have sex with her, I'm this particular of this rule. That is: Do not get involved with a bossy woman.
That may sound hard to you, but I will not be with someone, if I can't be happy and myself in that relationship.

This is also the reason that it's not a good idea, for a man to move into a women's place. The risk for her to boss you around is to great. But that may or may not be the case. But I think you will not be the master of your kingdom (your place).
I like a feminine woman, not a woman that behave with dominance and/or narcissistic tendencies. That's not for me. If they think possessions are the most important things in life, that's not for me either.

I meet a girl that I felt immediately, was this kind of bossy woman. She cleaned the floors to much. She even made me almost destroy the engine off my car, for her to get on a train on time. She didn't respect me. She didn't knew what time was. She cleaned the floors so that, she almost missed the train. If I hadn't broken the speed limit, she would have missed the train.
I was a simp back then.

She would not have tolerated me doing PE in the living room. Because she was not tolerating me. Maybe if you got a big house and your own "man cave" you can keep it a secret? Maybe that's the solution? A man cave where you are the only one with access to it. She can't even clean in there. No access whatsoever.

Not to be negative or anything (I don't like to be negative). But I don't see myself getting into a relationship before accomplish my main PE goals, which are: BPEL: 8"; EG: 6".
I don't understand how you could possibly keep PE a secret, maybe if you liver in different homes, but if you live in the same home? I don't understand how you possibly could keep it a secret? I think the only choice are a man cave.

- But maybe this means that's hard to combine a relationship with PE? 🤔

I imagine myself getting into a relationship with a woman, we sleep in the same bed the first night. And in the morning at, 04:30 am, I start my hairdryer with earmuffs on my head, and start doing bundled stretches for warm-ups, with my broomstick, and she wakes up and sees all that.

I wonder what she may think? 😂
I think she would love that. If not, I show her where the door are... that's it.
I'm not desperate for a relationship.
I think if you are that, you will find yourself in relationships you are not happy in.
But at the same way, relationships mean you need to make compromises to each other, to make it work.
So this kind of questions/topics are hard to figure out.

There is not a correct solution to this. But to have a bossy woman can't be the answer.

I wonder what happened to @Qonrad did his relationship last? I hope he is at least happy with himself today.
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The only way I can do PE and still have a woman In my life is if I date women in their 40s. Divorced women precisely. I will only fuck them in their house only and I won't spend much time with them. But even that is a distraction. Working on length and girth on the same day makes it difficult to date a lady.

Just like you, I used to be a simp before but not anymore and ever since I took the redpill, pussy has become scarce for me because I no longer spend money to get pussy unlike before.

This has helped me to stay focus on my life purpose in general.
 
huge-girth said:
The only way I can do PE and still have a woman In my life is if I date women in their 40s. Divorced women precisely. I will only fuck them in their house only and I won't spend much time with them. But even that is a distraction. Working on length and girth on the same day makes it difficult to date a lady.

Just like you, I used to be a simp before but not anymore and ever since I took the redpill, pussy has become scarce for me because I no longer spend money to get pussy unlike before.

This has helped me to stay focus on my life purpose in general.
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The red pill is a good one to take, it's exactly as in the move: The Matrix.

When you take the red-pill:
A new paradigm of thoughts, believes and oppertunities open up before you, things that have been right in front of you this entire time, but you could not see it before...
 
squirt_inducer_man said:
The red pill is a good one to take, it's exactly as in the move: The Matrix.

When you take the red-pill:
A new paradigm of thoughts, believes and oppertunities open up before you, things that have been right in front of you this entire time, but you could not see it before...
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I'm so happy for my life. A lot of men all over the world are allowing their women to Lord over them, yell at them. If I were to be in their shoes, I will gently drift away from the relationship.
 
DON'T TELL!
 
I was honest about PE from the beginning but I also didn’t have to deal with all that toxic behavior. My wife didn’t think it was necessary and she was right but she understood it was something I wanted. Fast forward almost 2 years and she does my official measurements and regularly asks “how’s that big cock doing?”. I know it’s ego stroking but I still appreciate it. I still find it awkward to do my hanging in front of her but when I do she’s not as freaked out about it as she was in the beginning.
 
squirt_inducer_man said:
That's really sad that PE can destroy relationships. 😞

But really good thread I think. It got me to think about the, relationship dynamics between man and woman.

I agree with that things are best kept in the brotherhood. I don't think women are going to understand PE, maybe when they discover how good a bigger penis feels, but not before. But I don't know.

Some women may be positive to PE, and let the man do as he likes. But I think you need to show your full "weirdness" (be you fully) at the start of the relationship, and do what you do. And she gets in cooperated in your life. She accepts you for you, and are secure with you being the leader in the relationship. You two work together to make everything work.

But in a relationship where the woman are the leader and for example, yell at you to do things around the house, I don't think that dynamic is optimal, for a solid and longterm relationship between a man and a woman. The man are not going to like that, it will feel like a prison. When I have seen this controlling and bossy personality with a woman, I have just left her. I don't even have sex with her, I'm this particular of this rule. That is: Do not get involved with a bossy woman.
That may sound hard to you, but I will not be with someone, if I can't be happy and myself in that relationship.

This is also the reason that it's not a good idea, for a man to move into a women's place. The risk for her to boss you around is to great. But that may or may not be the case. But I think you will not be the master of your kingdom (your place).
I like a feminine woman, not a woman that behave with dominance and/or narcissistic tendencies. That's not for me. If they think possessions are the most important things in life, that's not for me either.

I meet a girl that I felt immediately, was this kind of bossy woman. She cleaned the floors to much. She even made me almost destroy the engine off my car, for her to get on a train on time. She didn't respect me. She didn't knew what time was. She cleaned the floors so that, she almost missed the train. If I hadn't broken the speed limit, she would have missed the train.
I was a simp back then.

She would not have tolerated me doing PE in the living room. Because she was not tolerating me. Maybe if you got a big house and your own "man cave" you can keep it a secret? Maybe that's the solution? A man cave where you are the only one with access to it. She can't even clean in there. No access whatsoever.

Not to be negative or anything (I don't like to be negative). But I don't see myself getting into a relationship before accomplish my main PE goals, which are: BPEL: 8"; EG: 6".
I don't understand how you could possibly keep PE a secret, maybe if you liver in different homes, but if you live in the same home? I don't understand how you possibly could keep it a secret? I think the only choice are a man cave.

- But maybe this means that's hard to combine a relationship with PE? 🤔

I imagine myself getting into a relationship with a woman, we sleep in the same bed the first night. And in the morning at, 04:30 am, I start my hairdryer with earmuffs on my head, and start doing bundled stretches for warm-ups, with my broomstick, and she wakes up and sees all that.

I wonder what she may think? 😂
I think she would love that. If not, I show her where the door are... that's it.
I'm not desperate for a relationship.
I think if you are that, you will find yourself in relationships you are not happy in.
But at the same way, relationships mean you need to make compromises to each other, to make it work.
So this kind of questions/topics are hard to figure out.

There is not a correct solution to this. But to have a bossy woman can't be the answer.

I wonder what happened to @Qonrad did his relationship last? I hope he is at least happy with himself today.
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I'm on the same page as you regarding relationship status. Honestly, I think it's nonsense if they get upset, the main voice of todays society is, majority of girls would choose big cocks hands down. They say, it ain't the size of the boat, it's the motion of the ocean. Let's be real, if two guys had equal attributes except one had a larger cock, I guarantee the girl would rather stay with the guy who had the larger cock. So, I'd rather have the bonus of being hung and being good in bed, rather than sacrificing one or the other. If it's possible to have both, it seems like a no brainer for me to just do the PE as well
 
M33kGainz said:
I'm on the same page as you regarding relationship status. Honestly, I think it's nonsense if they get upset, the main voice of todays society is, majority of girls would choose big cocks hands down. They say, it ain't the size of the boat, it's the motion of the ocean. Let's be real, if two guys had equal attributes except one had a larger cock, I guarantee the girl would rather stay with the guy who had the larger cock. So, I'd rather have the bonus of being hung and being good in bed, rather than sacrificing one or the other. If it's possible to have both, it seems like a no brainer for me to just do the PE as well
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So true
 
I'm with MoreHunger on this one; my wife was pretty much the same way. She was like "I think your size is totally fine and the sex is top shelf, but I'm certainly not going to be repulsed at gains, just don't get TOO big to where you can't get in me anymore". And I highly doubt that will be a problem; I pop out too often. More importantly I gotta make sure I have the best dick of all our partners in this polyamorous journey of ours.
But we were talking the other day and we likened it to tits. It's an old argument, that dicks are about as important as tits; big ones are sexy but not the most important thing. But it's true there are a lot of women who are ashamed of the size of their tits to the point of feeling really bad about themselves. And that's a bad thing because it's up to us to teach them that they are entitled to just as free of a sexual lifestyle.
 
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I will never let a woman dictate my P.E.. “my body my choice”, the same shit they’ll hit u with when they do WHATEVER they want..they don’t ask permission so why should a man? Like I said before women come and go, they will never be supportive of P.E. And will always try to find ways to bash it.. just how I see it.. but at the end of the day YOU have to live with your size! Not HER!! If she feels threatened bc you do P.E. Thats HER problem..men have to stop allowing women to project this bullshit and dictate our quality of life! I honestly think they KNOW that once their man has an even bigger penis he will be unstoppable in the sexual market place(more potential partners) whether he decides to fuck around or be faithful the fact still remains that NOW that he’s bigger, he is even MORE attractive and less able to be tamed.. bottom line SHE wants to control the relationship( basic power dynamic) and that’s why I think women feel threatened by P.E..
I mean why else wouldn’t she support something that’s GOING to benefit HER!?…
Control…
My point exactly!
 
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